Tryng2Trust08 Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 So....My BF came over last night and everything was great, as usual. I feel comfortable when we are together and all the worries and insecurities go away when we are together. I never bring anything up to him. He did say something like "you need a lot of attention" and I just said well, no not constant attention, I like my space,also, I just like to know someone is thinking of me and cares about me. And he said he does show it, he drove an hour on a weeknight when he has to work the next morning. I agreed and said thank you it really means a lot and I knew he was tired last night. And he went on to say that this is how his personality is, etc...So, that was that. It was nice seeing him and Im going to try to go at his pace and Im not going to nag at him. He knows what I need, so why keep on harping to him about it. If he doesn't feel the need to give me more its either going to be I need to move on or I accept the situation.
Shygirl15 Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 He definitely cares. Who would drive an hour on a week day to see people they care nothing about? He just has a different way of showing his affections. I don't know, but I think you guys need to meet halfway. He has to compromise and do some of the stuff you want him to do, and you also do the same. He reminds me of my sweet ex-HB. Whenever I complained he never says I love you anymore, he was like, "what, you don't think love you? Why did I buy you that jewelry the other day? Huh?" It was always like why did I do this or that if I didn't love you? To him, I was constantly nagging for nothing. But I'm also like you; I treasure the little things like phone calls, texts, the verbal I love yous etc.
Author Tryng2Trust08 Posted August 21, 2008 Author Posted August 21, 2008 Yes, I starting to understand this more and more....Him coming to see me, taking me to dinner, ball games, the zoo is showing he cares. Driving an hour to see me esp. when he worked all day and has to get up in the morning is a huge gesture to him showing me that he cares a lot for me. So, when I have brought something up he says but I do this, this and this you have to see how hard Im trying, and he sees me as being unappreciative. I believe he has compromised with me..like I said he calls me or texts me everyday, it may not be as much as I like, but he still does it. When I have approached him with my concerns, he has been positive towards me about it, he's never yelled, became angry, nothing. Yes, I really do appreciate the little things, texts just saying good morning have a great day...I guess I have to accept that about him and look at the positives and over all picture. But when we are together he is very very affectionate, he is never cold towards me, nothing like that. O well....we will see!
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