music3000 Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 sorry its so long I tried to make it as short as possible. I broke up with my bf about 3 wks ago and its been so hard. I wanted him back after a couple of days and I told him this. I feel like whatever we were going through it could be worked out. im just emotionally charged to make decisions im not ready for. (now this is coming after we got back together for a second time and I did the exact same thing. its almost like the exact same situation. back then I tried NC and it worked after a couple of days) well, when I told him I wanted him back he told me that he needed time to get himself together and he wanted to be single to better himself and I told him I wasn't buying it and it was like history repeating itself with our relationship (he told me basically the samething before). he told me he wasn't lying but I still think he is. since then he sent me comments on a network site twice on a that I replied too but not much. I blog about my life and I guess he read it because he hasn't sent me anything since and he vented to somebody even tho he knew I would read it and also he took me out of his 'top' which I thought was totally petty and also I think he's doing small things to try and get my attention. I just don't know what to do I miss him so much ... us being friends but I've been NC'ing to no avail. I know I should just be patient but im going crazy. I haven't contacted him first since the day I wanted him back. maybe he's waiting for me? but im not gonna chase him. I just don't know what to do I knew this would eventually happen but im starting to think my NC isn't gonna work esp since im leaving for college in a wk and he's staying here. I want us to talk again and not jump back into a relationship but really work it out the third time around. should I just let go? its hard when ur in love with somebody we both just lacked communication. its like I dump him, then want him back, then he says no, then he wants me back and idk! please help thank you!
sid3 Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 It's frequently said here, that if the dumper wants their ex back, then it must be the dumper who initiates contact. makes sense to me.
yongyong Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 you dumped him and want him back? but you don't want to chase him because of your ego? Are we filming a romance movie here?
df273 Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 every action has an equal and opposite reaction. this is the consequence of your action. it could be an endless cycle, where this will repeat itself over and over again, or you could put your ego and dignity aside for a moment or 2 and express what your heart wants. if you are serious about getting him back, i would recommend writing a letter to him. only 1 letter, but take your time and write what you really mean. pour your heart out through a pen. once you get going, it is easier then you could imagine. after you write this letter, read it as if you were him. once you are satisfied, give/get it to him, but do not say anything to him. stick to one letter, unless you get one back, then you can write a reply. do not do any begging or suicide crap. that can only hurt the situation. like i said, pour your heart through your pen. wish you the best.
Author music3000 Posted August 26, 2008 Author Posted August 26, 2008 every action has an equal and opposite reaction. this is the consequence of your action. it could be an endless cycle, where this will repeat itself over and over again, or you could put your ego and dignity aside for a moment or 2 and express what your heart wants. if you are serious about getting him back, i would recommend writing a letter to him. only 1 letter, but take your time and write what you really mean. pour your heart out through a pen. once you get going, it is easier then you could imagine. after you write this letter, read it as if you were him. once you are satisfied, give/get it to him, but do not say anything to him. stick to one letter, unless you get one back, then you can write a reply. do not do any begging or suicide crap. that can only hurt the situation. like i said, pour your heart through your pen. wish you the best. you know whats so funny? i actually wrote a really good letter.. i poured my heart out. but i dont even think that he`s worth it anymore. i found out he was on this random social networking site that he didnt tell me or his best friend about (whos also my friend) and he talked to all of these different girls about me and also talked to them on the phone (which i knew nothing about). the way he talked about me he never told his best friend this or she wouldve told me a long time ago about how he was. it really freaked me out bc u know you think u know a person. it may not seem like a big deal but the things he was saying about me i didnt like it at all. when he shouldve been talking to me late at night, he was talking to them. so he lied to me and the whole time i thought it was something i did. he use to complain about me to them and never told me ANY of this while i told him everything that bothered me about him (miscommunication). he said sexual things to them which pissed me off so much and this was probably a couple of wks before we broke up. im so hurt by him and he acts like its not even bothering him! he basically wants to be a slut. he said all this stuff about me so i dont even know if its even worth it anymore. i got really angry so im not going to contact him again. its not even worth it anymore. i feel really sorry for him actually but i wont allow myself to be friends with somebody like that.
Author music3000 Posted August 26, 2008 Author Posted August 26, 2008 you dumped him and want him back? but you don't want to chase him because of your ego? Are we filming a romance movie here? i know it sounded bad but when i did chase him it never had a good outcome. i put aside my pride the first time and that got me no where with him and it isnt worth it anymore. im just gonna move on.
yongyong Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 what you are saying doesn't make sense. This girl broke up with me and I could say 'what a fxxxin biatch' (in my head:p) and walk away. But I put aside my pride as a man and asked her again if she is not going to regret. I know now that it wasn't a good strategy but...... anyway, you raped:p his pride and you care about the little dent on your pride? I think you should let him go because you don't have too much feeling for him anyway. maybe physical thing:confused: was great but I don't think you guys have strong mental connection. i know it sounded bad but when i did chase him it never had a good outcome. i put aside my pride the first time and that got me no where with him and it isnt worth it anymore. im just gonna move on.
Recommended Posts