Im sitting on my bed, wondering wat 2do wif my life n lonely

[iwanttolive]

Wondering what life should be.. How do I live a life.. What is a meaningful life.. Family overseas, i'm lonely.. Never had a good rs, wondering if i ever would..

[dire]

Just know that other people in the world that are going through the same thing, if not something worse.

 

You're not alone - and other people have gone through this time of stuff before and came out on top. You will too.

[LateBloomer]

You sound a bit depressed. But don't despair, there are many things you can do about it. Most simply: therapy & meds. More involved: exercise, get a new hobby, FORCE yourself to get out and meet some people, exercise (again), play music, etc....

 

Get the idea? Just pick one little thing, if you can. Deep down, there are things you really like to do, map that to something concrete you can do today, or tomorrow, or by the end of the week.

 

It's really hard in the beginning. But as you get momentum, it will get easier. I've recently had my world turned upside down and have had to literally reinvent myself. My plan initially was:

 

- volunteer

- yoga

- 12 step meetings

- pilot's license

- reconnect with old friends, etc...

 

Not all of those things have happened yet, but some have. I can feel already with just the few new things I've put in my life I feel better. I imagine that when the rest kick in, I'll feel better still.

 

Life is a choice, like ordering food at a restaurant. The difference is that you have to work a bit to get desert!

[nowhereman82]

Things will not change over night so do not get upset when things are not moving at a pace you want. There are tons of individual small steps that eventually create the full life you are looking for.

 

My family is only about 2 hours away but that's still far enough for me to feel alone. As many here I did not work on and build friendships as I spent all my time with my ex. Make lots of little decisions. Personally I chose to sign up for 1 college class to get back in to the swing of things. Study groups are a great way to socialize if so inclined.

 

Ever wanted to know how to dance a certain style? Another great way to get out, have fun, and possibly meet new people. Take some Salsa lessons

 

Biggest thing to finding meaning is to act on those thoughts of yours. If watching something and thinking "wish I could do that" pops into your head.....well why can't you? Go for it! And get good at it. That's how you find meaning.

 

Best of luck

[sedgwick]

What do YOU want out of your life? Rather, what do you want out of yourself? Imagine the life you want to live in your wildest dreams, then figure out what would be required to get it. This sounds so simple and so cliche, and obviously it's not simple at all, but it's the simplest place to start.

[wareagle]

I did the same thing for about 2 months after she left me! I drove my friends crazy with questions about life, love, happiness. I to was the loneliest man on this planet, I felt alone in a crowd full of people. My friends were the best thing ever!!! Without them I wouldn't have survived! Hang in there! Sometimes you have to look inside yourself to find the answers you are looking for.