Jay_Bird Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 The girl I have been dating for 10 months wants to start seeing other people. In fact there are two guys that she says she wants to start dating. She said she does not want to rule us out, but she dosen;t want to commit to me either. She had gotten out of an 8 year relationship and says she wants to know for sure what she wants. This is hard for me. I love her and want to keep persuing her, but inside I'm telling myself to let go. Even though I want her as a partner, I know by letting her go, it might bring her back. I am confused. I feel stupid for still loviong someone that doesnt love me back. I am an attractive guy and girls are no problem for me to get, its just that I really thought she was the one, and still do. Advice? Words? Is anybody in the same situation and what did you do? Jay_Bird
nopainnogain Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 Advice? Words? Is anybody in the same situation and what did you do? Jay_Bird Date other girls too,forget her for now. listen to this. It will set you straight lol http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KXS1XXdgaSk
WiseOne1 Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 The girl I have been dating for 10 months wants to start seeing other people. In fact there are two guys that she says she wants to start dating. She said she does not want to rule us out, but she dosen;t want to commit to me either. She had gotten out of an 8 year relationship and says she wants to know for sure what she wants. This is hard for me. I love her and want to keep persuing her, but inside I'm telling myself to let go. Even though I want her as a partner, I know by letting her go, it might bring her back. I am confused. I feel stupid for still loviong someone that doesnt love me back. I am an attractive guy and girls are no problem for me to get, its just that I really thought she was the one, and still do. Advice? Words? Is anybody in the same situation and what did you do? Jay_Bird I Went thru this exact same problem with one of my exs along time ago. She said that alot of guys wanted to date her, and thefore she wanted to see what else was out there. She had a couple of guys in mind that she wanted to try dating already before we broke up. This is the hardest type of breakup ever, these ex's rarely ever come back, infact i'd say in this type of sistuation the chances of getting back together are less than 10%. Your ex doesnt wanna settle down, or doesnt want anything serious, she bassically wants to play the field. Which makes it impossible for her to ever come back, because once when 1 relationship fails, shes just gonna move from guy to guy. This ex of mines, started out just wanting to date around maybe 3 or 4 guys, that number turned to 32 in the end. Yes I mean 32. After all of this is said and done, you'll have to make the decision rather you want her back or not. You'll start to grow resentment towards her and might get over her. Behavior like this is gonna really push you away from her. This drama with my ex played out for A Year and 3 months. She'd come back every 4 months and pretends she wanted to get back together, and once she seen that she had me where she wanted me, she ran off again. She told a couple of my friends, because we both shared the same friends, she said that she could have me back anytime she wanted to so therfore there was no reason for her rush!!!!!!!! She finally came back for good once, but she was a whore, when she left she were a virgin, and when she came back she was like Porno star. I Turned her down and told her we could be friends though, I was over her and had a new GF during that time that I was already inlove with. So im not gonna say give on her, im gonna say go NC, and stay away. If she comes back, then thats fine, but just stay out of her way until she contacts you with those intentions. Trust Me.
Melrapuo Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 Yes, definitely start doing NC immediately. Don't give into this, because you know yourself that this is something you don't want. Read some of the old posts of people who continued to contact their ex, despite advice to do otherwise. You'll only make things worse. Get rid of things that would make you wanna contact her; her screenname, phone number, etc. It'll help you get your mind straight, and help you separate your emotions from your thoughts. Believe me, you want those two to be two different entities, because if you start making decisions through your emotions (i.e. getting so worked up that you call her out of desperation) things won't work in your favor (whether it is getting her back or getting over her). NC = win/win, and you can't do much else than that.
SadGuy99 Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 DO NOT TRY with her. If you move on to someone else that will give you the best chance to get back with her. If you try to chase her, its a guaranteed loss for you and you get to watch your actions drive her into someone elses arms. Be Confident, dont be wimpy. Show her you are "the man" and she should desire you because you are better than any of those other suckers. Strength and confidence is attractive to women so be strong and confident.
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