SadHatter Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 Hi everyone, Not posted on here for a while, but I'm back after an 'incident' last night involving my ex-gf of 2 years. She broke up with me in January, she said she didn't "see me that way anymore" and things had "become boring". We tried the friends thing until April, it didn't work out and then we went our separate ways. I found out through various people we both knew that she'd slept with four different guys in the space of 2 months since we broke up, and has now slept with like 6 different guys in total in 6 months (I had been her first), so it did surprise me somewhat. Anyway, I found out she got a new boyfriend, who ironically has the same name as me, which is slightly strange, and she's been with him about one month now. Last week she sent me a text message saying that her grandad had suffered a heart attack and I sent my best wishes and said I'd like to send him a card (he was lovely), but she said she felt it would confuse him etc...she didn't seem keen on me doing so, I don't know whether that was because she didn't want her new boyfriend knowing she'd been in contact with me, or whether her parents would wonder why she'd spoken to me - I just don't know, but I was trying to be nice and I just thought 'stuff you' basically. Anyway, for the past two weeks, I have been getting prank calls and text messages from a random number, when I ask who it is, they give stupid answers like Father Christmas etc. etc. Everytime they call, they ring from a withheld number, which I have to answer because I get a lot of business calls on my mobile phone, which usually come from withheld numbers. I tried the whole going along with the cherade when the people called and were being stupid, I humoured them and said things like, "We can chat as long as you like - it's your phone bill you're wasting!". I figured they'd get bored if I didn't react and would stop, rather than if I said to leave me alone etc. as they'd see it was annoying me and do it all the more. It was a girl talking to me, but I didn't recognise the voice, and I couldn't work out who it was. They'd just say really immature and stupid things down the phone and then girls in the background would laugh...nothing personal, just weird, nonsensical stuff. Anyway, last night I was downstairs and my mobile phone was upstairs. I came upstairs and saw on my phone I'd had three missed calls, all from the said ex-girlfriend, which I found weird and wondered why she was contacting me as she would be at a music festival that she goes to every year. I thought I ought to text her to see if everything was OK, I thought maybe something had happened to her grandad. She didn't reply to my text. Weird I thought, but I got ready and went out to a club with some friends and didn't think any more of it. At 4am I am at a friends house with a couple of girl friends and I get a phone call on my mobile from a withheld number. I panicked, thinking who would be ringing me at this time, as you do, and my first thoughts were, "I hope my little nephew is OK" because when you get a call at that time, you fear the worst don't you. On the end of the line is some stupid girl, I recognise the voice as that girl who has been prank calling me the past two weeks...again she's saying stupid things to me, only this time she starts becoming personal about me and even insulting my dad...I'm a professional singer and she was saying I couldn't sing, your dad can't sing too (he's been a pro singer for 35 years) and I was just saying...OK OK, haven't you got anything better to do??? Then, suddenly, I hear my ex-girlfriend's voice in the background and I hear her laughing....I say...OK, well I've just heard XXXX (ex-gf) in the background...so why are you calling me? And why did she call me three times earlier? This girl replies, "Yes...its XXXX's best friend here". I know the girl. She's horrible. The worst girl you could ever meet, just a horrible person, never ever ever liked her. They're at this music festival. She says, "Yeah we were bored earlier and wanted someone to laugh at but you didn't answer the phone, but we got bored again now so decided to call you again to laugh at you". I said, "That's lovely...now I really don't have time for this, unlike you I have a life and am out with a couple of girls." Then I hear my ex-girlfriend in the background say, "Oh, who's that - Ki-Ora and Micky Mouse?" and they start laughing. A month or so previously, I'd seen my ex-girlfriend in a bar and exchanged pleasantries and said I'd dated a girl called Kara and a girl called Mikki and so she was mocking their names, saying Ki-Ora (which is a drink) and Micky Mouse. I said, "That's really mature, why don't you grow up? You really are stupid little girls aren't you?" My ex-girlfriend's friend then says, "By the way, XXXX says she doesn't have to fake orgasms with her new boyfriend if that means anything to you"...I just said "Oh right...am I supposed to be bothered by that? This is so childish, I'd be embarrassed if I was you." Her friend then says, "So are you still in love with XXXXX??" in a sarcastic tone and I say, "Errr....yeah...I never leave her alone and am so in love with her...that's why YOU are ringing ME at 4am, from a music festival you've paid £100 to go to" and I laughed, they went a bit silent then as though they didn't know what to say. I was also treated to such comments as, "XXXXX new boyfriend is a kickboxer and he's SO going to kick you in when he sees you". I said, "OK....good luck to him". I just feel sooooooooooooooooooooooooo angry at this situation....tonight is the last night of the music festival, I have a feeling they're going to do it again tonight, I don't know whether to not answer it, to answer it and tell them they are really becoming irritating now and to leave me alone....what do you guys think? I never thought my ex would treat me this way. There's nothing she can say to get out of this...she was there, some of the calls came from her mobile, and these prank calls I've been getting from her friend - her friend could only have got my number from my ex. What a lovely girl. After 2 years together! She even insulted my dad. I'm so angry and I have to say pretty hurt too, I have no idea who this person is anymore. What's weird is, she broke up with me and has a new bf, so why is she even bothering to ring me, albeit to get kicks out of mocking me. Does anyone understand this?! By the way, she's 18, I am 25.
SourKisses Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 Hey mate, I feel for you. These girls seem very very immature, I love a good prank call if it was something worthwhile to prank lol. But this is stupid. I can see why it would irk you after all your callers are still immature brats. Maybe one of your friend's should of got on the phone and told them to shut up. Why don't you take the matter to the police if this is something that is getting out of hand. I don't know what to say but I feel so sorry for you.
Jilly Bean Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 Next time they call you, just say that you have alerted the police to the harassing phone calls, and that the call is being traced, and they will be prosecuted. That should help stop the calls... Beyond that - 18 is, as 18 does.
journey1 Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 Kill her with kindness. Just say ex girl I know you hate me and have moved on so please stop thinknig of me and calling me. Enjoy your new BF. And I would really never speak to her , trust her, or look at her evil face again!!!
df273 Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 well, you could always change your number. i know how much of an inconvenience it would be, and i too would hate to do it.
WiseOne1 Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 This is very very childish, why are they attacking you? You did nothing wrong, your the victim here. As childish as prank calls are, if anyone should be playing prank calls here, it should be you. The friend is such a bitch' (I think thats the first time I ever called a girl a Bitch) but anyways she needs to grow up, Change your number, I know its crazy and alot to go through but change your number, believe it or not your ex is bothered that your talking to other girls, thats why shes making fun of there names. Dont block them, because there so deseperate that they would just use someone elses cell phone or such. Karma bites and karma comes back, because sooner or later she'll be getting prank calls talking about all the guys shes ****ed, or how easy it is for her to give some out. Just change the number ASAP, or maybe have a girl answer your phone and tell them off, and to them to leave my man alone, that would be classic, that would be so great it should be on PPV. The ex is obvisouly putting her up to it, and instead of having the descensy to call you and say "I ****ed Up" or im sorry, she has to try to make you feel down. Just change you number.
mscomplex Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 I agree with WiseOne1. When you are hanging out with your female friends and get a call after hours number (business calls usually don't come in at that hour) have them answer. You may also want to change your message to the generic message that comes on a cellular phone. That way she is not sure it's you when she doesn't hear your voice. Finally, you can have one of the girls record your outgoing message. If your girl was really over you, she would not be wasting so much time harassing you and would be spending time with this awesome kick boxer that she doesn't have to fake orgasms with.
nopainnogain Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 Just change the number ASAP, or maybe have a girl answer your phone and tell them off, and to them to leave my man alone, that would be classic, that would be so great it should be on PPV. . changing the number is wiser. The latter of your suggestions is a terrible thing to do to anyone.
WiseOne1 Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 changing the number is wiser. The latter of your suggestions is a terrible thing to do to anyone. No not really, thats not a bad thing to. She broke up with him, if it was the other way around that would be a terrible thing to do. As you see they seemed to be focused on rather hes seeing someone else, shes pissed and feels angry because she thinks that hes moving on. He should change the number though, thats the only way to stop this. If he doesnt change the number this will be going off for the next 5 to 6 months. If he blocks her they are so childish and deseperate for his attention that they will find new numbers to call from, rather that be house, cell, pay phones and etc. He has no choice but to change the number.
nopainnogain Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 No not really, thats not a bad thing to. She broke up with him, if it was the other way around that would be a terrible thing to do. so 2 wrongs make a right:confused: He has no choice but to change the number. thats his only choice
WiseOne1 Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 so 2 wrongs make a right:confused: thats his only choice Your right 2 wrongs dont make a right, but like I said ether one of them will work. A Girl answering his phone or a new voicemail with her. Or changing his number will work. I Take that back changing his number isnt the only thing that will work, the girl theory will also work.
sandrawg Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 Wait, wait-you started dating this girl when she was <i>16</i>? And you're surprised by her childish behavior? Word to the wise--stick to someone closer to your own age next time!
sedgwick Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 That's like something you'd do when you were 12. Seriously, this girl sounds far, far too immature for a man of 25.
vonerik012 Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 My ex is 30 and did almost the exact same thing.. Calling late and hanging up. Leaving mean messages if I did not answer, months after we stopped seeing each other..
xpaperxcutx Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 Wow, what a bitch... I'm 18, and she sounds more childish than me. Maybe she forgot to change her diapers? Why don't you just ignore her calls? Apparently she loves the attention you're getting. If you play right into her hands, she'll just make you into a joke with her friends. You need to play a prank on her to make the idiot here. No, its not about two wrongs don't make a right, but it's the only way to get through her thick head she's a bimbo.
Author SadHatter Posted August 26, 2008 Author Posted August 26, 2008 Hey everyone, Thanks so much for all of your replies, it means a lot and I appreciate the time taken by everyone to read and also respond to my post. Her and her 'friend' didn't call on the final night of the music festival, which surprised me, but of course is also a good thing. However, about an hour ago my ex-girlfriend came online on MSN, and we haven't spoken on there for months, and the conversation went something like the following... Me > I did NOT appreciate your stunt the other day Her > I didn't pull any stunts Me > Because you haven't given your friend my number? (sarcastic) Her > I only jumped in when you got personal - when you crossed the line Me > I got personal after your friend told me you, "didn't have to fake orgasms with your new boyfriend" and insulted my dad Her > I didn't deny i was there Me > You rang me three times earlier in the night, about 6pm from YOUR number Her > Yes, because another of my friends likes you and wanted to talk to you, I don't know what about, and she had no battery, so I said she could use my phone Me > Yeah, yeah Me > Your friend has rung me about three times in the past two weeks, and been texting me, saying stupid things, playing prank calls. You can tell her from me if she does it again I will contact the police...that's not a threat, that's a promise. Her > Like we care! (sarcastic) Her > I'm going to the gym to work on the worst body you've ever seen.. that's what you incinuated in our convo Me > I think you'll find you and your stupid friend called me at 4am, insulting me, my family, being very personal and at that point I repsonded by saying that I'd moved on, didn't care about you, have a new job and have been with far nicer girls than you since we split up anyway! You can interprete that as you wish. YOU caused this to happen - YOU, not me. Don't flip this around to make yourself the victim here! Her > Your moral high ground is mountainous Me > My moral high?! Because I dont want some stupid girl like calling me at 11pm at night when I'm asleep saying stupid things down the phone? I'm sorry...that's my fault is it? Her > That has nothing to do with me Me > Course it doesn't. You don't apologise to me though do you or tell her to stop it. Her > No, because I couldn't care less! Me > Oh yes, your 'friend'. The same lovely girl who made you cry the last time I went out with you six months ago. Her > I cried cos I value her opinion.. when you abuse me I barely wince Me > OK, well, for the record, don't contact me again...and for the record my family, like me, think you're a complete moron now too. Her > On no, like I am bothered (sarcastic). Bye slouchy face (no idea what that means but its obviously some insult, doesn't offend me as it makes no sense!) End of convo...there you go....what a horrible girl!!!!
sandrawg Posted August 26, 2008 Posted August 26, 2008 Slouchy face? Oof. Like I said, stick to women (not GIRLS) your own age or older. Stop feeding her 2-yr-old-ish need for attention.
verve Posted August 26, 2008 Posted August 26, 2008 You just need to NC her right away, she's getting a reaction out of you and thats why the prank calls persisted. Really, you need to get away from this freakshow of a girl and move on, that would annoy her more than anything.
nopainnogain Posted August 26, 2008 Posted August 26, 2008 Shes probably crooked as my last trick; want it light but how I got my ass caught up with this bad b*tch Thinkin I had her but she had me in the long run It's just my luck I'm stuck with fu*kin with the wrong one, uh! Wise decisions, based on lies we livin Scandalous times, this game's like my religion She could be rollin with a thug Instead shes with this weak scrub, lookin for some love
Author SadHatter Posted September 21, 2008 Author Posted September 21, 2008 Well, after a few weeks of nothing...last night I get ANOTHER phone call from the ex-girlfriend's mate. The called is a withheld number, I answer the phone and get, "Are you a paedophile?"...I recognise the person as the girl who was pranking me before, so I say, "Oh go away" and hang up the phone. A paedophile??? No idea why she is calling me that, but I am sooooo angry, it's not nice to be called that is it?!?!?! Probably nothing personal against me, just another of their stupid little sayings, but I'm not tolerating it. I immediately text the ex-girlfriend, who I haven't spoken to since the last time I posted in this thread, and said, "Tell your stupid mates NOT to call me again"...straight away I get a phone call from the ex-girlfriend, "What are you talking about? I don't know what you mean....I'm in a restaurant. My mates are with me, but they're outside..." I say, "And you're telling me you knew nothing about them calling me???". She says, "No..." and I say, "Well you better make sure it doesn't happen again" and she says, "OK" and I put the phone down. Didn't happen again that night. Can't believe my ex has turned out this way. I don't think I believe her to be honest, I think she is putting her mate(s) up to this, but if she isn't, she's still an idiot for allowing her friends to do it?????? If one of my friends did that to her I'd say, "What are you doing???? I went out with the girl for 2.5 years", have a right moan at my friends and call her up an apologise. She just lets them do it! That's if she isn't behind it all anyway. The girl was never ever ever like this before, of course if she was, I wouldn't have dated her for so long. She's got a new boyfriend now too, been together over 2 months, so why on earth is she doing this? Does anyone understand this and why she'd act like it? Even my family are shocked, we even all spent Christmas just gone at her family's house. I'm so angry, but I'd also be lying if I didn't say it doesn't hurt me that she is acting this way. It's so pathetic, they're on a night out and prank call me????
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