sbck1282 Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 Hello, I am new to this forum. I am a fairly shy college student (22 years old) who needs answers to some questions I have about dating 1) This might seem like a dumb question, but do girls generally have a problem dating a guy who is slim/slender? I have tried working out before, however I have very mild scoliosis and my doctor told me it would only make it worse. I have a very fast metabolism, it does not matter how much I eat I never gain any weight (always eat 4 times a day and never skip meals). 2) I am one of those people who prefers to get to know a girl before asking her out. How long would you recommend being friends with someone before asking them out? Does it make a girl feel uncomfortable if you ask to talk to her when she isn't busy (for example, lets say I am in the same class w/ a girl I am interested in. If she doesn't have a class afterwards, would it make her feel uncomfortable to have a one on one conversation about random topics?). I am asking this because I have tried this countless times before, and I always get the same responses: "why don't you just go home after class is over", or "why do you stay here just to talk to me?". I don't know how to interpret this. Does this mean she isn't interested? 3) The other question I have relates to calling girls. Is it better to call once and leave a voicemail, or maybe call every 1 1/2 hour until she picks up? I am one of those people who prefers not to leave voicemails because I tend to say stuff I never planned. Also, If I call I girl to ask a girl out and she says yes, then calls to cancel because of a "family emergency" more than once. Is this an automatic rejection? If she cancels due to unexpected circumstances, is it O.K. to assume she will never call me back to reschedule so the only way to keep in touch with her is to call her back? How much time should I wait to call back if it's a family emergency? 4) What are maybe some signs that a friend is maybe starting to like you? Will they treat you differently? I have had friends who were positive when they were around me in the beginning, but began to criticize me for no apparent reason. I always think I must have said or did something wrong, but when I look back that is never the case. I always thought that some criticism from girls was a good thing, because maybe they are interested in me but will consider going out with me if I improved myself. I am not talking about harsh criticism, but criticism such as "why are you so quite right now, you are usually a talkative person", or "I can't believe you didn't go to that event, because I went and you missed out on a lot". Thanks for all responses
susanhenry03 Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 I also have some doubts about dating. And please explain me what is metabolism. ======================= susan http://www.hookup-tonite.com
masala Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 1) It depends on the girl. 2) It depends on the girl. 3) Just one call and a voice message will do. If she wants to call you back, she will. (An effective litmus test for whether she's interested with little face-to-face rejection involved. Highly recommend.) 4) There's no way to tell for sure if someone likes you. The only way to really find out is to ask. Don't be so timid! Girls aren't that scary, I promise.
SilkLeaves Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 1. Nope, no problem. Most of my friends like thin guys, me included. Wear slightly baggy clothes - that can be hot on thin guys. 2. Establish yourself as a fun, friendly guy, but don't let things get too heavy while you're still friends. Do NOT tell her everything about yourself, and do not give the impression that she's the best thing in your life. Leave her with a challenge, then if she accepts a date, move slowly. Leave 'I love her!'s until she seems loved up with you. 3. Leave a message. Sound casual. If she doesn't call back, appear uninterested. 4. Maybe they're frustrated at your shyness, because they like you. Take some chances! I know it's not easy but you'll attract more girls if you at least *act* like you're fearless and outgoing. And don't worry, it'll work out one way or another.
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