Lynx331 Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 This will be my first post on here.. And I hope to don't mind a little story. First I will give u alittle background about me, I am 22 this is my first serious g/f I've had other girls before but never really felt a "spark" to officially date one.. Except for this one. I met my girlfriend about a year ago at work. I knew when I first looked at her she was gona be important to me, I was drawn to her.. So we started talking and texting eachother. We would text each other all day.. Talking about everything.. And having a great time. We would spend 7 hours in a car just taLking after work most nights. She began asking me to tell her how I felt.. I clammed up because I had never felt this way before and wasnt sure what to do. So it stayed like this for about a month.. When all of a sudden I found out not from her but from a fellow coworker that she slept with two other co workers while we were "involved". When I found out I was devastated, but I couldn't stop thinking about her.. And it occured to me that I was in love with her. So after all things considered in the situation, her being mentally and physically abused in a previous relationship, me not telling her how I felt, alcohol, and her being sincerely sorry for what she did, I agreed to give this a shot. We had our problems in the beginning with me never having a serious relationship before, and her being mentally abused.. But after we worked all that out it was amazing, we would laugh and have fun doing absolutely nothing. She quit working with me, and got another job, which she quit, and has now been unemployed for a month. Without any major effort to find another job. Her dad is nice enough to pay for alot for her.. But it's like she has no job/money drive because of it. So we had talks about it, about how we both need to work in order to have a future.. But nothing seemed to get through to her. 2 days ago we were talking about it again, she got upset and told me she was trying, (but she hadn't even wrote a resume yet) and then told me I need to grow up, and to shut up and for me tostick the job thing.. Up my.. Well u get the idea. So I didn't talk to her for an hour, and she then said well this you not talking to me thing is hurting us, so I said us? I think that went out the window when you told me to shove it. So we are broken up now... But I cannot stop thinking about her. I truely care for her, I just don't know why.. After all this... I still think about her.. I still worry about her.. I still love her.. And I want to be with her.. But we will have nothing if she refuses to work... But then part of me feels that I can have nothing and still be ok with it as long as I have her... We talked non stop the entire relationship.. And we even still talked after the "break up" she says she misses me, and I miss her too. I just feel that maybe she doesn't respect me, everything is always my fault she rarely takes any blame for anything.. Why am I still so in love with this woman.. What should I do? I'm lost and do. Of know what to do. By thE way thanks to anyone who took the time to read this I appreciate it!!
Sinister Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 her being mentally and physically abused in a previous relationship,.... I wish I had a nickle for everytime I heard a woman use this excuse for her sh*tty behavior... I just feel that maybe she doesn't respect me, everything is always my fault she rarely takes any blame for anything.. Again this goes back to what I wrote above. Women hate having to feel responsible FOR ANYTHING. In their heads its always the guys fault... Why am I still so in love with this woman.. What should I do? You should seriously start seeing someone else. Either the jealousy will motivate her to get back with you and start treating you well or you will meet someone worth your time. ...............
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