A CHICK WITH TEETH Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 I have another thread about my situation with this..... I am a pretty hot chick. I have what I would call the "complete package".....and for some ungodly reason I am stuck on this guy who I am basically best friends with. There is chemistry, spark, etc..but he is stuck on this other girl who he breaks up with every other week. So basically it's like the reverse of what men say they go through in the "friendzone".... So I am just wondering if any of you guys out there have female friends you place in the "friendzone"....and why? Why is she not someone you see as "dating" material? Ladies, are any of you "friendzoned"??
Mustain2234 Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 Ha, you and I seem to be the only two up right now. From my perspective, A female friend is in a friendzone when she is not considered dateable. I am "friends" with some girls that I know too much about. Too slutty to bring to my parents; emotional issues; lack of drive (ie, no high school diploma). It's tough being friends with other girls without anything coming out of it. There is a girl that is part of our group -- we call her Colleen The Dream -- that is one of those people that can't stand being single. Always has a guy. Well, she was single when I was single and my friends were all trying to push us together. It was really at that moment I thought, "if this doesn't work out....how in the hell are we going to just hang out and act like nothing happened?" There are too many girls in the world to be dating those you've known for five+ years. Even these girls who are friends, I don't talk to them aside from meeting up on the weekends. They're part of my company, but nothing more. I HATE the idea of dating within a circle of friends. That's practically my number one criteria for meeting women -- if you are friends with any of the girls I hang out with, nothing will come out of us. Otherwise, girls are friendzoned as a means to latch onto them until an available moment comes along. I'm in a friend zone with my ex girlfriend, but not because I find her undesirable or any of the traits listed above -- but I'm thinking whenever she feels like trying again for a relationship we can have a smoother transition.
coffeemaker Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 From my perspective, A female friend is in a friendzone when she is not considered dateable. I am "friends" with some girls that I know too much about. Too slutty to bring to my parents; emotional issues; lack of drive (ie, no high school diploma). Bingo! I've also got a few female friends that I've basically known my entire life, and though they are attractive, driven & don't have emotional baggage, it would just be strange to date any of them. That may be counter intuitive, but it would be odd. Too many, 27+, years of being close family friends.
Author A CHICK WITH TEETH Posted August 25, 2008 Author Posted August 25, 2008 Thanks Mustain and Coffee.....I appreciate the candid replies..and they make perfect sense. To be fair I friendzone guys for the standard reasons as well.... no chemistry, he passes gas in front of me and laughs..LOL, acts like my girlfriend and not someone I want to date...etc...those are just a few.
backspacectrl Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 ive put guys in the "friendzone" when they act like friends... im kinda of a "tom boy" (ie i love video games and other things that are mainly a "guy" thing) so when i meet guys we always have alot of stuff to talk about. ive also had a few guys say that i would make a perfect girlfriend... theses are the guys with bad relationships and such. i became friends with this one guy and i was interested in him. so when he was with his friends(i knew them to and was just friends with all of them) i would stand closer to him and be more touchy in convos. we even spent the day, just the 2 of us, at an amussment park. i really liked him, but he kept backing away. like he was shy but it happened so much and he never made a move, so i figured he wasnt interested. thus he was "friendzoned". later on when i was starting a relationship i got the word from a friend that 3 or 4 of my male friends liked me alot. he was one of them. LAME. none of my guy friends have spoken to me in about 2 and a half months. ive been put in the "friendzone" alot too, this normally happens when you become to close with your friend. (ie "hes like a brother to me") or when they know too much and your no longer something new...
audrey_1 Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 Otherwise, girls are friendzoned as a means to latch onto them until an available moment comes along. I'm in a friend zone with my ex girlfriend, but not because I find her undesirable or any of the traits listed above -- but I'm thinking whenever she feels like trying again for a relationship we can have a smoother transition. Interesting. So if told you're a "great friend" and that it has nothing to do with someone not being interested/attracted to you, but it's a timing thing, then your "latch" reasoning may come into play? He's even said we have a "bond." Mentions future plans, and I'm in them. Of course, they could just be FRIENDLY plans. You guys are more complex than you're given credit for ... lol. Did your ex girlfriend friendzone your or did you friendzone her?
nopainnogain Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 I made a thread about this. Here is proof that friendzoning girls works .
desertfire Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 Hate to say it, but have been in the guy's situation, and as much as this may sound brutal, a direct reason that he would go back and forth like that is because he finds in you what he is missing from the relationship with the other woman. Have been in that situation and it was difficult to accept, and somewhat painful to realize because once you understand what you are doing to the other, you realize that you were just using the other girl to satisfy a personal need, which makes for a very bad relationship overall. I would recommend identifying the "missing link" that he finds in you and deprive him of it somewhat.. perhaps it is that chemistry/spark that you are talking about... 2 people can have incredible chemistry but have absolutely no possibility of a true relationship. If you want the relationship to become something then the "back and forth" needs to stop.
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