desperate for my husband to change

[mercedes1191]

Ok so here is the deal. I met my husband about 5 months ago and we got into a relationship pretty quickly. I fell deeply in love with him and I thought he felt the same for me. A month and a half into the relationship I found out that he was still in contact with his Ex and we almost broke up but he severed all ties with her and he said that he didnt want to hurt me and didnt want to be with her and that that relationship had ended. Well I forgave him and about a month later I moved in with him. We decided to get married that month and had a Vegas wedding just the two of us.

 

The problem is is that we have been married now its going to be two months and there are some problems that I cant seem to put to rest.

 

1. he's never said that he loved me. He claims that he is not an emotional person that I should know the answer if he married me, and that I might never hear him say it.

 

2. He is a fit person. he isnt Hot but he is cute and he is skinny. I am not. I am not HUGE but I do have a belly and he is constantly telling me that I should loose weight and that everyone else he has ever dated was skinnier than me and he has also told me that he had to adjust to going out in public with me because he's never been with a heavy girl.

**** I haven't gained weight since I started seeing him I actually lost 10 lbs since then so its not like I got fat after he met me...

 

3. We went out to go get his daughter from his ex's house and dropped me off at a store "to get curtains/to kill two birds with one stone" while he picked her up. Coming back from the visit he wanted me to get out of the car and wait for him at a video store while he dropped her off. I refused because all I was going to do was stay in the car. He got extremely upset that I wouldnt get out and said that if I cant go by what he says that I wont see his daughter anymore.

 

4. He is an Immigrant and I am a US citizen... so this is worrying me that he might only want to be with me for his papers though he always says that its not about that.

 

5. He can have a nasty attitude sometime and can be very sarcastic.

 

Anytime i bring these things to his attention he says im overreacting, that i should just stop giving him problems and keep it to myself, and that if i was so unhappy that I should just leave that he isnt keeping me there...

 

6. when its our day off together he rather watch tv all day and not be with me.

 

BUT

 

I LOVE HIM and he has done some pretty good things for me. He bought me a car, he cooks for me on his days off, if i need money he gives it to me with out me having to ask, he is occasionally romantic, and I know he isnt cheating.

 

All these things affect me and Im at breaking point. I dont know what to do. I know I can leave but Im so afraid to loose him, I love him soo much..

 

I NEED ADVICE

[Enema]

To summarize:

 

1) You got married 2 and a half months into a relationship

2) Your husband doesn't seem to find you physically appealing

3) He is an immigrant looking for papers

4) He won't let you be in the presence of your step-daughters biological mother. Does she even know you exist?

5) He's never said he loves you

 

The writing is on the wall lady.

[tikigods]

you only knew this guy for 2 1/2 months before you married him, maybe in the future you should really get to know someone before you tie the knot. Get out now while you still can!

[Mr. Lucky]

To summarize:

 

1) You got married 2 and a half months into a relationship

2) Your husband doesn't seem to find you physically appealing

3) He is an immigrant looking for papers

4) He won't let you be in the presence of your step-daughters biological mother. Does she even know you exist?

5) He's never said he loves you

 

The writing is on the wall lady.

 

But you're over looking this:

He bought me a car, he cooks for me on his days off, if i need money he gives it to me with out me having to ask, he is occasionally romantic, and I know he isnt cheating.

 

She does have transportation, cash and a hot meal ...

 

Mr. Lucky

[troubadour]

For some reason stories with Vegas weddings are always a bit strange...