mortensorchid Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 This might be strange of me to say this, but I think I have been blown off. Here is the story ... I'd been seeing someone for the last few weeks (since the beginning of July). Things had been really good - no fights, no weird scenes, no clashes. We talk during the week on the phone and via text messages here and there. Then just today and yesterday things started to get a little ... Funky. I went to the beach with two friends yesterday, during the day (as he worked out nearby the beach where I was) I texted him "Call in sick and join us!". It was a joke of course, I didn't really think he would, but he said he couldn't. When we left, I called him and asked if he wanted to join at a microbrewery nearby. He said he was tired and was going home to sleep. I said ok, he said he would talk to me tomorrow (Saturday). Well, it's Saturday. I hear nothing from him. I sent him a text message saying "Where you at?" around 9 pm (I was out with my friend). Nothing. We (the friend and I) ended up going to a small party at someone's house. They were all chatting about Friday night, I said I was pretty tired from being out in the sun all day so I decided just to stay in. They said they saw HIM - the new bf - and his brother out at the place I was supposed to join them at. Hmmm ... Well I can't say I'm angry about that. We didn't make a plan or anything. The problem is this. Tomorrow (Sunday) is his birthday. I had baked him a cake. What if he's not around to eat it? I guess I can just invite everyone over for a party so they can all help me eat it. Have I been blown off?
almost famous Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 I'm sorry he's treating you like this. He didn't bring a girl with him to the party last night where you didn't go, did he? I dunno, maybe he's just taking a step back. I wouldn't text him or contact him. If you have the cake and no guy, then yes, invite friends over and eat it. I hope this turns out well for you.
Jilly Bean Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 M - it seems the recurrent pattern is that you chase guys. This happened with the sushi guy, some other one (I think), and now this guy. It seems that you make all the moves to pursue, and it's turning guys off and making them lose interest. Sucks about the cake, but DO NOT contact him again. It would come off as stalkerish. As Almost said, invite your peeps over and have a break-up party for yourself with champagne and cake!
nopainnogain Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 looks like you get to have your cake and eat it too.
Green Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 looks like you get to have your cake and eat it too. thats imposible
Ariadne Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 (men are such a pain...) Well, maybe he'll like that you made the cake. At least tell him or something.
Author mortensorchid Posted August 24, 2008 Author Posted August 24, 2008 It's now 3:30 pm. I haven't heard from him. But, I heard from his brother (weird as it may sound) this morning. I mentioned that today was his birthday, which he knew. But I heard nothing from him. I have invited a few people over tonight to eat the cake. I will not call or text him. If he wants to talk to me he can. I feel sad and depressed today, but tomorrow is another day.
Art_Critic Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 Does he know that you planned something for his B-day ? It kinda sounds like he is blowing you off by not showing you any attention.. but guys have also done that kind of stuff thinking it is how you get a woman... maybe he thinks he is being aloof.
Trialbyfire Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 Does he know that you planned something for his B-day ? This is my question too. If you wanted to spend his birthday with him, why wouldn't you have prearranged this a week ago? Is it possible that he's a little miffed because there were no prior arrangements made?
nopainnogain Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 Our lifestyles be close captioned addicted to fatal attractions
Shygirl15 Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 M - it seems the recurrent pattern is that you chase guys. This happened with the sushi guy, some other one (I think), and now this guy. It seems that you make all the moves to pursue, and it's turning guys off and making them lose interest. Sucks about the cake, but DO NOT contact him again. It would come off as stalkerish. As Almost said, invite your peeps over and have a break-up party for yourself with champagne and cake! Ah, I remember the sushi story, I just couldn't remember it was Morten. Argh, he's such an idiot. I hate it when men play hard to get. Sorry, Morten. Move on.
lovestruck818 Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 This might be strange of me to say this, but I think I have been blown off. Here is the story ... I'd been seeing someone for the last few weeks (since the beginning of July). Things had been really good - no fights, no weird scenes, no clashes. We talk during the week on the phone and via text messages here and there. Then just today and yesterday things started to get a little ... Funky. I went to the beach with two friends yesterday, during the day (as he worked out nearby the beach where I was) I texted him "Call in sick and join us!". It was a joke of course, I didn't really think he would, but he said he couldn't. When we left, I called him and asked if he wanted to join at a microbrewery nearby. He said he was tired and was going home to sleep. I said ok, he said he would talk to me tomorrow (Saturday). Well, it's Saturday. I hear nothing from him. I sent him a text message saying "Where you at?" around 9 pm (I was out with my friend). Nothing. We (the friend and I) ended up going to a small party at someone's house. They were all chatting about Friday night, I said I was pretty tired from being out in the sun all day so I decided just to stay in. They said they saw HIM - the new bf - and his brother out at the place I was supposed to join them at. Hmmm ... Well I can't say I'm angry about that. We didn't make a plan or anything. The problem is this. Tomorrow (Sunday) is his birthday. I had baked him a cake. What if he's not around to eat it? I guess I can just invite everyone over for a party so they can all help me eat it. Have I been blown off? I like cake, pick me pick me!
Author mortensorchid Posted August 25, 2008 Author Posted August 25, 2008 Well we hadn't officially planned anything. I asked him via text message what he wanted to do on Sunday (for his birthday), he said he wasn't sure but said no surprises. We didn't really set anything, but it was just of implied that we would be doing something. He said "Maybe we could go to the zoo". So I was at least thinking that he would at least call. But being that I hadn't talked to him in a few days it made me disappointed.
Author mortensorchid Posted August 25, 2008 Author Posted August 25, 2008 As for the comparisons with the sushi man that some have made, that guy was just a poser. I was hoping that we would at least be friendly, but he said in a closure email that he felt intimidated by my friends. Naturally.
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