Author xxxheartbrokenxxx Posted August 25, 2008 Author Posted August 25, 2008 He has answered your questions through his actions! I will attempt to answer your questions as if I were him and had taken a truth serum: I am more concerned about my well-being than yours.Short-term solution. It is easier to say whatever will calm you in the moment than share my true intention.I recognise your pain but have no intention of acknowledging it.If I had told you about the investment property, you would have been very upset. I didn't want to upset you.I didn't groom you! You wanted me! I was satisfying your desires.I wasn't sure about a future but the arrangement as it was suited me.What do you mean to me? You are a woman who wanted me as much or more than I wanted you! I made you happy, probably happier than you have been in your life.Whew! That was an interesting exercise... He probably sees himself as having been a good guy all along. There is nothing "new" about him. You know more about him now than you did before. He never shared his true feelings about the relationship with you. I hope you find the support you need soon. Hey thanks for this I found it really helpful and totally agree with you & Wildsoul that he probably did tell me lies to calm me in the moment & not upset me at the time even if it means I will get more upset later on...cos if I get upset afterwards he aint there with me & does not have to deal with it. He is just so SELFISH.
Illilcit Love Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 Heartbroken... I am so sorry that you are in so much pain right now. But listen up... You need to get this guy out of your life NOW!... he is nothing but POISON!!! Do not allow him to get you down, he is NOT worth it! The "NEW" him is NOT new! This IS him. He is showing you his true colours. You really need to focus on his actions here. For him to just drop you, that really should show you how he feels about you (Not trying to be cruel, I am sure he does care about you in his own twisted way, but not in the way you need or deserve). You need to focus on the NOW, not the past. Don't be upset, be angry at how he has treated you. No one deserves to be treated this way. Instead of thinking about how much you love him, think about how much hurt he has caused you. Someone who truely cares about you would not sit aside and do nothing while you are in so much pain, let alone intice it.
Author xxxheartbrokenxxx Posted August 28, 2008 Author Posted August 28, 2008 Heartbroken... I am so sorry that you are in so much pain right now. But listen up... You need to get this guy out of your life NOW!... he is nothing but POISON!!! Do not allow him to get you down, he is NOT worth it! The "NEW" him is NOT new! This IS him. He is showing you his true colours. You really need to focus on his actions here. For him to just drop you, that really should show you how he feels about you (Not trying to be cruel, I am sure he does care about you in his own twisted way, but not in the way you need or deserve). You need to focus on the NOW, not the past. Don't be upset, be angry at how he has treated you. No one deserves to be treated this way. Instead of thinking about how much you love him, think about how much hurt he has caused you. Someone who truely cares about you would not sit aside and do nothing while you are in so much pain, let alone intice it. Hey thank you for your post & welcome to Loveshack! Yes you are quite right about him, all the others on here have been trying to make me realize he is bad news as well. It is slowly sinking in but hard as I still have deep feelings for him that I wish I could just switch off. This is gonna take me a while to get over because of how strongly I feel about him, that the deep bond we shared that was fake on his part & is now completely gone & how he groomed me to get what he could from me sexually not because he genuinely cared for me. Oh and the way he just abandons me when I'm in emotional agony & tells extreme lies. I wouldn't believe him if he told me tomorrow was Friday! But the people on here have helped me see him for what he is, dont know what I would have done without LS!
wildsoul Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 But the people on here have helped me see him for what he is, dont know what I would have done without LS! Good! But you're forgetting the part about how you're young, beautiful, and worth so much more!
Author xxxheartbrokenxxx Posted August 28, 2008 Author Posted August 28, 2008 Good! But you're forgetting the part about how you're young, beautiful, and worth so much more! Thanks WS!
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