dont judge

[libertywomble]

Ayear ago I was married with 3 children and meet a man quite by accident who was also married we became friends and over time realised that we had fallen in love and wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. He is a wonderful man we are both in our early 40's and have been in unfullfilling but not terrible marriages it is just that we are so so so connected. Anyway over the past year we put a plan in place on how we were going to extradite outselves out of our marriages so that we could be together but so as not to hurt people anymore then we needed to. I had difficulties in that my and my husbands business had failed and we are now facing bankruptcy so I had to deal with that, ie finding a new job etc my husband and I have now separated. My boyfriend also had problems in that his wife had been sick with an illness and althou she is well now it was still very hard on his wife and his 2 children who are in their late teens so he also had to work through that. The problem now is, is that I have done everything I said I would and am free to move on with our life but he keeps extending the deadline on when he is going to become free it has moved from may to June to july, then till after a planned family vacation in August where he told his wife he was not happy and wanted to move out she has freaked and he has now said he cannot be a prick an just leave her as she is still not coping with what she has been through in terms of her illness and that his sons would hate him, and that I have to slow down an just wait longer. I flipped and told him it was over if he could not make a committment then that was that and not to contact me. Well he has not contacted me and I am heartbroken...he is my perfect man. Please what to do...and please do not judge me, no one can judge me as much as i do myself

[Lishy]

I think that you have to realise that his wife is more important to him than you are. I do not mean that to sound mean but maybe your marriage was more unhappy then his and he has decided that the grass is not greener.

 

It is quite easy to get carried away with the excitement of an affair I can imagine but the realities are not so exciting.

 

You gave him an ultimatum and he has made his choice and now you have to live with it and so does he.

 

The truth is that even if you do get your wish and he leaves, you two will never trust each other as you have both proven that you cheat. I am sure you have much better options coming to you.

[yongyong]

you call it 'romance' but rest of the world look at it as 'adultery'

 

you want him to dump his wife and kids and show 'commitment' to you?

WOW I guess he would be really Committed person if he does that lol

 

I guess you have no feeling for your kids either because they are just kids

[wareagle]

Sorry, you came to the wrong place to talk about adultery! Get ready to hear reality talking!! Not many of us hear take kindly to cheating! Especially when children are involved!!!!!!

[Tyra]

Well,while you are heartbroken,so is his wife.You ever thought that you may become a part of this cycle,if the two of you become married?

[mark982]

lady, you've been used!! me myself, i hope you shed a hell of alot more tears.