CHANTRESS Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 If they just stop talking to you...or if they request it? I know for ME I hate being ignored without knowing why.So I have to go with the latter.....
MichiganMan222 Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 I hate when they just stop talking. At least if they request it, I think there is the possibility that its as difficult for them and me to maintain it.
Melrapuo Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 From experience, I've noticed that people who request to stop talking end up having some form of conversation eventually (or response). The silence can make people go nuts though, but strengthens the NC. It's weird.
Ingenue Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 I would prefer to be notified of the NC situation instead of just pure silence. At least that way you know the mindset and preferences of your ex. NC is unpleasant enough as it is, why make it more so? When I went NC with my ex, I opted to let him know I was taking time for myself. The thought of just ignoring him and his emails (I had already ignored 2 emails from him) without explanation made me uneasy because I would never want to be in that situation. For me, it didn't matter that I was the dumpee and felt that he had treated me horribly during the break up. I wasn't accountable for his actions, only my own. I know that I would never want to put any human being through unnecessary pain
journey1 Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 For me its the not knowing if its because he is taking the time to figure stuff out or is it because he is inlove with another girl and has been the whole time and they are just having sooooo much fun while I go insane????????????????????
sultry33 Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 i initated nc and it hurt to not communicate in any way with him.. i found myself looking at profiles to check he was ok and living.. felt bad for doing it espically as most nights he was online at same time as me:eek: was like a secret stalker.. i just needed time out to get sane really.. we are communicating now but yeah even though we both knew we was going nc still hurt
foxh1234 Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 My ex said that she didn't want to talk for awhile and then pretty much stalked me, lol. We are doing NC now I guess, I'm good with it.
sid3 Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 Definitely the disappearing act. The power of silence is often overlooked. Regardless who intitiates it, n/c certainly tests one's will power. This time around, I'm actually the one who just walked away. Although it was a difficult choice, I felt it is what I needed to do. At some point one has to put their emotional needs first. It's not any easier being on this side of it. I put up with disrespecting behavior, and stupid games. Although it doesn't feel like it yet, I am trying to move on. Funny how we can all be treated poorly by an ex, yet we still worry about how they are feeling due to our actions.
coffeemaker Posted August 23, 2008 Posted August 23, 2008 I absolutely hate not being informed of the NC. Just let me know and I'll respect your wishes. I tell the other person I need NC to put my emotional well-being first and hence move-on and that they should forget about friendship as well. Once I'm over it I don't usually care enough to build a friendship (unless we were of course friends first - a rarity for me).
Mending1985 Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 It hurts to be informed of the NC, but yeah would definitely prefer that to them just not talking to me anymore, only because I panic and think people have had terrible accidents etc
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