Blu_Eyes225 Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 Long story short...I have been in a relationship for 4 years, he asked me to marry him 2 years ago....because he hadnt expressed he wanted to marry me, I decided to stop wearing my ring....doesnt seem to bother him.. 9 or so months ago I found an email that he had posted an add in the personals for a discreet encounter, he posted his cell phone number and said to call him during his business hours...he told me that he did it because he thought i was reading his emails!!! Right! I also caught him checking local nudist colonies out...he said it was because he wanted to try something different and he wanted to take me there, well after I caught him there was never anything said about it again. I also think you should know that he left his wife of 10 years for me!! So of course I have major insecurities because of that, he has stated to me over and over that he would never do that again...but my gut tells me otherwise! Recently he bought himself a jeep...and has joined many jeep clubs and I have noticed that he has been searching for ONLY females to join the club that he currently participates in...the problem with that is that one of the females that he is pursuing per say has half nude pictures in her profile and he invited her to one of the current meetings, I normally dont go to the meeting because I go to school at night...so I dont know who he meets all the time....also when I am at school he spends most of his time on the computer, and when he gets off the computer he makes sure he erases the history on our computer, now that right there is a sign of guilt to me....am I over reacting??? I have called him on my feelings and he gets defensive and tells me I am CRAZY!!! which that is one thing you dont say to a woman!!! I want to trust him but he has time and time again made me feel like I cant.....in need of advice!
backspacectrl Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 If he makes you feel like you cant trust him, you shouldnt. trust is something you have to earn so if you started out not trusting him and he has not earned your trust, you prolly shouldnt be marring him. if i was in your shoes i would ask exactly where he wants to take your relationship, if he was not hurt that you dont wear your ring, you should question what he wants. as for the other nonsence... you should ask him for the truth, honesty will help both of you. because if he want one of these shanky jeep girls and he lets you kno, it will only help your relationship. wether it will be fixing things or breaking them off. you could always try the nudest thing, or something along those lines maybe he just wants things to be spiced up. GOOD LUCK! go with your gut!
whichwayisup Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 This guy is not trustworthy, especially since he cheated and left his wife for you. Seems he likes the chase, likes the intensity of what an affair brings on and now he's doing it to you. Get out now while you still can. He isn't worth fighting for.
Mr. Lucky Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 Seems he likes the chase, likes the intensity of what an affair brings on and now he's doing it to you. Well put and I wouldn't be surprised to see that happen frequently in these kinds of post-affair relationships. It's the secret and furtive naughtiness that is the attraction for a lot of people - once the hunt is over, they're looking for a new prey... Mr. Lucky
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