serduszko Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 i don't know what to do... he left me after 6 years together telling me he loves me and he always will. we always planned to be together, to have a family and OUR future. it was a long distance relationship. i'm in europe, he is in the us. he told me that he met somebody,she isn't as pretty as i am and that i didn't do ANYTHING to push him away, but he chose to be with her. he also said he wants to be in touch, he wants to be friends. but is it possible, after plans we had,what was between us, etcis it possible to be friends only?! i can't talk to him on the phone because i would like to look into his eyes and tell him how much i love him, but he doesn't want to hear that, doesn't want to hear what i feel, what he always heard from me!! i'm so in love with him even though he hurt me and still is hurting me!! the worst of all is that he says he still loves me and always will, so how can i give it up if i hear that?! what a stupid break up... break up with somebody you love?! i don't know what to do, and it's been almost a year!!! i'm emotionally devastated!!
LateBloomer Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 First of all, I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Emotional pain is far worse than physical. It takes a very mature couple to be in a long distance relationship, and there normally needs to be some kind of timeline when it will end. It sounds like your BF (or ex BF) isn't very mature and wasn't ready to commit. It sounds like he wants his cake (current lady) and eat it too (you). My gut is to implement NC (no contact), but that's just my opinion. If talking to him doesn't work, then you may have no choice. It's quite possible he would have pulled this farther down the road. It's also possible he has some other issues. How old are you guys? Here's the NC guideline link: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t81399/ Read it over for yourself. I almost wish I had tried it at the beginning, but I just couldn't. I needed to speak my heart. Take deep breaths. It may feel like it, but it's not the end of the world. If you're in Europe, chances are you can meet sine interesting guys (and girls) who might give you a very different perspective. Most European countries have a far lower divorce rate than the US. Family seems more integral to daily life. Good luck. Browse the forums, they can help. So can exercise, lots of it.
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