seminoles84 Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 Well... I've been reading this forums for about 3 months now. I've been to shy to actually post. But I think it is time that I suck it up. I wanted to thank all of you for always being supportive. Even though the support is for other at times.. I feel like you all are speaking directly to me. Here's the cliff notes of my story: Dated my ex for almost a year and a half. She broke it off because.. well we started arguing over little things. And she was in her final semester of school and had to take 18 hours of classes during the summer so the classes were also accelerated. She's pre-pharmacy so the classes were a bit more involved then the business classes that I took. She told me she couldn't handle all of this and me at the same time. She told me she wouldn't have time for a relationship.. so I got that god awful words "I need a break." I honestly do believe this.. I know how stressful it all can be. Just sucks because I graduated a year before her and stayed for another year and got a crappy job just to survive so we would leave together when she got done. (wanted to move to the same town, the one I'm in right now) Well even though we were on a "break," we hung out all the time. At first I was okay with the separation but deep down inside I felt like she was in love with her ex boyfriend.. the boyfriend before me. (long story here) I became insecure and jealous. Of course like most of us here.. started accusing her of things which she probably didn't do. And we all know what happens after you do the insecure boyfriend character... she started to distance herself from me.. But refused to just kick me to the road.. she had a tight little string on me.. which I accepted like a idiot. I loved this girl to death. I did anything for her.. she loved me and did anything for me too. I don't really need to get into details with examples.. because I know by reading the stories on here that we pretty much all went above and beyond. She never dated a "good guy" before me.. Anyways.. I'm pretty young. 23. I've only had 2 serious relationships. For some reason I get so attached. I normally get over it.. but it takes forever. I just have trust issues. I'm not sure why.. sometimes I believe it has to do with my parents getting a divorce.. my mother is VERY successful for a single mother. I remember her crying and telling me she is so afraid of being alone for the rest of her life... I think I have the same insecurities. She did end up finding someone and got married though! I'm young.. I want to live for the future.. but I find myself only dwelling on the past. I don't understand how some of you are so strong.. it's amazing and it's inspiring. I've been in a relationship for only 1.5 years.. and some of you were married for decade... How am I so weak at times? Well.. I don't know exactly what I want from posting this. Maybe it just helps to write it. I've been trying to do no contact. Last night was the first time I took her name out of my phone... I found out she is most likely staying with the ex before me for a few weeks.. which you can imagine pissed me off so I did the text terrorizing. She wrote me this morning with all these excuses as to why she's been ignoring me and all that blah blah Ok.. sorry.. I'm blabbering I know. Once again, thank you all for being supportive! Oh quick question for the ladies.. If a guy is losing his hair.. is it a major factor in the attractiveness? Life goes on.. right?
daphne Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 Good for you for taking her number out of your phone. Just remember the exchange (first three) so you don't answer it. I think you need a nice shot of no contact to get over her. You're very young, and you have plenty of other opportunities. It would be a waste of time expecting her to come back, since she more than likely won't. Just move forward, and enjoy the present. It'll get better. And as for the hair loss, it depends on teh woman and how crazy she was about you. I had an ex that was losing his and it didn't make a bit of difference at the time. However, he took me for granted so later when I saw him again I told myself I was glad it hadn't worked out since he lost most of it.
CaliGuy Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 Oh quick question for the ladies.. If a guy is losing his hair.. is it a major factor in the attractiveness? Life goes on.. right? Not a lady but shave your head, bro. No one will be the wiser...
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