D-D Posted August 26, 2008 Posted August 26, 2008 I have worked with a girl at my job for about 7 months. We have a lot in common as we are roughly the same age, both single, religious, both have lost a parent, and we both want to get married and have kids. Only real difference between us is I am Catholic and she is Mormon. I wouldn't say that we are die-hard religious, but we both go to church and try to follow our religions for the most part. She follows the moromon faith and doesn't drink alcohol or caffeine (something I obviosly don't do). One of the other guys at work has always bugged me about when I'm going to ask her out, claiming that we are perfect for each other (due to the above similarities). He claims that he "knows that she would go out with me" if I asked. Not sure if she told him this or if he is just trying to be encouraging. I think she likes me. I always get a big smile and a hello when I see her and she seems to be pretty touchy with me. I walked into work the other day and she started rubbing my right shoulder when I said hi. She has come up behind me and touched me on the shoulders and sorta started massaging me before. She also seems to give me a friendly tap on the back when she passes me. Not sure if this is some kind of flirting or if she does this to everyone (other co-workers say she doesn't ever touch them). I am definately attracted to her (she is incredibly beautiful and a wonderful person), but I am not sure it would work out. For one thing the religion thing will be hard to work out if it becomes serious (i.e. marriage & kids). There are a lot of differences between the Catholic and Mormon faiths and lifestyles. Second, it's a work relationship, so if it doesn't work out it will be akward (though we actually don't see each other much at work as we are in different areas). I've been struggling with whether it is worth trying something here or if I should look elsewhere? I hate being single and I really don't meet people or go on dates often so I'd hate to pass up this oportunity on the off-chance it turns into something great. If we were both Catholics (or a more mainstream christian religion) I would have asked her out long ago. Just looking for some feedback. Should I bother asking her out and see what happens or should I not ask her out as the relationship is risky and not likely to go anywhere serious??? Has anyone had a successful Catholic/Mormon relationship? Thanks!
daisypicker Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 Perhaps she doesn't feel as strongly about the faith issue as you do. Perhaps she would be fine raising her children Catholic, trusting that if they have an interest in the Mormon faith they can pursue this in their adult lives. The religions aren't that different. Don't they both share the same core values? I would ask her about this, in a casual way, before I wrote the whole thing off. I haven't seen a Catholic-Mormon relationship, but I know of a happy christian-Hindu one.
vascogirl Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 I once dated a co-worker,that quickly went sour! But your situation seems different
GPFan Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 Another serious consideration is would you two be able to continue working together or for the same company should the relationship sour.
Sahara84 Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 You don't have anything to lose. Maybe she's okay with the difference in religion.
lonelyandfrustrated Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 Religion aside...a wise man once said to me, "Don't pick up your chicks and your checks at the same place." Yeah, I'm a girl, but you don't forget something like that! lol. Sage advice.
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