kittensmittens Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 i don't know if other girls on here get this ever, but i sometimes wonder if the guys i date are ever gay. (weird, i know.) probably....they aren't. but sometimes i get paranoid about meeting some guy, falling in love and finding out years later that he's gay when he finally comes out of the closet....lol. has this ever happened to anyone on here? and are there ways to tell if a guy is gay, other than the obvious signs?
Green Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 Make a friend with gaydar... I think its more something a guy should worry about because most women are pretty bi... any way it should be pretty obvious that hes straight... by the way very insulting to ask a guy if hes gay
spookie Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 Well, my first bf was bi when I met him at the tender age of 13 and later fcvked mainly dudes I think. That was San Francisco though, and he was raised by four lesbians. In his case it was nurture that made his sexually so open. My long-term ex I don't think was gay physically but definitely so emotionally/mentally. Does anyone else think that's possible? When an attractive was around, he'd completely ignore me and spend the time wooing him. It was weird. I think some people are straight and some people are gay and many others are various shades of bi, and I don't think I'd be bothered by my partner falling into the in-between as long as I knew he was emotionally committed enough not to give that part of his sexually too much thought. After all, relationships require a different sexually than when we're single... and the good kinds of partners know and understand this. I'm not too paranoid about falling in love with a completely gay dude because having talked to my best friend, who is gay, about his sexually, I'm convinced I would know before "several years" later. He says he knows he's gay because thinking about breasts does nothing for him and thinking about vag's makes him literally nauseous. (That and he likes cock.) I'm pretty sure you'd know.
Green Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 Well, my first bf was bi when I met him at the tender age of 13 and later fcvked mainly dudes I think. That was San Francisco though, and he was raised by four lesbians. In his case it was nurture that made his sexually so open. My long-term ex I don't think was gay physically but definitely so emotionally/mentally. Does anyone else think that's possible? When an attractive was around, he'd completely ignore me and spend the time wooing him. It was weird. I think some people are straight and some people are gay and many others are various shades of bi, and I don't think I'd be bothered by my partner falling into the in-between as long as I knew he was emotionally committed enough not to give that part of his sexually too much thought. After all, relationships require a different sexually than when we're single... and the good kinds of partners know and understand this. I'm not too paranoid about falling in love with a completely gay dude because having talked to my best friend, who is gay, about his sexually, I'm convinced I would know before "several years" later. He says he knows he's gay because thinking about breasts does nothing for him and thinking about vag's makes him literally nauseous. (That and he likes cock.) I'm pretty sure you'd know. Thinking about vagina makes me hungry... nott
xpaperxcutx Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 Sometimes you can tell and sometimes you can't. If you seen the movie Clueless, then you remember when Cher the main character fell in love with the new transfer student Christian. Only thing that happened was, he was so straight, that he was actually gay.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 I have gone out with gay dudes. One was a high school flame. I just found out about him when he friended me on Facebook. His appearance on the top of a Gay Pride parade float gave it away. The other one happened about 12 years ago. I found out while we were dating. In that case he was really trying to deny who he was. Clues in hindsight: 1. He never really wanted to have sex. We cuddled a lot. 2. He told me he wished I was a man. LOL, no really we were making out one night and we were talking about fantasies and he said he wished I was a man. I challenged him on that and he completely even denied he had just said that. That was the end of that. Sometimes I feel like there are more and more gay people out there, like they are growing them in petri dishes or something. The good news is that as it becomes more and more accepted, people have less of a need to hide it. Thus, fewer sham marriages.
nopainnogain Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 Ask him to look on the bottom of his right/left shoe...... now, when lifts his foot and if he looks at it from behind then he is gay
Author kittensmittens Posted August 23, 2008 Author Posted August 23, 2008 thanks everyone. my friend and i were talking about this the other night and she claims that if a guy always wants to have sex "doggie style" and if he doesn't really touch your breasts much, then he's probably gay.....so it got me to thinking about this. also, i saw some talk show a while back where some researcher had found all these weird physical indications for someone being gay, like the direction his hair swirls on the back of his head, for example (i don't remember the details of any of them, really though). I just feel like it probably happens a lot more than people realize....there is still a stigma attached and even though society as a whole is becoming more accepting, there are some families that aren't. which, i would think, makes it difficult for some men to come to terms with it and admit, even to themselves, that they might be gay. anyhoo....i'm sure i sound more paranoid on here than i really am, but i do wonder sometimes. anymore input would be appreciated!
Green Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 try putting a cross to his skin or splashing holy water. I don't think the breast or the doggie style thing are true. Society defiently may have something to do with it, but I think that only stops people from doing more bi ****, not from being into women. I think you just need to learn how to trust people you love. look at that guy hosting the MTV what ever awards... he looks kind of gay... if u were dating him I could see u be nervous
jadedone Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 I love doggie style, and not that big on breasts. I've just always been more turned on by nice legs, butt, and a tight waist. so don't let that fool you. The whole metro-sexual lifestyle doesn't help any, when it comes to figuring out who is gay and who is straight. Try asking him questions about MIchael Phelps, and see if he shows any interest in him.
Shygirl15 Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 I sometimes wonder if 2 of my ex-BFs are gay. They both seemed to have something gayish about them. One used to shave his arms (?), another one was more into making out, kissing etc but not sex. This one once asked me what turns me on most, and I said kissing. It turned out that holding hands is what turns him on But then they are both Virgos, and I'm told Virgo is a female zodiac sign, and some males of this sign tend to exhibit feminine tendencies sometimes.
nopainnogain Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 another one was more into making out, kissing etc but not sex. This one once asked me what turns me on most, and I said kissing. It turned out that holding hands is what turns him on . WTF lol......this is a double standerd. When we do that stuff we are called gay. When guys dont do that we are written off. I like holding hands . I like when a girl kisses the back of my neck,and nibbles on ears. The turns me on like a mofo.
You'reasian Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 thanks everyone. my friend and i were talking about this the other night and she claims that if a guy always wants to have sex "doggie style" and if he doesn't really touch your breasts much, then he's probably gay.....anyhoo....i'm sure i sound more paranoid on here than i really am, but i do wonder sometimes. anymore input would be appreciated! LMAO! What if he can't keep his hands off your breasts and likes you to be on top?
You'reasian Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 i don't know if other girls on here get this ever, but i sometimes wonder if the guys i date are ever gay. (weird, i know.) probably....they aren't. but sometimes i get paranoid about meeting some guy, falling in love and finding out years later that he's gay when he finally comes out of the closet....lol. has this ever happened to anyone on here? and are there ways to tell if a guy is gay, other than the obvious signs? Straight up ask him. Work it into the conversation some how?
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 Straight up ask him. Work it into the conversation some how? Can you hand me the remote? Here you go. Are you gay? No, really. Are you gay? (baffled expression, stuffs his face with chips and guacamole)
almost famous Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 Is he gay? I think he has a good body but not really good looking. I think he may be gay possibly because he is never seen with a woman and it is never brought up, besides his sister and mom. Wouldn't you think if he wasn't gay his girlfriend would be at the Olympics cheering him on? Gay. I love doggie style, and not that big on breasts. I've just always been more turned on by nice legs, butt, and a tight waist. so don't let that fool you. The whole metro-sexual lifestyle doesn't help any, when it comes to figuring out who is gay and who is straight. Try asking him questions about MIchael Phelps, and see if he shows any interest in him.
You'reasian Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 Can you hand me the remote? Here you go. Are you gay? No, really. Are you gay? (baffled expression, stuffs his face with chips and guacamole) I find it funny that a girl would ask if her bf is gay, especially if they have sex alot. More so if they can climax together...
Shygirl15 Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 WTF lol......this is a double standerd. When we do that stuff we are called gay. When guys dont do that we are written off. I like holding hands . I like when a girl kisses the back of my neck,and nibbles on ears. The turns me on like a mofo. See, you LIKE holding hands, but he GETS TURNED ON by holding hands!! Like how?? Screams gay to me. lol
xpaperxcutx Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 See, you LIKE holding hands, but he GETS TURNED ON by holding hands!! Like how?? Screams gay to me. lol It could've been a fetish... ( even I can't believe it myself though) And you can't ask someone if they're gay or not, they're probably lie through their teeth. Pay a male stripper to drop by the house and go out of town. You'll know when you get back.
xpaperxcutx Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 Is he gay? I think he has a good body but not really good looking. I think he may be gay possibly because he is never seen with a woman and it is never brought up, besides his sister and mom. Wouldn't you think if he wasn't gay his girlfriend would be at the Olympics cheering him on? Gay. Aww come on... Can't a girl have fantasies without thinking Michael Phelp's gay?
amymarieca Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 Well, I've been wondering the same thing for a very long time too. I then figured it out when my ex got a blow job from my gay best friend. Do you think that might mean he's gay? Ha ha! Don't worry, I dumped his ass a long time ago.
nopainnogain Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 See, you LIKE holding hands, but he GETS TURNED ON by holding hands!! Like how?? Screams gay to me. lol I dunno. Ive gotten semi hard from holding hands. Usually when we are still in the honeymoonstage. I guess its the butterflies and anticipation of good things to come:)
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