mike5770 Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 I started thinking really hard what if the person I have been yapping about for over a year found out I was writing posts about her on this thing. I never used her full name or anything but she would immediately know I was talking about her by my posts. I see her every once in awhile and had a bad dream that her and her new man are laughing at me in the bar and saying "Aww what are you going to do write about us on loveshack?!" Anyway I know the chances would be remote but was womdering if anyone had that experience? I guess I shouldn't really care...
ninjaturtles Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 No...not for me! I doubt if my EX would ever use loveshack. I doubt he knows what how it feels to really hurt.
ioncebelieved Posted August 26, 2008 Posted August 26, 2008 Here is something to think about!!! If someone knows the email address you used to register on here, they will find out what you have been discussing. Don't believe me, type your email address in a search engine and it will show some of your posts. I do think you have to be on a while for it to show, but it will!!!!
ahhhchooo Posted August 26, 2008 Posted August 26, 2008 I purposely speak very vaguely about the relationship so I can't be identified if she cared enough to look. That's a scary thought my email address can be searched though :S
ioncebelieved Posted August 26, 2008 Posted August 26, 2008 As a matter of fact, I have belonged to a man's forum a lot longer than this one and an old ex, whom I have no desire to hook back with found me on the forum and told me about it during a chat session. She was mentioning things that I had said on there and I was like wtf????? Then I figured how she did it. Her and I are cool, but I would hate for my current ex to see anything I have posted here..... or would I??? Probably not!!! Because she would see the pain and turmoil she has caused me.
Trialbyfire Posted August 26, 2008 Posted August 26, 2008 Here is something to think about!!! If someone knows the email address you used to register on here, they will find out what you have been discussing. Don't believe me, type your email address in a search engine and it will show some of your posts. I do think you have to be on a while for it to show, but it will!!!! I tried it using a number of search engines and it didn't pull me up via email address.
ioncebelieved Posted August 26, 2008 Posted August 26, 2008 Trial, I am sending a PM with my email address, do the search with the address and you will see what I am saying. I did the search on yahoo and it shows two profiles I have on that site.
Trialbyfire Posted August 26, 2008 Posted August 26, 2008 Got it and yes, it does show up but not for LS. LS doesn't expose our email addresses to the public.
2sunny Posted August 26, 2008 Posted August 26, 2008 i don't understand how you search an email address? i search under yahoo and it gave me nothing... do you need to be in a specific area of that website? i think i'm not going about it correctly. grrr
Trialbyfire Posted August 26, 2008 Posted August 26, 2008 2sunny, we're talking about search engines like Google. As to whether or not exes have found me, yes, two that I know for certain. One I knew, the other I've recently verified.
Art_Critic Posted August 26, 2008 Posted August 26, 2008 Here is something to think about!!! If someone knows the email address you used to register on here, they will find out what you have been discussing. Don't believe me, type your email address in a search engine and it will show some of your posts. I do think you have to be on a while for it to show, but it will!!!! This isn't true.. The email addresses that you used to sign up with are not public info.. they are private and are not cataloged by any of goggles robots.. If you post your email address inside a post then that will be cataloged...
Citizen Erased Posted August 26, 2008 Posted August 26, 2008 I want a lovecrush. My email didn't bring anything up. I have changed my email a few times over the last couple of years so maybe that's why. Good.
Trialbyfire Posted August 26, 2008 Posted August 26, 2008 V-bulletin and a number of other software vendors, have the option for members to display their email addresses within their profiles, for everyone to see. LS doesn't enable that option so our email addresses are safe here.
ioncebelieved Posted August 26, 2008 Posted August 26, 2008 This isn't true.. The email addresses that you used to sign up with are not public info.. they are private and are not cataloged by any of goggles robots.. If you post your email address inside a post then that will be cataloged... Yeah trial pointed that out to me. I figured since another forum busted me, this one would. I can't remember how I set those accounts up since I rarely go there much. I am sure glad LS, does not put you out there.
Mending1985 Posted August 26, 2008 Posted August 26, 2008 My ex knows I post on a forum but he doesn't know what it is and I don't think he's interested enough to look for it luckily Even if he did, I don't think I'd be worried - he knows exactly how I feel and he's heard it all before lol
Enema Posted August 26, 2008 Posted August 26, 2008 If my ex's start searching for my username they'll probably get a few nasty surprises
0hpenelope Posted August 26, 2008 Posted August 26, 2008 Has anyone on here been discovered... Yes. In other forums - some with the worst outcomes. The defensiveness brings out the ugly in people. If Lawrence does discover me here... BRING IT!
Author mike5770 Posted August 27, 2008 Author Posted August 27, 2008 Thanks for the input. I am sure the last thing she is doing is looking for my posts anyway she is too busy with her new man to come up for air. I use the term lovecrush because we were never really relationship status so i am not worthy of using the term "ex" but it sure hurts the same. I had a nightmare I was in the bar and they came in there with a laptop and everybody was crowded around it pointing at me and laughing..I guess an anxiety dream..at least I wasn't naked in it. She probably doesn't even know how to use the internet..lol
Ingenue Posted August 27, 2008 Posted August 27, 2008 I'm a bit like Penelope in almost welcoming my ex to discover me on these forums. I haven't divulged any identifying information about myself or of him. Nor have I been cruel to him or I believe overly subjective in my presentation of the relationship. I almost would like him to discover my postings on here and read every one to see exactly what I've gone through. Maybe then, he'll come to understand how unacceptable an email break up is and learn from his mistakes so that he doesn't repeat them in his next relationship.
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