RogueAC Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 I broke up only five days ago so I am definitely in the thick of post break up everything. Five days NC but he has a bunch of my stuff and we have very intertwined social network so I will probably break NC eventually. I don’t really care about the stuff (it can be replaced) but the social network including life long friends and co-workers. I'll deal with that day when it comes. I am coping okay enough but I have found the mornings to be the most difficult so far. I am able get out of bed but find myself crying before I even get in the shower. I get ready for work and go through the next few hours feeling so low and depressed. It is like I wake up to a reality that I am not prepared for. Does anyone have any ideas or suggestions for how to get through the mornings? Anything would help right now.
0hpenelope Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 VAmama's got a thread going on what activities she's immersed herself in. That's the most recent thread, though. I'm pretty sure if you put in a search for activities-oriented threads, you'll get a lot of hits. I think what you're doing is important too. You're grieving. I've found that people who deprive themselves of grieving experiences the grief tenfold, sometime later.
mercedes1191 Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 I hope that each day things get better for you. I am currently contemplating ending my marraige and the only reason why I stay is because I dont want to have that horrible coping to deal with. I wish you all the luck!
LateBloomer Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 8 days since NC, about 5 weeks since breakup. Sundays are the worst for me. I'm probably going to do a yoga class on Sunday mornings. You can try to exercise, jog, or something like that first thing. It would give you something else to do and get you out of the bedroom & house. Remodel your bedroom as much as you can. New sheets helped me a little.
Ingenue Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 In the first few weeks after the break up, I would wake up and work out before I went to work. Exercising put me in a better mood. Add to that a nice hot shower and I wouldn't feel so bad. I hope you start to feel better.
VAmama Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 In the mornings, I turn on the radio. It gives me something to focus on. I must admit, it's hard to get out of bed though, esp. when you're not sleeping well and you know it's just another day you got get through missing the ex.... But yeah, so the radio. Also, I have my son, so I gotta keep it together for him. And then I race to work so I can be around people and force myself to keep it together....
citizen67 Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 Mornings are definltly the worst for me as well. I'm usually a very good sleeper, but I have been waking up at the crack of dawn, and the thoughts about him seem uncontrollable. Sometimes I can do a type of breathing meditation that clears the mind, i.e., focus only on the in and out of the breath, and I'll fall back to sleep - other times I just have to get out of bed and do stuff, check emails, straighten up my house, water the plants. I also agree with the poster who said that sometimes you just have to let yourself grieve - but I hate having puffy eyes all day from crying!
0hpenelope Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 I also agree with the poster who said that sometimes you just have to let yourself grieve - but I hate having puffy eyes all day from crying! Concealer and a good foundation is our best friend. I'm not making light of this, I'm sorry. I hope you know that. I even recommend it to my sensitive-type guy friends who cry when things get too much. I've wondered about what possesses them when they say yes. Perhaps it's the desperation to mask what they're going through when they see the ex the next day in passing or something. To not give the ex the upperhand anymore than the ex already has. And we all know we can relate to that... (hugs to everyone)
sultry33 Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 i remember the feeling well.. still get it sometimes but what helped me was running downstairs.. coffee, cleaning.. watching telly.. online work or chatting online putting make-up on even though i cried most of it away.. its like having the flu you know where you just want to stay in bed.. but you have to push yourself.. i hope you feel better soon.. its better to grieve now than keep it in as it will make you stronger.. get busy doing new things:love:
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