gebonez Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 Well I started a relationship with a co worker that was married. She persued me at the begining of the relationship. she has a 3 year old daughter. I was very closed off at first just because i knew the sitituation and did not want to get hurt. After seeing each other for a couple of months she told me she loved me and that she was going to leave her husband to be with me. we lived really far apart and her husband was not helping with the baby and he also took both of their cars. So i started staying over at her house a lot because it was really the only way she could get to work and take care of the baby. after a couple of months i offically moved in i guess. She started the divorce process a few months after she had left him. She was using my car to get to work, and while she was at work i was watching the baby. And totally fallin in Love with Her and Her little girl. I would go to work when she got home. She bought a car at the begining of August.After dating for 10 months she just had her first court dates for her divorce. A couple days after court she came home from work and said she needed time to figure things out for herself and her daughter. She was tired of having to rely on people to do things for her. i tried to tell her I loved her and that is what i was here for. After a long talk i decided to move back to my apartment and give her some time. I took everything out of the house that was mine even things i did not need. The way i see it is she can be with me and get stuff that comes with me or not be with me and get none of that stuff. she said she wanted to be independent. I have not called her since i moved out on wednesday and when i see her at work i act like it has not affected me. Even when it has totally crushed me. This is the first girl i have ever really given all of my self too. I am hoping she misses me when i am not around and want to be with me. How long should i wait to try to contact her if at all? What should i do?
nopainnogain Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 Well I started a relationship with a co worker that was married. She persued me at the begining of the relationship. she has a 3 year old daughter. I was very closed off at first just because i knew the sitituation and did not want to get hurt. After seeing each other for a couple of months she told me she loved me and that she was going to leave her husband to be with me.? I read this and didnt bother reading the rest of your story. But when a relationship starts out like this its usually how it will end. You should leave her be. your better off without her. too much baggage imo
BCCA Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 I hate saying things like this, but you need to hear this... She used you. You were an escape. You got her out of this life with her husband, got her on her own feet and independent, and what did you get? Left it the cold. This happens all to often, people meet while one is at the tail end of a relationship they want out of, and I would say 90% of the time it ends up this way. A lot of people feel like theyve met some one who "needs" them, but the truth is the only need you for long enough to get past some other stuff. Do not contact her. If she contacts you, think long and hard before responding. She may send feelers out to see if she can get you back if she decides to (whether or not her reasons for doing so are selfish), or if it gets near the holidays and she doesnt have anyone, but chances are she wont contact you, either. She knows what she did. She leaned on you when she was having a rough go of life, then cast you aside when she was better, without taking your feelings into consideration. Actions speak louder than words. Dont listen to what she says, watch what she did.
wareagle Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 I was in your shoes bro@!!! Almost the exact same situation! Listen to me!!! RUN, don't look back, she used you to get out of her marriage now she doesn't need you anymore and that is a FACT!!!! If you continue to pursue this you are going to be in a world of hurt my friend!!! Take it from a guy who should have RAN as fast as he could when she was talking about Loving me and marriage even before her divorce was final!!!
yongyong Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 what a fxxin biatch? Listen man, you deserve better woman than a stupid single mom I know this would be more painful than getting dumped by a single woman. (you were scared at first but pushed your heart, you didn't expect anything but provide for her) She is HELPING you to move on to better life........... You might have to say 'thanks~~~~' later to her
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