Loveplum Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 Ok so we have been together for nearly 3 years. He lives in a very small town. He doesnt have a job or an education beyond Highschool. He has no ambitions whatsoever. I think he really wants to just spend the rest of his life in that little town, doing nothing. Right now he gets a tiny bit of money for helping a relative. He has no other plans for the future and lives at his mom's house. So, why am I even with him? Because he is a nice guy, I can be myself and am comfortable around him, we have similar viewpoints in politics and spirituality and similar personality and lifestyles, I also feel a connection. I live in the city, am working toward a career and have a college education. Theres times where I imagine us together and I see that if we got married and had a kid, I would be the breadwinner and he would be the stay at home dad I guess. I would be the only one taking the kid anywhere since he prefers to stay in his town or sit at the beach. Should I let him go? Im afraid that I wont be able to find someone else im as compatible and comfortable with. What do you think?
Jilly Bean Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 I think this is one of the most rhetorical posts I've seen in a long time. Of COURSE you should dump him! How old are you? I assume early 20's? Why would you want to saddled with a guy who has no ambition, and no desire to better himself or his life? This kind of guy will only bring you down, and leave you with a ton of regrets.
JoeNewbie Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 I am more neutral on a question like this. I say do whatever makes you happy.
Author Loveplum Posted August 24, 2008 Author Posted August 24, 2008 I am more neutral on a question like this. I say do whatever makes you happy. well...elaborate,,,,why do you say so.........
Slapshot2286 Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 Ya know, its a funny thing when you're in love with someone. The ultimate thing you have to ask yourself is: what's imporant to you? Is finding a partner that shares your ambitions important, or is finding a partner you're compatible with important? Or the whole package (ideally). Nobody is perfect. In order to spend your life with someone, you have to be able to accept and embrace their flaws. Lack of motivation and drive is a flaw, but is it something you can life with? You should ALWAYS be happy with your situation in life and the person you're with, so are you OK with being the bread winner? Just get your priorities straight with what you want and your heart will tell you the rest!
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