Gia77 Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 I'm just curious to see what the norm is these days.. 1. How long did you and your spouse date for before getting engaged? 2. What were your ages at the time that you got engaged?
Walk Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 1. How long did you and your spouse date for before getting engaged? 2. What were your ages at the time that you got engaged? First marriage - Dated: 4 years. Ages: 23/25 (married 3 yrs) Second marriage - Dated: 4 years. Ages: 33ish (for obfuscations sake ) I'd like to know (if you reply) if you're happily married or not.
trubella Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 First marriage - Dated: 4 years. Ages: 23/25 (married 3 yrs) Second marriage - Dated: 4 years. Ages: 33ish (for obfuscations sake ) I'd like to know (if you reply) if you're happily married or not. lol what is it with you and 4 years lol. is that the cutoff mark for engagment. jk
mopar crazy Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 We dated for about 8 months. We talked about getting M a few months b4 that but he actually proposed w/ my ring 8 months after met. We were M 9 months later. I was 23 he was 25. I wish I would have waited a year or two longer b4 we made that big step. I was too young to get M. I had my fun dating around. I was ready for a CR but don't think I should have M so young.
Walk Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 lol what is it with you and 4 years lol. is that the cutoff mark for engagment. jk Ya know.. I wonder about that. Year four hit, and presto - proposal time.
Sum1'sGot2RepThe530 Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 Dated for 10 months (three of which I was in Marine Corps boot camp) proposed after that when I was on leave (I was 18, she 16). Married at 25 months together (me 20, her 18), but only spent 8 months of that time physically together due to my military commitment (stationed across the country and one tour in Iraq). Got married when I returned from Iraq. Have been married 4 years on October 16th, but marriage is falling apart, getting ready to separate. Everything's fine on the surface, but it's more like we're roommates who have sex, no love (that's how I feel).
melodymatters Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 1st M- I was 22, he was 28, we got MARRIED after 24 days, and were together 7 yrs, and had a child. 2nd M- 37 and 39. Dated SIX years, got married, and he split 3 weeks later. Anulled Current. I'm 40, he's 24 we got engaged after about a month and plan to marry soon. what can I say, I've had a weird life ! LOL
Jake Barnes Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 Dated for 10 months (three of which I was in Marine Corps boot camp) proposed after that when I was on leave (I was 18, she 16). Married at 25 months together (me 20, her 18), but only spent 8 months of that time physically together due to my military commitment (stationed across the country and one tour in Iraq). Got married when I returned from Iraq. Have been married 4 years on October 16th, but marriage is falling apart, getting ready to separate. Everything's fine on the surface, but it's more like we're roommates who have sex, no love (that's how I feel).whoa, i know this sounds corny and out of place, but thanks for your service i'm sorry about the marriage. i hope things work out for you
Sum1'sGot2RepThe530 Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 whoa, i know this sounds corny and out of place, but thanks for your service i'm sorry about the marriage. i hope things work out for you LOL, it's ok. You're welcome. I'll be fine.
Jake Barnes Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 LOL' date=' it's ok. You're welcome. I'll be fine.[/quote']I'm guessing from your post you were there in 03' and 04' and you were with the Marines which means you really went through the tough part.
Sum1'sGot2RepThe530 Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 I'm guessing from your post you were there in 03' and 04' and you were with the Marines which means you really went through the tough part. Sorry to hijack the thread, but I was at Camp Fallujah when Fallujah was the "in" place for the insurgents to be at (2004). I was a computer network tech though, so I never left the base, just took incoming rocket and mortar fire.
trubella Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 1st M- I was 22, he was 28, we got MARRIED after 24 days, and were together 7 yrs, and had a child. 2nd M- 37 and 39. Dated SIX years, got married, and he split 3 weeks later. Anulled Current. I'm 40, he's 24 we got engaged after about a month and plan to marry soon. what can I say, I've had a weird life ! LOL i was thinkin to myself "wierd" then i got to the last line.. hahah thats interesting though.
Jake Barnes Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 Sorry to hijack the thread' date=' but I was at Camp Fallujah when Fallujah was the "in" place for the insurgents to be at (2004). I was a computer network tech though, so I never left the base, just took incoming rocket and mortar fire.[/quote']yeah i remember reading about fallujah on a daily basis back when that was the base of operations for zarqawi and i remember the marine assault and the casualties thats nothing to be modest about trust me sorry about the thread hijack also, but sometimes its good to keep the big picture in perspective
Sum1'sGot2RepThe530 Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 yeah i remember reading about fallujah on a daily basis back when that was the base of operations for zarqawi and i remember the marine assault and the casualties thats nothing to be modest about trust me sorry about the thread hijack also, but sometimes its good to keep the big picture in perspective Yeah I was only out there for a month or so when they went into Fallujah like Sherman's march to Georgia
Aloros Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 1. Dated a year and 4 months before engagement 2. 25 and 29
Author Gia77 Posted August 23, 2008 Author Posted August 23, 2008 First marriage - Dated: 4 years. Ages: 23/25 (married 3 yrs) Second marriage - Dated: 4 years. Ages: 33ish (for obfuscations sake ) I'd like to know (if you reply) if you're happily married or not. No I am actually not married and never have been. I've been with my current bf for 3 years. I am 30 and he is 31. I was just wondering what the norm was. My guess was that people who are older when they start dating (late 20s or early 30s) tend to get engaged within a year or so and those who are younger (18 to early 20s) tend to take their time and date for 4 or 5 years before getting engaged. I must say I was pretty surprised by the responses.
porter218 Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 Together for about 2 months before he proposed. Engaged 10 months before we got married. I was 24 he was 26 when we got engaged
Land_Of_The_Lost Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 Dated for five years. Explained I would not even consider marriage until we were at least 25 years old.25 years old. Proposed on my 25th birthday celebration in front of a train full of strangers…
Touche Posted August 24, 2008 Posted August 24, 2008 First marriage: Dated (on and off) for 6 years before we got married. Married for 3 years. I was 30 and he was 49 when we married. Second (current) marriage: We became engaged after one month of dating and married seven months later. We were 33 and 40. We've been married for 13 years.
Stung Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 wrote back and forth for six months, then started a torrid long distance back and forth thing for another six months before i relocated and moved in with him. after living together about six months, we started talking about marriage, but hadn't made any official statements or plans about it; marriage and kids was an abstract 'thing we're strongly thinking about doing in a couple years' kind of thing. now we've been living together about two years, so dating three altogether, and biology stepped in with a little surprise so we're expecting a baby in november. a couple of weeks ago we decided to get married, currently shopping for rings and talking about ceremonies, whether to elope quickstyle before the bambino comes or wait a year, etc. i'm 33, he's 38.
Annacabana Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 We dated 4 months before we got married. Engaged within a month and a half. I was 23, he was 36.
Enema Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 We dated 4 months before we got married. Engaged within a month and a half. I was 23, he was 36. Wow that's fast. How long have you been married now and how's it working out for ya? The prediction of course, is disaster in <5yrs
Touche Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 Wow that's fast. How long have you been married now and how's it working out for ya? The prediction of course, is disaster in <5yrs Why would you say such a thing? Look at my "stats." Normally I would agree though. But you need more info to predict doom and gloom don't you think?
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