journey1 Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 what does it mean after you break it off and then one person goes completely NC and you find out from their sister that they "just want you to be happy" and thats what was said to me. What does that mean? How can he expect me to be happy when he just abandoned my life?? How does one "be happy"??
Mending1985 Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 He is obviously aware that staying in contact with you will just continue to hurt you (which it will - after 2 years of it - I know) and NC will make you happy in the long run - thats what he means. He still cares, and he doesn't want to hurt you, so this is the right thing at the moment. I hope it gets easier for you x
Ronni_W Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 that they "just want you to be happy" ... What does that mean? It means "I just want me to be happy". Similarly, "You deserve better" means "I deserve better" and "It's not you, it's me" means "It's you!" It's just stuff that is supposed to make the person hearing it feel "better"...but of course it seldom works out that way in real life. In the meantime, Mending is right -- NC will be better for you in the long run (though it may really suck in the short-term.) 1
Sassi75 Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 I got the same crap from my ex.... "You deserve much better than me" "None of this is your fault, it's all me" "I love you and I only want you to be happy" What CRAP! Thinking about what total nonsense all that is just really makes me angry!!
Author journey1 Posted August 21, 2008 Author Posted August 21, 2008 Where have you been and what happened to his bachelor party weekend? Have you takled more to him I have folloeing your thread
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