Mr Biscuits Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 It's been four months since my split. She left me for someone else. We're both on the same facebook network. I've been NC for three months now. Through her family, I understand that she's very happy with her new man. Despite all this, I have very recently had an almost overwhelming urge to look at her profile. I just want to know what's happened to the girl I spent four years with. I know deep down this is not going to do me any good. Does anyone have any words of wisdom to keep me from looking?
Author Mr Biscuits Posted August 25, 2008 Author Posted August 25, 2008 Actually, I've seen that someone else has already posted on this. Some good advice there. I wish I could just forget about her!
verve Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 Do NOT look! You will only hurt yourself, if say for example, you see a pic of her and the new guy together. Snooping at the profile will do nothing but hurt you. Out of sight out of mind is the way to go, on the road to getting over heartbreak.
xpaperxcutx Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 Delete your profile. Or just stop going on it. Put your laptop on lockdown and go do something else.
YoMamma Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 Hello Mr. Biscuits, I know that you are going through a rough time like all of us. There have been several threads about social networking sites but you know how this forum rolls, topics switch up all the time Anyways, my dear friend, I suggest either deleting her or blocking her from your facebook. What I first did was to untag all couple pictures (I keep a copy on my USB drive for future viewing for many, many years down the road), then a little later I deleted him as a friend, then recently I decided to block him. My ex may view this as petty, but I don't care. This was for ME. Hell no, I don't want to know what is going on in his life and I'm doing HIM a favor by not letting him know what's going on with mine. This is a move on my part to stop looking at his profile, so what's the use? It will only hurt me more and hinder my healing process. Some people even suggest to delete your profile all together. This seems extreme for my tastes, but you decide what you want to do Do whatever you can for yourself so that you can heal. We all deserve to be happy. Good luck!
wareagle Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 Just don't do it man!! Just don't do it!! What purpose would it serve? You allready know she is with someone else why go and open old wounds? Do you know who she is with? If you don't do you really want to see his face everytime you close your eyes banging her? I doubt you do!! Delete facebook, I did it's the best thing I could have done for myself!! JUST DON"T DO IT!!!
BCCA Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 Just don't do it man!! Just don't do it!! What purpose would it serve? You allready know she is with someone else why go and open old wounds? Do you know who she is with? If you don't do you really want to see his face everytime you close your eyes banging her? I doubt you do!! Delete facebook, I did it's the best thing I could have done for myself!! JUST DON"T DO IT!!! Agreed 100%. Dont do it. As some one who has gone through a breakup both ways (with the same girl no less), its just best to let sleeping dogs lie. If she knows youre even slightly interested in her still, shell go out of her way to have pics of them together and comments from friends about how cute they looked together last Friday at the club. I even went as far as to delete her comments from my myspace, because it had her pic on them. At the time, it was just her and a friend, but who knows...next week it could be her hanging all over some guy. I dont want to see any of that.
ninjaturtles Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 I beg you not to look at her profile!!! PLEASE....Trust me, you will regret it. It will only draw you back and you will start over analysing things. It will mess with your head!! In my situation, I first of all deleted him from my facebook. About 9months later, he added me again! I went on to his profile and saw his new girlfriend had posted some wall posts on his wall. It got me really really upset. Trust me. It took me back! I was deeply saddened. Well, I decided I did not want to delete him again, as I did not want to appear as though I was still hurt by the breakup etc. So I simply decided to deactivate my account. I love myself too much to subject myself to painful reminders of what could have been etc. I am fed up with being drawn back. I do not want to know what is going on in his life. I should not care. It is HIS life....not mine. He does not own my life, God does. So I have deactivated my account and life is much better. I browse facebook when I get bored, using my brother's account. (My brother is not his friend on facebook). Now, I wake up every morning, NOT tempted to check his facebook anymore. I will reactivate my account in at least 10 months.lol. Till then, I will be fine. Before facebook came about, I was doing fine. I was living my life, besides, the people that care about me know where and how to find me! I don't need facebook to keep in contact with the important people! In summary, I would advice you to either- A) Avoid looking at her page. You have done very well by keeping off it for 3 months. PLese please, don't ruin your efforts. If you keep getting tempted,- B) You could delete her. C) If you dont want to delete her, you could deactivate your account for a while. Just to cool off facebook etc. D) You could block her. If I were in your position, I would deactivate my account for a litle while. Take a clean break from facebook. Facebook is NOT life.lol. Goodluck and dont forget this too will pass Okay? xxxx
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