I don't like other women and i'm trying to not be such a bitch

[pinkandblack]

I'm always irratated. I've always gotten along better with guys. My boyfriend always gets along better with girls. Most of of his friends are pretty cool. Everytime a new girl/woman comes over with one of our friends i'm instantly in a bad mood i dont care if she is drop dead gorgeous or not attractive at all i just want her to go away. I just can't stand girls. It's stupid any advice, besides not be a bitch. I'm trying to find a way to give the ususpecting future female guests a chance to be around and me to get to know them, give them a chance instead of the ussual instant get the hell outa my house feeling.

[PandorasBox]

Do you have any idea why you feel the way you do about other women? Did some female at some point in your life hurt you in some way to possibly make you feel that way?

[norajane]

Fake it 'til you make it. When someone you don't know arrives, smile, be a polite, gracious hostess, and make her feel welcome. Being friendly will allow the other person the chance to get to know you, and you them.

 

They say just the act of smiling makes us feel better even when we don't feel good, so just smile and act like you are happy.

 

The longer term solution, of course, lies within you and with whatever the reason is that you dislike other girls. I hope that you can figure this out, because female friendships add so much richness and warmth to a woman's life. It would be a shame for you to miss out on that forever.

[Trialbyfire]

This must center around something that's happened in your life, in the past. Did you have a competitive or bad relationship with a sister or possibly a domineering or doormat mother? Did you grow up with a father who disliked women?

 

Maybe you could list the qualities that you find positive in men and what you find negative in women. Then reverse the roles.

[whichwayisup]

Hmm, what would you tell your bf if he felt the same way you do, but with your male friends.

 

Deal with it. Women are people too ya know.

 

I wonder if there's an intimidation or insecurity feeling that makes you repel against being around other women? Or maybe the opposite, you think you're better than them? No harm is meant by me saying this, just trying to understand WHY you hate females so much.

[Capricciosa]

Get professional help, from a female therapist who can handle all your projections and help you sort through them as they arise.

[annieo]

Try to remember, you're a woman, too.

If there is something you dislike about all women, regardless of looks, race, age, etc., then it is most probably that there is something you hate about yourself being shunted onto others.

It's not unheard of for people in a "minority" group to have self-loathing issues. And women qualify, due to centuries of oppression and marginalization, which have only recently begun to lift off.

People who have these issues often project their disgust onto others of their group, while somehow shielding themselves from identification with this group, of which they undeniably belong.

I could be wrong.

[georgejungle]

You like guys around, you don't like girls around.

As a reader, it almost seems like you're threatened somehow

by their presence because you want to be the only girl

in the room, like you're better than those girls, like "these

girls are just so stupid, they try too hard, unlike me"...Kinda

like you have women all figured out, so you imediately hate

all other women, other than yourself.

 

I'm not saying that's the case, it's just what i kinda get from

this.

 

You have this pre-assumption that you're going to hate them

and that you'll have to deal with all their "fake" crap & act nice,

or whatever. So you don't even try to meet them, you just get

annoyed and in a bad mood.

 

Knock it off, is all i can say. Give them a chance. Don't hate

just because. it's not cool.

[I Luv the Chariot OH]

Sounds like jealousy!