paxchris Posted August 27, 2008 Posted August 27, 2008 A few weeks back I met a girl - she seemed cool, we had a lot in common and a lot to talk about and seemed like some good chemistry was going on. I invited her to a group event with some of my friends - which she was busy with one thing or another, but later I asked her out on a date... it took her a day or two to get back to me but she seemed happy and interested in going. She could have totally thought of it as hanging out as friends, I'm not sure. We hung out, it was nice. I sent a text the next day and she wrote back shortly after saying she had a great time. I didn't hear from her for awhile after that (a week?) but contacted her again and asked her to hang out. Again, it took her awhile to reply, but when she did she agreed to get together. It seemed to go well, for the most part... After wards she said we should hang out again soon. I said that sounded good and to get in touch with me whenever she wanted to get together again. (At this point, I was the one always making the contact, and noticing the delayed responses on her part, so I decided to let her take action if she's interested.) That was about a week ago, I haven't heard from her since... I think I already know the answer to this question, but is it safe to assume she is just not interested? I mean, there is no reason to hold onto any hope otherwise, right? I know rejection happens all the time, it's hard not to take it personally, though It's also sort of funny that unattainable people seem to suddenly be the most attractive!
pandagirl Posted August 27, 2008 Posted August 27, 2008 I feel like she was mildly interested, but then she just lost interest at some point. Seriously, don't take it personally, even though I know it's hard not to. I went on a date tonight with a guy, who likes me, but I'm just not interested at all. He is a totally nice person though and there is nothing wrong with him. It's just like pizza, some people like it with pineapples, some with anchovies. People just have their own preferred tastes, but it doesn't mean pineapples or anchovies don't taste good to others. God, that was a pathetic analogy!
sinlovehurts Posted August 27, 2008 Posted August 27, 2008 She might not be interested.... If I were interested, coming from a girl's point of view, I would take action by the amount of contact and initiation you're already giving her. Like you said, let her take action if she's interested. But, I don't think she is...
Lucasarts Posted August 27, 2008 Posted August 27, 2008 she may be interestd. . .i mean its up to you if u want to pursue her till the end. . .some girls LOVE being pursued and refuse to initiate contact (tho once contacted they will respond) by putting the ball in her court. . .you may have turned her off until you call again its still a fledgling relationship (not really friends, but not really acquaintances) so the risks are minimal as well as the reward right now. but what have you got to lose?
xpaperxcutx Posted August 27, 2008 Posted August 27, 2008 She wasn't interested in you but did like the fact to get invited to places. She didn't have any plans so she decided to hang out with you as compensation for lack of things to do.
JoeNewbie Posted August 27, 2008 Posted August 27, 2008 I personally never tell a girl "call me if you want to do something". I always keep it neutral and a good example is what she did ("we should hang out again some time"). I think she might like you but you are providing no details on how the dates went. Conversation? Flirting? Eye contact? If you've been out twice and haven't openly flirted with her, I think she might be a bit bored.
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