Shygirl15 Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 At least 3 women posters have posted that they disagree with you, that they like their men to do that. Again, I don't devalue your feeling that you don't want your man to do that - you have every right set that boundary, and to be turned off by men who don't respect it, but based on the small sampling of posts in this thread, yours is not a universal feeling. I always like to keep reminding everyone that we are not the same so it's very fine to have different opinions. The only time I experienced groping was when I was much much younger say late teens and early twenties, from young boys I dated back then, hence my remark on why the title needs to change. So yes, groping is a no, no here. Other forms of PDA are fine. Luckily, none of the grown ups I date has ever attempted to do that that.
Shygirl15 Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 I agree, the fact that she doesn't like it sounds a bit suspect? I don't know, I'm just saying. Oh, Rooster.. you don't need to worry about that. Leave that to the gentlemen I date, okay sweetie?
vanilla87 Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 There is a fine line between sexy fondle and groping in public. I mean if the guy I'm dating puts his hand on me and slides it up under a table and just leaves it on my upper thigh and fondle my thigh a little, thats okay, but to do it where there are children or in a respectable place, it just seems very very wrong. Just think, if you have kids some day would you like them to practice doing that in public? If not then think what your doing by letting a child that isn't yours or that you know have that kind of impression in front of them. Its about being discrete thats sexy, because its the whole your doing something and even if its in public, you do it in ways that no one can see, period, because once you get caught, its all about then being embarrassed and having to know someone has that image on their mind, especially if its a family member you see day in and out. Also I had an ex bf, he would grope me like there was no tomorrow, to the point of slapping my ass in front of his friends and i'm talking like a slap that made a huge cracking sound! He didn't tone it down even when I asked him. It always got on my nerves cause it left his hand print on my @$$ and hurt a little. He would grope me when I wore skirts with the doors open and when people were walking around, which got on my nerves because I didn't wear the skirt to get groped, but to look nice. Long story short he was an @$$ and still is to this day...
Krytie TV Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 I agree that it's nice to feel desirable, but at a certain point it gets irritating. You really like being groped in front of other people? You're not the exclusive majority. My gf loves when I do stuff like that in public. You are unhappy, and I'm sorry, but that doesn't mean everyone is.
Potatocakes Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 I'm not into it and he knows it I told him after about the third time he did it that it was embarassing but I was raised not to be touchy. Not that theres anything wrong with it, we're very affectionate in the bedroom and any private place but my family never hugged or touched unless it was a funeral or wedding(rarely said that we loved each other) so its weird for me.
Walk Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 You're not the exclusive majority. My gf loves when I do stuff like that in public. You are unhappy, and I'm sorry, but that doesn't mean everyone is. Nobody here is the exclusive majority. Unless you are appointing yourself as that majority? I think the issue lies in the definition of "grope". I don't like to be groped by my H. I tolerate it because he enjoys it, and he gets to think he got away with something naughty. But I really dislike being groped. On the other hand.. I love being fondled. Nothing wrong with a bit of 'on the sly' fondling as long as parents and small kids aren't present. Groping = no. Fondling = okay.
nopainnogain Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 My ex use to grab my junk a lot. It was cool . I didnt mind:laugh:
Walk Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 3 Says definitely Like groping: xcirce - likes it ruby slippers - likes it trubella - likes it 4 say they aren't a fan: Shygirl15 - Men don't grope. potatocakes - not into it. mustang sally - not a fan. Walk - not a fan. 4 say okay sometimes, but not all the time: hotgurl - okay with one guy, not with the other GrnEyedGemini - okay sometimes, not always. Alma Mobley - okay sometimes. But can be startling vanilla87 - okay if discrete. Doesn't like groping. nopainnogain is a boy who likes to be groped.
Citizen Erased Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 I like it. When my boyfriend stops I know there is something horribly wrong.
Walk Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 I like it. When my boyfriend stops I know there is something horribly wrong. You like it because you use it as a barometer for your bfs moods? Or you like it because it feels good. Period. Next thought. Period.
bigmanpayne Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 This is a spin-off of the penis-poking thread, which struck a chord with me. Every relationship I've been in the guy has felt like once we're exclusive he has permission to grope me whenever he feels like, whether we're in public or not. My ex would even grab my ass or slyly fondle my breast in public. I've heard other women complain of the same thing. Why do you guys do this? If you're guilty of this behavior with your gf...stop! She doesn't like it. It probably makes her feel demeaned, like a squeeze toy. Just because she's sleeping with you doesn't mean she appreciates being fondled at random times when she's going about her daily business. If you want to show her affection, do something sweet like stroking her hair, holding her hand or kissing her on the forehead/cheek. Don't lunge for her first available girl part. i love to grope. i dont have the things that i am grabbing, thus i grab. its fun. i would hate to have to stop. i mostly grab when i see the particular body part calling my name. i mean if i am walking behind and there are things shaking in a very good way it just screams "SLAP ME, SPANK ME, PINCH ME." or if i am in front and i see 2 water ballons screaming "SQUEEZE ME - SEE IF I WILL BUST," how can you resist that?
Citizen Erased Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 You like it because you use it as a barometer for your bfs moods? Or you like it because it feels good. Period. Next thought. Period. I don't know why I like it, he hasn't stopped the 4 years we have been together so no barometer for moods or anything. Aussie men are very different to others though, a slap on the arse is a "this is my woman" kind of thing. I find that hot.
Ruby Slippers Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 Yeah, I like it, but I think my boyfriend and I are discreet and respectful about it. He told me the other day when we were out that he totally felt like feeling up my boobs, but there were people everywhere, and I did not say anything like "go ahead", so he didn't. He touched some other, more innocuous places, like legs, waist, hips, hands. He just said it and gave me and my boobies a sexy look, and it was cute and kind of hot. If your boyfriend is doing it and you're obviously bothered by it, that's just not cool. But if he gauges your reaction and proceeds accordingly, I think that's just fine.
nopainnogain Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 nopainnogain is a boy who likes to be groped. muwahaha:laugh: what guy doesnt:confused: I would slap my girls a$$ at the right time and place
Walk Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 muwahaha:laugh: what guy doesnt:confused: I would slap my girls a$$ at the right time and place Right. I'm just saying your opinion does not count as "The majority of women like groping" due to the fact that your a guy. I was clarifying in case others were unsure of your gender.
Rooster_DAR Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 Oh, Rooster.. you don't need to worry about that. Leave that to the gentlemen I date, okay sweetie? Ummm Okay....
almost famous Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 I really don't want to see it out in public, but in private I don't mind it as long as it's not overly done so as to feel as just a piece of meat. I need tenderness and romance, also.
cutegirl Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 Being groped in public is hot. Having sex and getting kinky in public is even hotter. I kind of like to be treated as a piece of meat. Every woman is different!
Green Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 My dad always told me grope girls in public and then he would make out with my mom infront of us kids... they were very affectionate with eachother
Storyrider Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 I think the problem is, when they know you don't like it, "it" being anything, not even necessarily sexual, and they keep doing it anyway. That is what my kids do. My husband came up behind me in a store and swatted me on the butt with a newspaper. I nearly jumped a mile, and he knows I hate being startled, and being poked and prodded. Why would he do that to someone he wants to be in good with.
Green Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 I think the problem is, when they know you don't like it, "it" being anything, not even necessarily sexual, and they keep doing it anyway. That is what my kids do. My husband came up behind me in a store and swatted me on the butt with a newspaper. I nearly jumped a mile, and he knows I hate being startled, and being poked and prodded. Why would someone do that? I would have come up behind you and given you the shocker
Storyrider Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 I would have come up behind you and given you the shocker What is the shocker?
Green Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shocker_(hand_gesture)
Storyrider Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shocker_(hand_gesture) How ruuuude BTW, shadowplay, where is the penis poking thread? I missed that.
Citizen Erased Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shocker_(hand_gesture) :lmao: Classy and fun.
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