AlexN Posted August 11, 2003 Posted August 11, 2003 I've dated Meggan for about 9 months we were friends for about 1 year before that. 3 days ago she broke up with me shes 17 and im 20 this was my first relationship. I tried to get her back and she says shes not ready for a relationship right now but i hurt so bad like a hole about the size of three apples. i still love her so much and she told me she doesnt love me i still think i can get her back though if i just give her time but i dont know if i can make it from not doing something very bad to myself. aka i walk home from work along main st. and i dont even look anymore hoping something will peg me off. i know this is bad and i probly wont kill myself but that still leaves alot open i think i just need help in general with whats going on in life. and i need to know if i can get her back. any suggestions?
Starlight43 Posted August 11, 2003 Posted August 11, 2003 talk to God. I know breaking up and the whole feeling of being rejected by the one person you have sooo much love for is probably one of the worst feelings in the world. but everything happens for a reason, and if it's meant to be it will be. Everything eventually works itself out, so when you have questions or pain or anything turn towards God, he carries you through the hardest times.
Author AlexN Posted August 11, 2003 Author Posted August 11, 2003 I'm sorry but i no longer belive in a god and i havent for a long time. thank you for your advice though.
lost Posted August 16, 2003 Posted August 16, 2003 Hey AlexN, I can really associate with your pain, I'm still trying to cope with my gf breaking up with me after 6 years. It really hurts in the beginning, but as time goes by the hurt will pass, you've probably heard it before, but it will. You have to give your gf time, you can't MAKE her love you again, you said that you were her friend before, maybe u can be just her friend again, it's very hard I know, but you MIGHT be able to re-gain her love that way... I can't guarantee it'll work though, but if you love her what else can u do. As for hurting yourself, I too felt like doing this in the first few weeks after my break up, but everytime I always thought about those others in my life that would be hurt by my actions. You're probably thinking that maybe if you get hurt really badly, that she might realise what she nearly lost and love you again, well that was what I thought anyway, but just think of not just yourself, think of what you'll put her, and your other loved ones though. I realised that by doing this I was being very unfair, and also selfish. I know that you're going though a hard time, but all I can say is that take each day as it comes, try and keep yourself occupied, and don't dwell and think about it too hard, you'll only hurt yourself more and feel even more depressed. As I said before, u can't MAKE her love u. Many ppl have told me this: "If it's meant to be it's meant to be", we both love our girlfriends, but if they don't love us, there's nothing that we can do, only hope that they will see the light, but if not, we must look after ourselves the best we can, and go on with life. As I said I know it's hard, but there's no other choice. Don't know if any of this is helpful, but just want you to know that you're not alone in your pain, and that it will ease as time goes by. Hope everything goes well for you, and take care of yourself.
Sarrow Posted August 16, 2003 Posted August 16, 2003 That advice right there that ya have received AlexN is perhaps the best around that you can get. Even the advice that you so easily dimissed. Knowing God, means knowing there is a purpose behind everything that happens. Sometimes we might hate what happened and not know the purpose, but in the end, if we trust in God, then it can only be for the better. Occupy yourself, and stop crying. Many a man on this forum has been faced with rejection and lonelyness, we deal so should you. Remember as said before, if its meant to be it will be. Otherwise, do not worry yourself. You seem like a deep and caring person, you will find that person that returns your love. Untill hold you head up, and be strong.
Author AlexN Posted August 17, 2003 Author Posted August 17, 2003 Ive decided that god is easily dismissed and that lost is in the right i think about her every night and day im even having stupid dreams of being asleep in her lap but lost is do dead on. thank you all.
lost Posted August 17, 2003 Posted August 17, 2003 Hey man, i'm sure it's prefectly natural do dream about her, i remember i use to dream about lying in bed with my girlfriend too, and also was really dissapointed to find out that it was just a dream. I'm sure you'd agree with me when i say that i wish that wot we're going through was simpy a bad dream that we could wake up from. It's probably just natural, you just miss her, and it's still just early days, and these feelings will subside in time. It's a slow and gradual process but it will, trust me. But as i said, we can't just sit around feeling sorry for ourself, we gotta carry on. Time will heal, it's a bit of cliche, but it's true. If she comes back she comes back, if not, it's not, then it's not the end of the world either... there's plenty of other girls out there, and you're also probably thinking that you don't want any other girl, you want YOUR girl back, but as it said, give it time and if's it meant to be, she will return. All u can do i look after yourself, think of all those that love you if you didn't. Anyway take care, and try reading other ppl's stories, they're very helpfull and inspiring, they sure helped me a lot, and talking about how u feel, or posting it here also helps too. Hope all goes well for you.
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