iwanttolive Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 What I envy most about married couples is the life experience. They have that special someone to share their life with. They experience the joy of having children, nurturing them, watching them get married, have grandchildren. And have their loved ones ard their deathbed. At the same time I don't want to marry any tom dick and harry. What if, I can't find that special someone? How do I cope living alone for the rest of my life? Friends are just not the same. Especially during festive occasions, when they spend time with their loved ones. I'm the only child. What will happen to me when my parents are gone? Anyone here on LS willing to be my special friend?
Mending1985 Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 I understand how you feel...I feel that way a lot as well. And I'm an only child too! I just immerse myself in books and movies when I can't be out with my friends, and I tell myself that one day I will find the right person for me and I won't screw it up this time. And right now, I need to focus me and being me. And also, learning to enjoy your time alone is essential before entering a relationship so make the most of it!
Beee Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 iwanttolive - oh my god... I might as well have written your post.... I feel EXACTLY the same.... Having friends and extended family is great, but you cannot share life's little things with them... you cannot be their universe all the time.... I am scared too... petrified... but what choice do we have, other than keep going..?? There are days when I just want to be a kid again and know that I have my mum and dad and my biggest problem is I've had a fight with my friend over a doll.... but then, I can't turn back time... I can only move forward and hope, hope that one day I will meet the person I am desitined to be with (or right now, hope that my ex has made a big mistake).... Be strong I guess, but I know its hard when you felel low.... a MASSIVE hug to you!
Author iwanttolive Posted August 23, 2008 Author Posted August 23, 2008 Hi Mending, I enjoy my time alone too for now.. Thats because im still in my 20s.. But im scared out of my wits about the future.. Im focusing myself on making tonnes of money and treating myself well. But im afraid one day i'll feel there's a vacuum in my life.. Beee, i read your post just now.. Hugs to you too.. Im also like you. I 've lived alone in a foreign country for more than 10 years. Although my family is just 2 hours flight away.
m00nstone Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 I completely am feeling the way that you are feeling right now. I hate being single for those exact reasons. I love being able to spend nights in just watching TV and having someone to cuddle with. I'm in my early 20s, and I look around, and people are getting married in droves, while my friends and I are stuck in graduate school, so this is a big topic of conversation for us. I just had a major relationship crisis, so right now, I'm feeling completely alone, and on top of that, I don't know if I am on the right career path. I know that this time of my life is for figuring that stuff out and meeting new people, but right now, I just feel so alone. What I do is give myself 15-30 minutes to mope about whatever it is I want to mope about. Then after that, I have to give 2-3 hours to doing something productive, whether it is studying, cooking, a movie, etc. I think forcing myself to limit moping makes it easier rather than telling myself that I can't mope at all.
Phateless Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 Find some activity you could enjoy that has a big social circle that goes along with it. You'll have the company you want and probably end up meeting someone you like in the process. Swing and salsa dancing did that for me. My dad goes Zydeco dancing every week, and has 100 friends there. Everybody is his age too. (40-70)
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