hrtbroken99 Posted August 26, 2008 Posted August 26, 2008 has anyone heard from an ex that they maintained NC with after months? like 6 months or more or even years? if so what happened? what did they say/want?
Scooter25 Posted August 26, 2008 Posted August 26, 2008 My ex of four years tried to contact me many times after we broke up. I maintained the NC but she would either e-mail, call, or text me. After about four months of not speaking to her she texted me saying she understood how I didn't want to talk to her and wished me a Happy New Year. About three months later she sends me an e-mail saying she hasn't heard from in a while and just wanted to say hello. I still didn't contact her back. Finally I think she got it because its been over four months and I haven't heard from her since. Mind you I stopped contacting her about two months after we broke up and never returned any of her messages either but she still kept coming at me. So yes you may still hear from the ex. My problem was everytime I started to feel good about myself she would try to contact me and it drove me NUTS!!!.
0hpenelope Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 Find LS' search feature. Type in "foxh1234" I keep recommending his story to members. After all the pain that this guy went through, he finally got a satisfying finale. There are other examples as well, but his is the most recent one in mind. Other established members might chime in too. NC: it's for yourself. It's not a tool to use to make a past SO change their heart & minds.
Rich464 Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 yeah, this monday just gone my ex turned up at midnight after 6 months NC. After seeing that I'm still single and getting whatever she wanted by turning up at that god awful hour shes now promptly ignoring me again and I feel like a right idiot. Just because somenoe breaks NC after a long period doesn't mean its a good thing. I learnt that the hard way
giner8681 Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 My ex contacted me after 10 months of NC with the excuse to drop off two bikes that I had left at his house. It was hard at first and I was very forward with him and told him I didn't know if it was a good idea that we spoke. I was still getting over him. But we wound up talking on the phone once and while and then more often, until we were talking everyday over about a 2 month period and finally hung out. So, yes, they do contact you. But, may I make one suggestion...if your ex does contact you make sure that you are ready for whatever it may bring. He may not want to get back together and you may have to decide if you can handle just being friends. My ex has told me that he is not looking for any serious, and so right now I am ok with just being his friend and keeping this that way. Its funny because speaking with him and hanging out with him has brought a sense of closure and peace to me.
ioncebelieved Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 Find LS' search feature. Type in "foxh1234" I keep recommending his story to members. After all the pain that this guy went through, he finally got a satisfying finale. There are other examples as well, but his is the most recent one in mind. Other established members might chime in too. NC: it's for yourself. It's not a tool to use to make a past SO change their heart & minds. Not sure that I would call Fox's situation a satisfying finale... Seems to me, it was rough as he struggled some with it. I know it had to be tough!! Fox said he didn't want her back, but I think there was a small part of him that did. However, there just seemed to be more of him that did not want her back because MY MAN held onto his dignity. I do not recall all of his story, but I firmly believe people are entitled to one screw up unless it was so cold what they did to you. I remember she left him and moved in with another dude. That goes further than one screw up. I am talking about cheating because maybe you were not doing what you were suppose to as a committed partner in a relationship. Fox is truly an inspirational guy!!! He hurt and it showed, but he held strong in his ex's presence and broke down away from her view. His pride and dinity prevailed.
sedgwick Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 Yup. He called me after almost a year. Just wanted to chat with his old buddy. He seemed to have forgotten that our last conversation ended with me sobbing and telling him I loved him unconditionally, always, for exactly who he is. Just called up and gave me the hey-old-buddy-old-pal and then clammed up when I told him he really hurt me. I guess he thought I should just be over it and ready to shoot the sh*t. I reiterated to him that I loved him more than I'd ever loved anyone, and that I loved him unconditionally, but that it was all or nothing. He said, "I can't give all," and I told him okay thanks bye and hung up. That was the last I heard from him. A month later I sent him a text telling him again that I loved him always, for exactly who he is, and he totally ignored it. That was two months ago, and it's now been 14 months since he dumped me. I am crying, still, as I type this. I've never cried as much in my life as I have the last 14 months. It has been a complete nightmare. I had no idea I could survive this kind of pain. There will never be another, I will never love like this again, but apparently all the love I have to give is not enough that I should not be ignored and cast aside as if I don't exist. Oh well.
journey1 Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 "There will never be another, I will never love like this again, but apparently all the love I have to give is not enough that I should not be ignored and cast aside as if I don't exist. Oh well. " MY THOUGHTS EXACTLY!!!! YOU REALLY REMIND ME OF HOW PASSIONATE I AM ABOUT THE EX~ ITS AMAZING TO KNOW THAT OTHER PEOPLE EXPERIENCE THIS INSANE LOVE....WHICH AS I AM NOW DEFINING IT AS LUST THAT WENT WRONG. REAL LOVE WOULD HAVE MATURED AND FLOURISHED. THESE BOYS REALLY TURNED OUR REAL LOVE INTO THEIR EGO BOOST. THEY WILL MEET MY FRIEND KHARMA!
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