JooLee Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 its been 2 months since the break up and the past one week i've been feeling like im finally moving on but somehow today, it feels like im stagnant. a couple of days ago he was showing off to my close friend with this girl who he met in a bar that night itself. i brushed that off, cos its his life he can F-ck whoever he wants! but today i saw his msn personal message stated " happy, happy and happy. i found my life again" and it bothers me so much. i really want to get over him, he's not worth it. but why is it easy for him but so hard for me especially when it was him who wanted to be with me in the first place and talked about marriage and promised me all kind of forever sh*t? it hurts!
df273 Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 you are going to have good days, followed by bad days... its been 3 months for me. i'll have a few good days, followed by the worse day ever. i've come to realize it is normal part of the healing process. overtime, the bad days will be less frequent and not as severe. his whole thing about being "happy" and showing this girl off is just to get under your skin. i know it is absolutely hard, but he will get satisfaction if it gets to you. it is unavoidable. it will make you mad, sad, and everything in between. do yourself a big favor. let those feelings run their course, if you don't, then you will just delay the healing. also, do your best to not let him know it bothers you. if he sees that it doesn't bother you, he will most likely change is tactics to being sad and unhappy. as much as it is not a game for you, it is for him. also, delete him from all messaging and other forms of contact. take everything in your daily environment that reminds you of him, and put it in a shoebox, and hide it for a while. i wish you the best of luck and we are here for you. do yourself a favor and beleive in what is said on these forums. it will be hard sometimes, and if you don't, you will come to realize you should. god speed.
saams Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 i was in the same kind of situation once.. He could just be faking it to seem okay but deep inside hes probably hurt as well.. But doesnt matter if he is or not, you should delete him from ur msn and cut off contact with him. and btw.. the best way to get back at him or how to say, is to show your life is better without him in it. just move forward and dont look back.
Author JooLee Posted August 24, 2008 Author Posted August 24, 2008 thx for the support it reli helps! i just feel kind of humiliated cos i put myself out there for him, tried to be nice, showing him that i have no hard feelings towards him and that i wish we can be friends but instead he shows me no respect. he ignores me when he sees me! and he was the one who left me! i guess i regret that now but hey- no point regretting right. just looking forward! oh and he's gone from msn now
df273 Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 i'm receiving the same treatment from my ex. it gets to me sometimes, and other times it doesn't. nothing in life is easy, and if it is easy, you're probably doing it wrong. keep your chin up. i'm rooting for the dumpee's and so should you.
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