scold2886 Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 I Posetd Thi Eariler but it was hard to read someone fixed it for me thanks but i need all the help i can get what should i do Ok, I moved from Boston to North Carolina 5 years ago. I met this girl that I have been with for 4 years. One day she just walked out the door. So when we meet, we hit it off very quick. We rushed into things. At the time I was 17 and she was 15, we moved in to her dad's and we did all the same things. Like all the same things, it was always good. Well since march of this year, my life got crazy and I got stressed so much. We both started fighting about little stupid things, but she always said she loved me. Also, last summer when I asked her if she wanted to be in this long term (because my family was moving and i had no one else around here), she said yes. So I stayed. Over the last couple of months, we were fighting. Work and life are getting stressful. I found out that she was talking and hanging out with other guys behind my back. So, I got mad at one night and questioned her on many different times. She told me not to worry about, "I only love you and you’re the only guy I want to be with". So I trusted her with that. Even though I've seen and heard things, I believed what she always said. So we started not to fight as much and chilled out with each other now. At the beginning of July, I was 21 and she was 19. She had a good weekend with me. We went to a concert and hang all weekend. No problems at all. So as I left to work, she gave me a kiss said, “I love you” and “Goodbye, see you tonight”. Now when I got home she wasn't there. So I called her a couple of times, but there was no answer. So I was like "Wtf, what is wrong? Is she ok?" It took her 3 days to tell me and she didn't even tell me directly. She told her mom to come over and tell me that it was over. She will not come back. So I was like "ok, what the f***!" So after about a week, the week we were supposed to go out of town she text me saying she'll be back on Monday. She was sorry. Then the next day, she told me in a text message to get my stuff and leave. So after 4 or 5 days, after going back and forth, I left and drove 100miles to my dad’s house. Within the next 2 weeks, I called her and texted her for like 1000 times to figure out why is she doing this. When she called me back, she said I could come by and see her to talk about things, but only as friends. So I was like, "ok... ". She also said that we could spend the weekend together. Two days before, a friend of mine (a girl) looked up my phone and got her number. She doesn't like this friend because this friend has always got feelings towards me. That friend called her and started talking with her and made her calls me "my ex", screamed at me, and hangs up before I could speak a single word. Then, the day I went to see her. There was a car in the drive way and I decided to go and talk to her. It was the car of this 24 years old guy that she told me she wasn't talking to. She didn't open the door just because of a big scene with the police, which made we both ended up putting warrants on each other. Even though we are not going to do anything in court, we will forget about it and even though I tried so hard asking her to change her number, I don't know how she feel or why we can't work it out. I might have pushed her away. And yes, this stupid girl messed up the only chance I thought I would had have. But all I want is to talk to her and work things out. It was so good until I started to get so stressed and I can’t even call her now. It's been only 2 months since this all happened. I think she started dating that other guy now. She still won't speak to me and she didn't reply the emails I sent her. It has been about 2 weeks since the last time I heard from her, but I wanted her in my life so bad. We were perfect, but now I couldn’t even talk to her. I don't want to come by to her house. I think she got a new guy and doesn't even care that I've done more for her in her life than anyone has ever. What should I do? Please help because I'm getting crazy no matter what I do. I can't get her off my mind and it sucks! I loved and cared for her so much. How can I win her back? Please help...!
norajane Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 I'm sorry this has happened to your relationship - sometimes things just don't work out. It would appear that she was cheating on you with this guy and had fallen out of love with you. Falling out of love can happen when you get together while you're young and are together for a long time. You grow, you change, and things just don't feel right anymore for one or both people. I don't believe you can do anything at this point to get her back. She doesn't want to hear from you, and she doesn't want to get back together, and you have restraining orders on each other (?). The only option you have is to accept the reality. It will be hard on you emotionally for a while, but with time, you will move on. Take care of yourself.
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