me007 Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 When I was talking to me ex last month going through all the begging and whys, I asked if he is seeing someone else and he didn't really give me a straight answer. He said "Oh no, I'm not answering that and getting myself in more trouble" Not sure if he didn't want to answer because if he said "no" that would make me think there is still hope and I'd keep bothering him, but if he said "yes" I'm going to start asking who it is and where they met and if I knew her...he could also just say "yes" so I'd stop bothering him too. He is a decent guy that always has had LTR (from what he told me) so I don't think he'd just go for a rebound relationship or choose a girl who would want to be a rebound. One relationship he had for 4 years and waited a year to date again, then one girlfriend he dated a few months and said things just faded between them with no hard feelings and he dated the next girl about 3 months later. After that one ended it was 7 months and he met me. I've been out of his place for about 2 months now...so if he is dating someone else someone else already.. ,it does kinda hurt he'd be over me so soon... but in a way I think it gives a relief there is no hope left. Is there a better way to go about asking him if I talk to him again? He has no Myspace or Facebook... I don't talk to any of his friends..the only real way to know is if he tells me himself.
Angel1111 Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 A vague answer is kind of an answer in itself, isn't it? Yeah, it hurts to think he has moved on that fast but that's just guys - they will find someone to sleep with very quickly because it makes them feel better. And that's really typical. Most of the time, those relationships don't work out so it probably doesn't matter. It makes them feel better to connect with someone else so that they feel less connected to their last partner. If someone puts me in a position where I have to second-guess what they're doing, it's such a turn-off for me that I will completely shut down emotionally. I can't stand playing guessing games and situations where that's involved just really annoy me. Asking him if he's with someone will only make you look pathetic and feed his ego. It will also make him feel cornered and you will most likely get what you got before - a vague answer, or a complete lie. Don't waste your time asking people - especially men - direct questions that put them on the spot. It's a total waste of time.
CaliGuy Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 Don't have to wonder, I know... and I don't care Better she is his problem than mine! LOL
dire Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 Don't have to wonder, I know... and I don't care Same here; I know she is talking to someone else. Right now I have to focus on myself. I ask myself does she even care if I was to be seeing anyone else right now? Chances are she doesn't, so why should I care if she's seeing anyone else?
nopainnogain Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 I know without knowing and dont care either.
Kman21 Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 I know my ex is with someone else, but can I do? Best thing is to cope with it and try to move on with life
Ingenue Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 Oh I'm pretty certain that my ex is seeing others since the whole reason he broke up with me was because he needed to see what romance with other women was like. It is just a bit disturbing that I'm taking all this time to heal myself, work through the emotions of a failed 5 year relationship and he's already out there dating other women. While I'm on complete NC with him, if we were to re-establish the friendship, I'm quite certain that I would not want my curiosity indulged. There's nothing that says setback more in my mind than asking your ex whether he's off with another woman when you're not over him. Why subject yourself to that kind of emotional torture?
wareagle Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 Yea, I don't have to think either I know for a fact! She was talking to someone the day she dumped me, so in reality the truth is she had been talking long before her decision to end things! She is the type of women who needs a man to validate herself so she had to have one lined up in order to let me go! Less than 2 months later she was pregnant and getting married! Tore me up at first, especially since I was in NC mode and she text me telling me she was marrying the man of her dreams and then she was pregnant shortly after that! I don't really care anymore either it's been over 5 months Nc on my part! I really feel bad for this new guy cause he is in for a world of hurt! I'm so glad and thankful I didn't screw up and marry her or have children with her, because I would have had to deal with this crazy chick in some way or another for the rest of my life!
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