d2darow Posted August 27, 2008 Posted August 27, 2008 Hey there... I have been going with the NC approach. No contact whatsoever. But I have to admit, it is REALLY tough!!! There are just so much memories... When a song starts playing, it brings back memories of her... Or if it's a place I go that she and I went to before... As much as I try to push the memories away, it's to no avail. The songs, the places we been.. The stuff we used to do together. It's killing me on the inside. I'm solid on the surface, but I'm crumbling within...
xpaperxcutx Posted August 27, 2008 Posted August 27, 2008 Ever heard that song " F- you" by Eamon? Listen to it for a bit... maybe it will help.
BCCA Posted August 27, 2008 Posted August 27, 2008 For the next couple months, just avoid anything you can that reminds you of her. I still change the radio and avoid going places that I know Im not ready to deal with yet. The problem is that there is always emotional attachments to things like that, and you have to avoid them until you arent so emmotional. Even if they still mean something, eventually it wont make you sad. Take everthing that you have around that in any way reminds you of her, and put them in a box in the closet until you're ready to deal with them. If a song comes on the radio that reminds you of her, change it or turn it off immediately. If you arent ready to go to a certain resturant or store yet, don't. Eventually, these feelings will fade, and it wont sting so much.
Ruff Ryder Posted August 27, 2008 Posted August 27, 2008 Its been years since I was last on this site, I have just gone through a break up - so I know what your feeling and I have to say time is all thats gonna help you here, its a harsh truth and hurts loads but it does heal. Some times things are better the way they are than the way there were. Its a cold harsh truth - but when you look at a relationship as learning and growing and not winning and losing it helps, casue every memorie you have happened for a reason my friend. Its hard to see these things now I know but it helps to know that you are recovering second by second. Give it time - and I know thats not what you want to hear but its all thats gonna help, I agree with the other post stay away from the things that hurt you till you ready again. I hope that this help's - just move forward not backwards and get ready for someone better to enter your life soon.... You will never replace your ex or the momories so dont try but bigger and better things will happen my friend. Peace and if you need any more help holla.
nowhereman82 Posted August 27, 2008 Posted August 27, 2008 I've been told to just embrace the feeling it gives you....and each time it will just get easier and lose meaning.
LateBloomer Posted August 27, 2008 Posted August 27, 2008 I'd say embrace the memories and sadness when you can, and if it feels healthy. If you feel you're getting stuck, do all that you can to try and move on. Self improvement is the best medicine both short and long term. I know it may be of little consolation sometimes, but it's true. I look at the memory onslaught (what some call euphoric recollection) like a thunderstorm I just have to wait out. You may feel that too. I've also found that TONS of physical exercise helps immensely.
lovestruck818 Posted August 27, 2008 Posted August 27, 2008 Ever heard that song " F- you" by Eamon? Listen to it for a bit... maybe it will help. hah- actually my best friend's boyfriend is good friends with eamon- I met him once, cool guy. That song is like amazingly popular overseas...
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