54288 Posted August 26, 2008 Posted August 26, 2008 its currently my 3rd year in college and ever since the end of first year, i've started liking this girl. Shes a pretty quiet person whos really smart, and she wouldn't volunteer for stuff even if she may know the answer and would just keep it to herself, although once she gets to know you she will open up more, cause shes really lively in classes with her friends while in other classes shes seems to day dream alot. When we first met in our first year we talked a few times but than near the end of the first year i started liking her and because of that i've found it harder and harder to talk to her. Like normally i can talk to a girl fairly easy, i was able to talk to her fairly easy too until the end of first year ever since than its been nearly impossible. Now whenever i try talking to her i just get nervous. Although our eyes do meet from time to time and in the randomest places like during a dance party, or just around campus but we wouldn't really greet each other, i have a feeling that she may also like me a little more than friendship... but it may also just be me trying to make myself feel better by saying that lol. But anyways can anyone help me approach her? Like anything would help, tips, how to get this courage to talk to her... anything , thanks in advance
nopainnogain Posted August 26, 2008 Posted August 26, 2008 Invite her out to some kind of group activity sometime. Like a party ,sports thing, live music Just be confident and approach her and say," hey me , so and so are going blah blahblah....would you like to go out with me"
Green Posted August 26, 2008 Posted August 26, 2008 Maybe you should read the book "the game" personaly I think alot of that pua stuff is bs but they have pretty good techniques for getting rid of whats called approach anxiety. Its sad that you have such anxiety around a girl you like, but if you remove yourself from the situation you'll see how silly and unfounded your fears really are... the worst case scenario is what you are doing right now... if you approach her at one of these dance parties and just start dancing with her and then kiss her even if she is completly grossed out and mad your still more of creep now... You really sound like a great guy so stop worrying about all the bad things that could happen and try something ... anything... you don't have to go up to her and say you like her... but you should go up to her and invite her to hang out at your place make it seem casual... or you could pertend to be having trouble in a subject and just randomly go up to her and say you heard she was good... then flirt .. . then kiss her... if theres chemistry you'll be fine... in the future please never let things like this go for so long.
Author 54288 Posted August 26, 2008 Author Posted August 26, 2008 hey thx for the suggestions, we have a dance coming up and imma try to ask her out, and i've talked to her again this week !! woot oh and about the book "the game" is it the one about the secrets of a pickup artist? there was alot of version i cant tell which one is the right one and that book seems interesting
Green Posted August 27, 2008 Posted August 27, 2008 hey thx for the suggestions, we have a dance coming up and imma try to ask her out, and i've talked to her again this week !! woot oh and about the book "the game" is it the one about the secrets of a pickup artist? there was alot of version i cant tell which one is the right one and that book seems interesting Yeah its one of those pua books, but its more of a novel then a how to book. Its a fun read and may help you relise how silly it is to have some girl you like and never really talk too. Do you have her number? if you do txt her tommorow to come hang out... waiting for a big even like a dance is pointless
Sinister Posted August 27, 2008 Posted August 27, 2008 its currently my 3rd year in college and ever since the end of first year, i've started liking this girl. Shes a pretty quiet person whos really smart, and she wouldn't volunteer for stuff even if she may know the answer and would just keep it to herself, although once she gets to know you she will open up more, cause shes really lively in classes with her friends while in other classes shes seems to day dream alot. When we first met in our first year we talked a few times but than near the end of the first year i started liking her and because of that i've found it harder and harder to talk to her. Like normally i can talk to a girl fairly easy, i was able to talk to her fairly easy too until the end of first year ever since than its been nearly impossible. Now whenever i try talking to her i just get nervous. Although our eyes do meet from time to time and in the randomest places like during a dance party, or just around campus but we wouldn't really greet each other, i have a feeling that she may also like me a little more than friendship... but it may also just be me trying to make myself feel better by saying that lol. But anyways can anyone help me approach her? Like anything would help, tips, how to get this courage to talk to her... anything , thanks in advance ...And you open the door and you step inside. We're inside our hearts. Now, imagine your pain as a white ball of healing light. That's right, it's your pain the pain itself is a ball of healing light. i don't think so This is your life Good to the last drop doesn't get any better than this This is your life, and it's ending one minute at a time. This isn't a seminar This isn't a weekend retreat Where you are now You can't even imagine what the bottom will be like Only after disaster can we be resurrected It's only after you've lost everything that you are free to do anything Nothing is static Everything is evolving Everything is falling apart This is your life It doesn't get any better than this This is your life And its ending one minute at a time [sIZE=2][/sIZE] You are not a beautiful and unique snowflake You are the same decaying organic matter as everything else We are all part of the same compost heap We are the all singing, all dancing crap of the world You are not your bank account You are not the clothes you wear You are not the contents of your wallet You are not your bowel cancer You are not your grande latte? You are not the car you drive You are not your ****ing khakis? You have to give up You have to give up You have to realise that someday you will die Until you know that, you are useless. I say let me be never complete I say may I never be content I say deliver me from Swedish furniture I say deliver me from clever art I say deliver me from clear skin and perfect teeth I say you have to give up I say evolve and let the chips fall where they may This is your life Doesn't get any better than this This is your life And its ending one minute at a time You have to give up You have to give up
nopainnogain Posted August 27, 2008 Posted August 27, 2008 Think of this as the 4th quarter of a basketball game, only 2 min left and shot clock going done. When you see this girl go for a 3 pointer. Say hello to her, strike up small conversations and arrange the date. Do like mike and nike, just do it. When you are on the date with her you will have made a slam dunk. All you have to do is take that shot and just ask her out and you will score the points and win the game. lol..... what if he shoots a brick:confused:
Author 54288 Posted August 27, 2008 Author Posted August 27, 2008 haha thx for the advice guys however theres a bit of a problem asking her out because as you know for many of us its just the start of a new year for us in school and shes pretty into getting a good grade and all and i guess her parents expect quite alot from her seeing as how shes the oldest child in her family and all so i dont think she would have much time for dates and stuff... any other ways? :? excluding events like dances and stuff
Green Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 haha thx for the advice guys however theres a bit of a problem asking her out because as you know for many of us its just the start of a new year for us in school and shes pretty into getting a good grade and all and i guess her parents expect quite alot from her seeing as how shes the oldest child in her family and all so i dont think she would have much time for dates and stuff... any other ways? :? excluding events like dances and stuff If she told you its the start of the school year and she cant go out then I would just move on and ask some other girl out. You don't even know this girl that well so don't convince yourself she is the only one. Just go ask some one out who doesn't have a "I can't do anything school just started" philosiphy. And when you ask a girl out you don't have to call it a date... be casual about it and then be sure to make an attempt at a on the lips kiss... thats how you know if theres chemistry/ build it
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