Situation, not ex related.

[v33]

Hey folks, it's been a while since I have been around here. Quick update : haven't seen or heard from the ex in quite some time, don't really think about her at all and generally busy with life and work and building a great relationship with a person who is a perfect match for me. Using all I have learned from the break up and from soul searching and the fine folks here, I must say that things are going wonderfully.

 

Ok, so here is the issue....

 

My female roommate has been nothing but a trouble maker and pain in my ass since she moved in. I was desperate for a roommate when my ex left and I should have known better than to ask this chick to move in, but she said everything would be cool, we would be all buddy buddy etc.

 

Things were fine for a week until I started going out and living my life, dating a bit, not coming home, etc. She started off bitching about how I was never around and she was bored, and accusing me of "not being there for her when she was upset" but the only thing she ever seemed to be upset about was me not being around. The more she pushed the more time I spent away. Once I started seeing someone regularly I pretty much never spent any time at the place anymore. The one time the roommate met my g/f she acted like a complete bitch and said some really inappropriate things. After that I told her that I would plan to move out before the end of the year.

 

Well the time has come and I told her today that I was moving out in two months. It's pointless for me to pay rent for a place I am never at anymore. She freaked, started off about how she is so ****ed over, will never be able to find a new roommate (I am the only one on the lease, she sublets from me and I offered to set it up so she can take over the place when I am gone, just paying the current landlord month to month). I told her that she has a good job and two months and should be able to find someone, then she made the attacks personal. Saying I am needy and jumping into a new relationship too fast, I am oblivious, insensitive etc, etc.

 

Now I know where all this is coming from and that isn't really the point. The fact of the matter is I have made a decision as an adult to move and have given MORE than the legal notice required and offered to help, but she is making this VERY personal. I suppose it's not a huge deal as I am never home anyways and it's futile to try and make her be reasonable.

 

I learned from the break-up with my ex that you can't make anyone else do or feel anything. So I suppose I will just have to accept her being pissed off and listen to her rants until I am gone. It's funny, I can see her acting like I did towards my ex when she left me. Petty insults, claiming to only be looking out for the other person when really you have your own selfish agenda etc. Amazing how you see your behavior in a new light after some personal growth.

 

Ok so I guess this is more of a rant than a question. Haha, thanks for letting me vent.

[A CHICK WITH TEETH]

WOW V33. Does this chick have the hots for you or something?? She sounds more like a jealous g/f than a "roomate"...

[v33]

That's the root of the matter, and unfortunately I chose to ignore any problems that I thought that would cause when I asked her to move in. I accept that I did make a mistake in that regard, but even after months she refuses to let it go. I've tried to be as reasonable and considerate as possible but it never seems to help.

[A CHICK WITH TEETH]

Maybe I missed something.Did you have something going at one time?

[v33]

There is ANCIENT history, long before the move in, and it was always understood back in the day that it was a one time thing. She swore up and down that it was not going to be an issue as we had been friends since. Obviously it is. As I said, should have known better, but she was very convincing when she said it would be NO PROBLEM. Oh well.

[A CHICK WITH TEETH]

Ahhhh I see.

Yeah..I would be annoyed too.

Does not sound like it's going to be a very pleasant two months..LOL