mikedrum13 Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 Hi i while ago i posted a thread, "ex wants me back". there i explained my relation with this girl which lasted 8 years. she was 16 back then and during the last years we had a lot of issues like sex. we didn't had any for about a year. anyway, she ended the relation 5 months ago and soon after we ended she went out with a guy and had sex with him. About a month ago she contacted me claiming i was the man of her life and she wanted to make me happy for ever and all that sort of things. After thinking about it a lot and with the wise help of the people in here i decided to give it a try and "forgive" a lot of the things she did and told me. The fact is she chose me, right? she needed to se the world. The problem is that now, after a couple of weeks going out she started acting strange and distant like she did during the last years of our previous relation. We didn't even had sex. She tells me she doesn't know what is wrong with her and that she is not shure about her feelings and need time to think. At first i told her to think about it but yesterday i called her and we met. I told her that she should forget about me. I don't want to be with someone that wants me one day but doesn't the next. I also told her i was moving on with my life and didn't want to hear from her ever again. I hope someone could try to explain how does a person thinks your are the one and fights for you the way she did but feels completly diferent the next day. I won't deny this is very hard for me, i'm trying to move on but i miss her and i could wait for her or fight for her, but at what cost. Thank guys!
CaliGuy Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 I think the problem is you guys tried to pick up where you left off. You can't start where you left things. You have to start over from scratch. She is young and confused. She needed to see what the world had to offer. I think you did the right thing by telling her that she needed to figure herself out and that you didn't want to be strung along. What I think might be happening is that she likes you because you are familiar to her and comfortable but maybe she sees you much more as a friend. I know that hurts to hear it but actions speak much louder than words. You have to do what you have to. You can't wait around for her forever. Who knows if her feelings will ever come back. The thing is, why wait around for something that may never happen?
flower_fairy11 Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 Good reply, Caliguy, you're so wise! I agree. I know it's hard for you, Mikedrum13, but it sounds like she has a lot of personal issues that she needs to work on. I know it sounds lame, but can someone truly be happy (or give and recieve) in an intimate relationship when they don't even like or know themselves yet?
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