physician Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 i met this girl for a few dates and they were great. we had a really nice time, got kinda tender... she said she felt like she knew me forever, really liked me, wished she wasn't so busy so she could see me more... but since then (2-3 weeks now) she's been completely unavailable short of a few messages - emails - wherein she tells me she has no phone and has been terribly busy moving into a new place and starting a new job but thinks about me and wants to see me soon. then i write back and again, no response for a long time. she's flirting, so i know she's at least 'interested', but what's the deal here? why would she flirt and then disappear?
Green Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 Its called being flakey, you might want to just forget her
Jilly Bean Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 Wait, you're a doctor in Greenwich? Please call me. I would not be so lax in returning your calls... Seriously - she is lukewarm about you. She is giving you just enough to keep you on the back burner, but most likely she is dating someone else.
Yamaha Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 she said she felt like she knew me forever When you get this liine she means you have been befriended but are no longer in the runnung as datable. Her interest level is low so just look elsewhere.
Author physician Posted August 22, 2008 Author Posted August 22, 2008 thanks all, i appreciate the frank responses. usually when a girl's not interested i get the picture you know? but with her it's like she keeps saying these very flirty things and there's no misinterpreting them. but then she goes dark. so i wonder if she'll come around, or if she's only laying low because she has only been single for a short amount of time. jilly, thanks for the funny note, too - apparently being a physician doesn't count for everything though, ha ha!
Sinister Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 I'd keep pursuing it, but not hold my breath over it either.
nopainnogain Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 but since then (2-3 weeks now) she's been completely unavailable short of a few messages - emails - wherein she tells me she has no phone and has been terribly busy moving into a new place and starting a new job but thinks about me and wants to see me soon. then i write back and again, no response for a long time. Give her some of her own medicine. Move on. Cut her out. Dont take any crap. Pimp more girls. she's flirting, so i know she's at least 'interested', but what's the deal here? why would she flirt and then disappear? Because shes a punk
Jilly Bean Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 jilly, thanks for the funny note, too - apparently being a physician doesn't count for everything though, ha ha! It does for me, hon. My folks used to live there, so I know the area well. I thought CT chicks were a bit smarter than this - lol. Call me when you're over her.
Shygirl15 Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 Call me when you're over her. :laugh: BTW, I have seen you walking nonstop for the past 4-5 days, haven't you reached your destination yet??
Mako482 Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 i met this girl for a few dates and they were great. we had a really nice time, got kinda tender... she said she felt like she knew me forever, really liked me, wished she wasn't so busy so she could see me more... but since then (2-3 weeks now) she's been completely unavailable short of a few messages - emails - wherein she tells me she has no phone and has been terribly busy moving into a new place and starting a new job but thinks about me and wants to see me soon. then i write back and again, no response for a long time. she's flirting, so i know she's at least 'interested', but what's the deal here? why would she flirt and then disappear? Just had one of these, drop her like a bad habit. I know it's confusing and tough because she acted so into you, just let it go and you'll be better off. You'll crush your head trying to make sense out of it.
nopainnogain Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 I agree. Shes more expenable than dog $hit. IMHO
Jilly Bean Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 :laugh: BTW, I have seen you walking nonstop for the past 4-5 days, haven't you reached your destination yet?? I'm on the road less traveled...
nopainnogain Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 Whats going on here:confused: jilly and shygirl live near eachother:confused:
Green Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 Whats going on here:confused: jilly and shygirl live near eachother:confused: Its an avatar joke you car
CommitmentPhobe Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 i met this girl for a few dates and they were great. we had a really nice time, got kinda tender... she said she felt like she knew me forever, really liked me, wished she wasn't so busy so she could see me more... but since then (2-3 weeks now) she's been completely unavailable short of a few messages - emails - wherein she tells me she has no phone and has been terribly busy moving into a new place and starting a new job but thinks about me and wants to see me soon. then i write back and again, no response for a long time. she's flirting, so i know she's at least 'interested', but what's the deal here? why would she flirt and then disappear? Cos she played you Wanted to prove she could have a doctor if she wanted End of story
Green Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 Cos she played you Wanted to prove she could have a doctor if she wanted End of story we don't know if this guy is really a doctor... I mean it could just be a screen name
nopainnogain Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 Its an avatar joke you car Thanks for the insight webmaster wankster. I agree, hes not a doctor. Probably a chiroprachtor:laugh:
Green Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 Thanks for the insight webmaster wankster. I agree, hes not a doctor. Probably a chiroprachtor:laugh: Probably a secret agent working at bestbuy
gfto Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 she's flirting, so i know she's at least 'interested', If she was interested, she'd be returning your calls and going on dates with you. Flirting does not mean she is interested.
Author physician Posted August 23, 2008 Author Posted August 23, 2008 thanks again all (er, most). needed a good sobering up.
almost famous Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 gfto, I disagree, I usually don't flirt with guys I have no interest in. But maybe that is just me.....I think she is attracted but moving to a new place really can be daunting....I'd give her one more shot, doc.
jadedone Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 No phone? puh leeeez! What woman doesn't have a working cell phone at all times? seriously? She just doesn't want you calling when she's out on a date.
almost famous Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 Yeah but there's these marvelous feature on most cell phones which allows you to 1. turn it off 2. silence it or 3. vibrate it, all three make it possible to date multiple guys and not be interrupted with a cell phone call from one of the competing guys. BUT...since you said she's moving she might have had to change her phone number and maybe she hasn't had a chance to go to the cell phone store yet.....I'm just being real here.
Balthazar Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 Her interest in you is not sky high and will require a great deal of effort on your part. You may be able to make this work, but are probably better served finding a woman who is more attracted to you. CHeers,
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