BCCA Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 I'll try and keep this short and sweet: My ex and I were together 3 years, lived together, and seemed to be happy. One day, she decided this wasnt what she wanted, moved out, and I was left devastated. I was beyond depressed, couldnt cope, kept trying to reach out and keep in touch, and kept getting hurt. I finally stopped contact for about 3 weeks, and when we finally spoke again, we ended up getting back together. Fastfoward to one year later... She left me again. We didnt live together again, and that made it easy, but it still hurt worse than anything. I told her at the time that we should just go our seperate ways and to have a nice life. About 2 weeks later, I (probably foolishly) sent her an email saying hello and telling her I was hoping we could meet up for coffee/lunch sometime soon. She said, it could be good to meet up, but not just yet, and well talk at some point. I said that was fine and left it at that. I have gone out on a few dates, and I have come to the decision that its 99.9% definitely over and not to waste my energy on it. But part of me wants to believe she just needs time to figure things out. Her reason for breaking up was that she just wasnt "content" and didnt want to be unfair to me by keeping me around when she wasnt sure I was the one. Its hard to know whats BS and what isnt during a break up, because Im sure I got mostly "nice things to say so you dont sound like a bitch" instead of the truth. Honestly, what is the likelyhood I ever hear from this person again? And even if I do, what are the chances its not just going to be to use me? -BCCA-
sandrawg Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 Honestly, what is the likelyhood I ever hear from this person again? And even if I do, what are the chances its not just going to be to use me? I dont mean to sound snippy, but I'm always amazed when people ask questions up here that really can't be answered by a bunch of strangers. Dude, no one knows what the likelihood of you hearing from her again, or whether or not she's gonna use you. We don't know her or you from Adam. The only advice I can give you is, when determining someone's future actions, their past actions are usually a pretty good indicator. This girl sounds like a flake. You gotta ask yourself: do you really want someone who flits in and out of your life like this, w/total disregard for your feelings? if so, why? Do you not feel you're worthwhile enough to move on and find someone better?
Author BCCA Posted August 25, 2008 Author Posted August 25, 2008 Good point. I guess there is no telling, and I know it shouldnt matter anyways. You always try to figure out what the other person is thinking/doing, but in the end, it will probably only be dissapointing. I think youre right, she is a flake. I dont need that, but I honestly felt she was "the one", but I guess she didnt, so thats all I needed to know. I'm going to commit to NC forever. We dont have anything to talk about, and it she was interested in making an efforts, she wouldnt let me ignoring her calls stop her. Thanks...sometimes I just need to be given the harsh reality.
sandrawg Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 Thanks...sometimes I just need to be given the harsh reality. NP-believe me, I've been in need of some toughlove and a little cold water on my face myself lately about this stuff. LOL
Author BCCA Posted August 25, 2008 Author Posted August 25, 2008 NP-believe me, I've been in need of some toughlove and a little cold water on my face myself lately about this stuff. LOL I guess its like your mind knows what you should do, but your heart keeps trying to talk you out of it. Even if she came back, then what? History has a way of repeating itself.
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