KaRo Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 To TOL, I don't think guys are supposed to be petite, but I would say 170 of mostly muscle mass would be ideal. Evolution-wise, very thin males aren't ideal. Now, I am around 140 and yes I'd like to gain muscle and am trying. But there is such a thing as "too thin" and I agree that some overweight people deride someone who is of a healthy weight for no good reason.
Throne Of Lies Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 Sure, I agree with that. I said normal though, not ideal. In the past, it was very difficult to get enough food to weigh that much of a good comp.
shadowplay Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 Just be honest with her and say she's not your physical type.
Author Green Posted August 21, 2008 Author Posted August 21, 2008 I just have stopped communication with her and so far so good
Krytie TV Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 If she is about 5' 6" size 0 2 4 is fit over 6 is chubby over 10 is def fat :lmao: This is so absolutely ridiculous that it will make me discredit anything you have said and will say. My ex-wife was size 10 - 12, 126lbs, 5'6", and absolutely HOT. "Fat" wouldn't look as good as she did in a bikini.
Author Green Posted August 21, 2008 Author Posted August 21, 2008 :lmao: This is so absolutely ridiculous that it will make me discredit anything you have said and will say. My ex-wife was size 10 - 12, 126lbs, 5'6", and absolutely HOT. "Fat" wouldn't look as good as she did in a bikini. the girl who I started this thread about is 5'7 and from the looks of the picture cant be less the 180 something, she probably ways over that actualy. I just don't like the shape of things
almost famous Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 I totally agree. At this point, you don't owe her anything. Just ignore her and never talk to her again. Easy as that. No need to feel guilty just cause she is BBW or because you got her number. Just don't ever call her and ignore her, don't email her back and dont ever pick up the phone if she calls. You don't owe her anything. You don't have to make up an explanation or whatever, just go cold turkey. That's what I do when I want to get rid of someone. If it's someone I don't really know (especially if its someone I only met for a day and chatted with online or had just one phone conversation with) then I don't give a damn, I just cut them off. Even if it's someone that I DO know, if they wronged me, I can still cut them off just like that.
almost famous Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 A U.S. size 8 is not chubby. I am a size 6, and even when I was a size 8 (down from a 10) people were telling me how I was too thin. I also did look thin.However a size 8 on a person who is 5'1" might be chubby. I have a friend who is 5'1" and she is a size 4, but she is definitely bigger than I am at a size six. She's not fat, but has a bigger butt and waist than I do. Anyway, size is really a number, I mean you know if you're "big" or "thick" or "skinny" or "slender" from looking at yourself and in the mirror. This is why you always ask for a face pic AND a full-body pic! Then you can avoid this awkward situations. BTW, I didn't know that a US size 8 at 5'6 is chubby. Really?? Even when I was underweight I couldn't squeeze into a size 4. I have hips (bone structure -- thank you, Mom) and I have boobs. I wear anywhere from 4-8, depending on the designer. I had no idea I was chubby!
Kamille Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 I think the whole conversation about size goes to show that we all have different perceptions of what is big and what isn't. And that we are all attracted to different body types. Unless your size is a hurdle in your dating life, why stress about it? In the same vein, KMT, just because you aren't attracted to the girl doesn't mean she's got no game. You aren't attracted to her and that is that. If ever she resurfaces, tell her you don't think she's your type. Simple.
lovestruck818 Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 A U.S. size 8 is not chubby. I am a size 6, and even when I was a size 8 (down from a 10) people were telling me how I was too thin. I also did look thin.However a size 8 on a person who is 5'1" might be chubby. I have a friend who is 5'1" and she is a size 4, but she is definitely bigger than I am at a size six. She's not fat, but has a bigger butt and waist than I do. Anyway, size is really a number, I mean you know if you're "big" or "thick" or "skinny" or "slender" from looking at yourself and in the mirror. I agree. I am 5'1" and I used to be a size 8, and I considered myself a bit 'chubby', but a size 8 on someone taller would look a lot different- so to say all people who are a size 8 are 'chubby' is somewhat flawed (and this is not directed @ you, almost...it's for yongying). I agree with your last paragraph as well, Almost. Numbers are numbers, it's all about how you look and feel. I'm a size 0 but I don't think a size 4 is considered "fat" on someone 5'1". Furthermore people carry fat in different places, so your friend may have a bigger waist, but maybe someone else has a bigger butt, or boobs or arms. Yong, everyone is different and you can't tell if someone is fat or thin based on number alone. The only way really is by BMI, but then again if someone is fat and they are happy & confident in themself, more power to them!
ABrokenWing Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 could be old pics too, maybe she has lost some weight and looks difft now? no harm in meeting up with someone, worst case, you aren't attracted to her sexually but maybe found someone to talk with and do some stuff with....
Author Green Posted August 23, 2008 Author Posted August 23, 2008 could be old pics too, maybe she has lost some weight and looks difft now? no harm in meeting up with someone, worst case, you aren't attracted to her sexually but maybe found someone to talk with and do some stuff with.... If they are old pics she is probably fatter! but I think some of them were dated pretty recently, I don't even care
ABrokenWing Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 If they are old pics she is probably fatter! but I think some of them were dated pretty recently, I don't even care I sopose she could be heavier, but lots of ppl who are heavy do loose weight also. If you don't want anything to do with her, as others have said, just ignore her. But you could be missing out on getting to know a cool person and a potential friend.
Author Green Posted August 23, 2008 Author Posted August 23, 2008 I sopose she could be heavier, but lots of ppl who are heavy do loose weight also. If you don't want anything to do with her, as others have said, just ignore her. But you could be missing out on getting to know a cool person and a potential friend. I like my friends to be hott, and oh no she sent me another long msg. it was just friendly and nothing to do with us going out or meeting up so I just briefly responded as to not be an ahole.
Jake Barnes Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 KMT you're very shallow for letting physical unattractiveness get in the way of dating somebody. Only women are allowed to do that since their grandfathers hit their grandmothers
Jilly Bean Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 LOL good one. Yeah just be nice and slowly drift away. When I sleep with a fatty I usually go out with her again and have a nice chatty evening, rather than just disappearing. Just drift away..... OMG! Souplantation is back!!!! Oh, Cad - PLEASE post something about your recent dating adventures. The boards have been terribly tedious, and I have been jonesing for some drama of the magnitude only you can muster. Souplantation! Hot damn!
almost famous Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 OK at least you don't have to deal with rejecting this person in person. You can just either blow her off, pull the "I'm getting back with my ex" line, or nicely tell her you only see her in a friends' light or too busy for dating right now, etc. insert any line into email. Right now I am dealing with a live guy at the gym who is actually in very good shape but I am not interested in any way. Yesterday he approached me because I said I'd go to the coast with him but I was lying through my teeth. So I had to make up a lie in person that I had friends coming in for the weekend. There's only so many times I can put him off. Plus he has my phone number because I stupidly gave it to him one day and I have absolutely no interest in hanging out with him or dating him, no attraction, zip. He's a really nice guy, though! But just think, you don't even have to deal with rejecting her in person, I have to hope and pray I won't run into him every time I go to the gym! Count your blessings!
Author Green Posted August 23, 2008 Author Posted August 23, 2008 OK at least you don't have to deal with rejecting this person in person. You can just either blow her off, pull the "I'm getting back with my ex" line, or nicely tell her you only see her in a friends' light or too busy for dating right now, etc. insert any line into email. Right now I am dealing with a live guy at the gym who is actually in very good shape but I am not interested in any way. Yesterday he approached me because I said I'd go to the coast with him but I was lying through my teeth. So I had to make up a lie in person that I had friends coming in for the weekend. There's only so many times I can put him off. Plus he has my phone number because I stupidly gave it to him one day and I have absolutely no interest in hanging out with him or dating him, no attraction, zip. He's a really nice guy, though! But just think, you don't even have to deal with rejecting her in person, I have to hope and pray I won't run into him every time I go to the gym! Count your blessings! I would have never got into this situation in person... unless of course it was a blind date situation... and then I would kill the person who set us up
KaRo Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 OK at least you don't have to deal with rejecting this person in person. You can just either blow her off, pull the "I'm getting back with my ex" line, or nicely tell her you only see her in a friends' light or too busy for dating right now, etc. insert any line into email. Right now I am dealing with a live guy at the gym who is actually in very good shape but I am not interested in any way. Yesterday he approached me because I said I'd go to the coast with him but I was lying through my teeth. So I had to make up a lie in person that I had friends coming in for the weekend. There's only so many times I can put him off. Plus he has my phone number because I stupidly gave it to him one day and I have absolutely no interest in hanging out with him or dating him, no attraction, zip. He's a really nice guy, though! But just think, you don't even have to deal with rejecting her in person, I have to hope and pray I won't run into him every time I go to the gym! Count your blessings! Hey almost famous, if he is in good shape what makes you not attracted to him. Is it his face? Or just that he is too nice?
lovestruck818 Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 I would have never got into this situation in person... unless of course it was a blind date situation... and then I would kill the person who set us up yes...this is why it's much better to date in person- what you see if what you get- it's so easy these days with the computer- photoshop can do just about anything.
RecordProducer Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 Well, either go out with her; you might like her, you never know or she may become your friend; or tell her that something came up "(I saw a picture of your body" ). Tell her, "If you really want me, you'll lose 25 lbs by next Friday. And then I will choose th prettiest among you and four other girls. Then I'll go out with the winner.The winner will also have to pay for our dinner." Seriously, though, you don't have to go out with her just because you sked her for her number. It's not nice, but... stimulate her to lose a few pounds.
almost famous Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 Hey almost famous, if he is in good shape what makes you not attracted to him. Is it his face? Or just that he is too nice? He's not unattractive, it's his personality, I just don't feel that spark.
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