Ignorant&Innocent Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 How long did it take you to get over getting dumped for the first time? and how did you? if you ever have been dumped, that is. I was dumped by email and she hasn't really talked to me in person. oh...this was about 2 months ago. I see her every week, but she sort of ignores me and avoids getting into conversations with me. I can't seem to get over it because she just won't talk to me...
Arsenic_Child Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 Honestly is dos vary from person to person, i know me personally my ex before this last break up took me over 7 months to move on
Author Ignorant&Innocent Posted August 22, 2008 Author Posted August 22, 2008 oh. thats a long time. Seems like I may even be stuck longer than that.
Mending1985 Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 My very first break up took me about 4-5 months to get over. My most recent one - its been 2 years.
Author Ignorant&Innocent Posted August 22, 2008 Author Posted August 22, 2008 holy cow... it's not even worth trying.
atzorvas Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 I can feel you there, my ex broke up with my through face book after 2 years. It took me a month to get over her. Its tough for you because you see her every week, is there any way you can avoid that? What really really helped me get over her was the closure I got. She needs to give you that. Initially I annoyed the crap out of her and she told me its completely over. But somehow I kept talking myself into a false hope and I would annoy her again. Eventually she swear at me, told me to go to hell, said nasty things, blocked me from facebook, aim, email, phone. That REALLY helped. Throw away anything that reminds you off her. You deserve much better, and you will find someone much much better. Think of it as a learning experience and try to get out and make yourself busy. Just a word of warning...if you still want to be friends (personally I think it will prolong the hurt), or you still love her and really want her back then dont do what I did. I can promise you this though...if you get on with your life, avoid/ignore her, get yourself busy..then eventually the hurt will go away. Its an awesome feeling when it happens. You will still think about her every now and then, but you won't feel hurt. I can't wait until the day when I completely forget her. I truly loved my ex once, but she dumped me and moved on and I have to move on too. Its her loss. It if wasn't for her, I wouldn't be able to meet that some special in the future =)
Mending1985 Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 It's worth trying - I never gave myself the chance to get over the guy. I was still sleeping with him and talking to him everyday. Now I'm back on NC and it'll be a while but I'll get over it eventually
Author Ignorant&Innocent Posted August 22, 2008 Author Posted August 22, 2008 There's no way to avoid seeing her....we go to the same church. She's been one of my best friends for years. That's why I'm so surprised about the way she is acting. She doesn't talk to me anymore. I've never done anything to hurt her, so I just don't know what it is.
WiseOne1 Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 Well it took me 9 months to get over my first ex "first love" it varies, and Its also gonna take longer usually due to how long you have been together.
Kman21 Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 its 7 months since... and im still not 100% over
sedgwick Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 It took me 10 years to get totally completely over my first love. I had relationships with other people during that time, but I never fell in love like I had with him. It's been 13 months since my last breakup and it's still very painful. I am in no way over him or ready to date again, even though I know he's been over me for a long time. It sucks.
Ingenue Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 I'm at the two month mark and while I'm doing much better, I know I'm nowhere near where I need to be to start dating again and be completely healthy, healed and well. We all heal at different times. I had a friend who told me that you shouldn't try to legislate when you're going to feel better and completely healed. We're all different people with different ex-relationship histories and we don't need to put more pressure on ourselves than we already do.
SweetTux Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 For me my first serious ex took me about a year or so after we stopped seeing each other.(which was longer than when we were officially broken up) I thought I loved her but now that I look back on it after other relationships I realize I didn't really. Another ex... it took me like 3-5months before i moved on enough to date other people but I don't think i'm 100% over her. Maybe like 90%. My most recent ex I'm definitely not over at all... Its been almost 2 months since the breakup and I thought I was doing really well last week and than after the weekend I just fell apart agian. Now I'm not even NC anymore... It really depends on you and how much you feel for your ex. It could take forever, and it could be really short. Just try not to be in a rush because it makes it worse I think.
Author Ignorant&Innocent Posted August 23, 2008 Author Posted August 23, 2008 Well, I guess I'll just wait and see then. Hopefully it doesn't take too long. Honestly, I wish none of this would have happened in the first place.
Kman21 Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 Well this is life man, we have to learn how to cope with the good and the bad. Thats whats life is all about.
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