I love her..but pushed her away ..how to get her back

[scold2886]

Ok i moved from boston to north carliona 5 years ago and i met this girl that i been with for 4 years and one day she just walked out the door..so when we meet we hit it off very quick we rushed in to things at the time i was 17 and she was 15 and we moved in to her dad's and we did all the same things like all the same things it was always good well sense march of this year my life got crazy and i was getting stressed so much and we both started fighting about lil stupid thing's but she always said she loved me and all so last summer when i ask her if she wanted to be in this long term because my family was moving and i had no one else around here she said yes so i stayed but over the last couple months of us fighting and between work and my life getting stressful i found out she was talking and hanging out with other guys behind my back so i got made one night and question her on many different times and she told me not to worry about i love only you your the only guy i want to be with so i trusted her in that and even tho i seen and heard things i believed what she always said so we started to not fight as much and chillied out with eachother now at the start of july me now 21 her 19 she had a good weekend with me we went to a concert and hang all weekend no problems at all so as i left to work she gave me a kiss said i love you and goodbye see you tonight now when i got home she wasen't there so i called her a couple times no anwser so i was like wtf what is wrong is she ok... it took her 3 days to tell me and she diden't even tell me she told her mom to come over and tell me it was over she not coming back so im like ok like what the f*** so after about a week the week we were supposed to go out of town she text me saying she be back monday and she was sorry then the next day she told me in a text message to get my stuff and leave so after 4 or 5 days and us going back and forth i left and drove 100miles to my dads house now withing the next 2 weeks i called her and texted her like 1000 times to figure out why is she doing this now so when she called me back she said i could come by and see her and talk about things but only as friends so i was like ok she also said that we could spend the weekend together now 2 days befor a friend of mying stole my phone and got her number out of it a friend that she dont like becasue the girl has always had fellings towards me and called her and started all this stuff with her so she calls me my ex screams at me and hangs up befor i get a word in then the day i go to see her there was a car in the drive way and i decided to go talk to her and it was a car of this 24 old guy that she told me she wasen't talking to and diden't open the door just caused a big scene with the police that we both ended up putting warrents on eachother even tho we we are not going to do nothing in court and forget about it and even tho i tryed so hard to explain she change her number and i don't know how she fell's or why we can't work it out but way i might have pushed her away and ya this stupid girl messed up the only chance i thought i had but all i want is to talk to her and work things out it was so good till i started to get so stressed and i cant even call her now it's been only 2 months sense this all happened and i think she dating that other guy now and she still wont speak to me and the email i sent her she diden't reply its been about 2 weeks sense the last time i heard from her but i want her in my life so bad we were perfect but now i cant talk to her i dont want to go by the house and i think she got a new guy and doesent care that i done more for her in her life then anyone has how was i suppose to be the only man you want to be with and then do me like this what should i do please help because im going crazy no matter what i do i can't get her off my mind and it sucks i loved and cared for her so much just for her to leave like that how can i win her back please help

[sedgwick]

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Ok, I moved from Boston to North Carolina 5 years ago. I met this girl that I have been with for 4 years. One day she just walked out the door. So when we meet, we hit it off very quick. We rushed into things. At the time I was 17 and she was 15, we moved in to her dad's and we did all the same things. Like all the same things, it was always good.

 

Well since march of this year, my life got crazy and I got stressed so much. We both started fighting about little stupid things, but she always said she loved me. Also, last summer when I asked her if she wanted to be in this long term (because my family was moving and i had no one else around here), she said yes.

 

So I stayed. Over the last couple of months, we were fighting. Work and life are getting stressful. I found out that she was talking and hanging out with other guys behind my back. So, I got mad at one night and questioned her on many different times. She told me not to worry about, "I only love you and you’re the only guy I want to be with". So I trusted her with that. Even though I've seen and heard things, I believed what she always said.

 

So we started not to fight as much and chilled out with each other now. At the beginning of July, I was 21 and she was 19. She had a good weekend with me. We went to a concert and hang all weekend. No problems at all.

So as I left to work, she gave me a kiss said, “I love you” and “Goodbye, see you tonight”. Now when I got home she wasn't there. So I called her a couple of times, but there was no answer. So I was like "Wtf, what is wrong? Is she ok?" It took her 3 days to tell me and she didn't even tell me directly. She told her mom to come over and tell me that it was over. She will not come back. So I was like "ok, what the f***!"

 

So after about a week, the week we were supposed to go out of town she text me saying she'll be back on Monday. She was sorry. Then the next day, she told me in a text message to get my stuff and leave. So after 4 or 5 days, after going back and forth, I left and drove 100miles to my dad’s house. Within the next 2 weeks, I called her and texted her for like 1000 times to figure out why is she doing this.

 

When she called me back, she said I could come by and see her to talk about things, but only as friends. So I was like, "ok... ". She also said that we could spend the weekend together. Two days before, a friend of mine (a girl) looked up my phone and got her number. She doesn't like this friend because this friend has always got feelings towards me. That friend called her and started talking with her and made her calls me "my ex", screamed at me, and hangs up before I could speak a single word.

 

Then, the day I went to see her. There was a car in the drive way and I decided to go and talk to her. It was the car of this 24 years old guy that she told me she wasn't talking to. She didn't open the door just because of a big scene with the police, which made we both ended up putting warrants on each other.

 

Even though we are not going to do anything in court, we will forget about it and even though I tried so hard asking her to change her number, I don't know how she feel or why we can't work it out.

 

I might have pushed her away. And yes, this stupid girl messed up the only chance I thought I would had have. But all I want is to talk to her and work things out. It was so good until I started to get so stressed and I can’t even call her now.

 

It's been only 2 months since this all happened. I think she started dating that other guy now. She still won't speak to me and she didn't reply the emails I sent her. It has been about 2 weeks since the last time I heard from her, but I wanted her in my life so bad.

 

We were perfect, but now I couldn’t even talk to her. I don't want to come by to her house. I think she got a new guy and doesn't even care that I've done more for her in her life than anyone has ever.

 

What should I do? Please help because I'm getting crazy no matter what I do. I can't get her off my mind and it sucks! I loved and cared for her so much. How can I win her back? Please help...!