Cherry Blossom 35 Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 I went out with the Bad Speller yesterday. For the uninformed, I met this guy online. There were several spelling errors and grammatical mistakes in his messages. I started a thread because I wanted some opinions on that, and I received some good advice, as always. He graduated from one of the most prominent schools in the country and is currently teaching at a local university, so his intellect is not in question. We went for drinks at a local bar/restaurant. Since this was our first meeting, I had no idea what would happen. Would we have one drink, make awkward conversation, and create excuses to leave? Would he be funny looking? I couldn't really see him very well in his pictures. Would he be a big dork like the last guy? Well.....actually.....he was really cool! And cute! We had drinks and ordered dinner. When the waitress came by afterwards, it would have been the perfect time to ask for the check. Instead, he asked me if I wanted to stay and have another drink. Sure! We got along famously and I felt a lot of chemistry. When we left he hugged me and said how great it was to meet me. He said he would talk to me later, and we went our separate ways. I wasn't sure at that point how he was feeling. I thought he might mention seeing me again, or calling me. I thought that maybe my impression was wrong. I came home from work today and logged onto my email. I can't check it during the day at work. I was going to send him an email to thank him for treating me to dinner. (Yes, he paid). I saw an email from him. He sent me some information on the city I'm visiting next week. Then he said he had a lot of fun, that the food was great, but the company was even better! I have no expectations. I still don't understand the online dating culture. I am having fun, though! I have a date Wednesday with another guy, so we will see how that one goes.
Star Gazer Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 That's great! I love dates that are easy like that.
AriaIncognito Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 I'm glad you gave him a chance, and it sounds like you both had a great time. Here's to date number 2, which I'm sure will occur
Jersey Shortie Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 Sounds like a really healthy attitude Cherry. Glad you had a good time with a guy that seems like a gentlemen.
Trialbyfire Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 That's great to hear Cherry! At this pace, my two year prediction is way, way too long!
Author Cherry Blossom 35 Posted August 25, 2008 Author Posted August 25, 2008 Thanks guys! Gives me hope.
lovestruck818 Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 Awwww!!! And as the saying goes "you can't judge a book by its cover." Well, you can't judge a man by his spelling! Good luck with it- sounds like a great time!
Jilly Bean Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 Good for you, Cherry! I was against you dumping his in advance because of his grammar. From what I have learned, how someone writes online is not always representative of who they are, or their intelligence level. Some people are just crappy spellers, or lazy writers. Doesn't mean everything else is great about him! So, congrats, and I hope it continues to go well! I am glad you met him.
Balthazar Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 A bad speller but a true gentleman. Not a bad trade-off Cherry...
btc8 Posted August 26, 2008 Posted August 26, 2008 I went out with the Bad Speller yesterday. For the uninformed, I met this guy online. There were several spelling errors and grammatical mistakes in his messages. Does his grammatical or spelling prowess (or lack thereof) really matter? No offense, but doesn't your attitude to dismiss someone, whom you've never met, based on something as trivial as spelling say something about what you're looking for? If you want to meet someone who observes spelling and basic grammatical concepts, then do not try to meet that someone online as said rules are almost always not followed. He graduated from one of the most prominent schools in the country and is currently teaching at a local university, so his intellect is not in question. I don't really think this matters. Intellect and intelligence are difference things, in my opinion, and one is not an indicator of the other. Would he be funny looking? I couldn't really see him very well in his pictures. Would he be a big dork like the last guy? I wouldn't expect him to look like a dork based on how you told how ghastly he spelled.
Trialbyfire Posted August 26, 2008 Posted August 26, 2008 Cherry, I wouldn't have given him a chance, as advised. Good for you for doing it!
Lizzie60 Posted August 26, 2008 Posted August 26, 2008 I went out with the Bad Speller yesterday. For the uninformed, I met this guy online. There were several spelling errors and grammatical mistakes in his messages. I started a thread because I wanted some opinions on that, and I received some good advice, as always. He graduated from one of the most prominent schools in the country and is currently teaching at a local university, so his intellect is not in question. We went for drinks at a local bar/restaurant. Since this was our first meeting, I had no idea what would happen. Would we have one drink, make awkward conversation, and create excuses to leave? Would he be funny looking? I couldn't really see him very well in his pictures. Would he be a big dork like the last guy? Well.....actually.....he was really cool! And cute! We had drinks and ordered dinner. When the waitress came by afterwards, it would have been the perfect time to ask for the check. Instead, he asked me if I wanted to stay and have another drink. Sure! We got along famously and I felt a lot of chemistry. When we left he hugged me and said how great it was to meet me. He said he would talk to me later, and we went our separate ways. I wasn't sure at that point how he was feeling. I thought he might mention seeing me again, or calling me. I thought that maybe my impression was wrong. I came home from work today and logged onto my email. I can't check it during the day at work. I was going to send him an email to thank him for treating me to dinner. (Yes, he paid). I saw an email from him. He sent me some information on the city I'm visiting next week. Then he said he had a lot of fun, that the food was great, but the company was even better! I have no expectations. I still don't understand the online dating culture. I am having fun, though! I have a date Wednesday with another guy, so we will see how that one goes. You had fun.. good for you.. Go for it.. Enjoy!!!
Walk Posted August 26, 2008 Posted August 26, 2008 Woggle - hahahahahahaha I think it's a bit knee-jerk to consider dismissing someone because they spelled restaurant wrong (did I spell that right?). Seriously though... my H has about a dozen words he never spells correctly and he's incredibly smart, a hard worker, a great lover, and I admire the heck outta him. If I wanted a spell checker for a partner, I'd buy the software package and just upgrade over the next several dozen years. But I wanted a man, and unfortunately some men don't come installed with the grammar 5.0 package. I'm glad you gave that guy a chance,and that you had a great time with him. You should know by now that academic guys throw out spelling when they get their first graduate assistant. haha j/k.
Author Cherry Blossom 35 Posted August 26, 2008 Author Posted August 26, 2008 Yes, Woggle, eye had a reeely gud tyme. Thanks everyone for responding. He asked me if I wanted to do something this weekend, but I will be out of town. He wants to see me before I go, which is reeely kuul. My instinct is telling me that this guy is interested in getting to know me, not just to jump my bones. My bones could use some jumping, but I'd rather wait on that.
StartingOver07 Posted August 27, 2008 Posted August 27, 2008 I have no expectations. I still don't understand the online dating culture. I am having fun, though! I have a date Wednesday with another guy, so we will see how that one goes. Glad to hear it went well!
Author Cherry Blossom 35 Posted September 6, 2008 Author Posted September 6, 2008 Well I went on another date with the bad speller, so I guess that is three now. Then I left for vacation. Before I left he sent me an email telling me to have a great time, lalalala, and "hopefully he will see me when I get back". Well, I had a wonderful trip to a tropical destination and I am very relaxed now I sent him an email towards the end of the trip and I told him when I was coming back. He had asked me when I was returning but the original date had changed and I did not want him to think I was blowing him off. Well, this is what I received in return: Wow, you get even MORE time in ***tropical place*****? You are so lucky! I've always wanted to go there. I will have to make it there sometime. Definitely track me down when you get back. Uhhh.....track me down? Okay. I'm not sure what to make of this. My first thought was that he is not very interested, otherwise he would have tried to arrange a date for next week, when I get back. Secondly, now I have to track HIM down? I don't want to pursue. My friend and her boyfriend think that I'm reading way too much into it and that he is definitely still interested. I'm not so sure. I think I will just let it go. What do you think? Do you think he will be waiting for me to contact him? Do you think if he is interested he will track ME down?
BleuStar Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 It sounds to me like he is interested....maybe he said to 'track him down' because he was trying to sound cool or not too eager. But definitely plan a date with him to go out again. Maybe he's trying to figure out how interested you are in him? Good luck!
StartingOver07 Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 Cherry, if you told him when you'd be back then I think the ball is in his court. Sounds like you had a wonderful vacation. p.s. I would say this even if he had great spelling skills!
Author Cherry Blossom 35 Posted September 6, 2008 Author Posted September 6, 2008 Well, I told him I hoped to catch up with him when I returned. Honestly, I think it could go either way. It's so hard to tell these days! And yes, thank you, I had a wonderful vacation!
Trialbyfire Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 I wouldn't take it as more than just a figure of speech. Don't forget he's grammatically challenged! Just drop him a line and see if he responds with a date request. Don't chase him if he doesn't. End it with a "truck me down when u have more time".
Author Cherry Blossom 35 Posted September 6, 2008 Author Posted September 6, 2008 Well, I just popped over to check my email and he had added me as a friend on Facebook, so I think that's a pretty good sign
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