LateBloomer Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 I know there are other sites that give a bunch of suggestions about how to recover from a breakup. Many of them suggest making a list of things you didn't like about your ex. I find that to be helpful too. But I've found another subtle different technique. Write down all the reasons you CANNOT be friends, potentially ever. I find it explores the pain of the breakup and in some strange way holds the other person accountable, and you to if you dig deep. It's similar to the "things I didn't like" list, but oddly, I keep reading mine when I start to miss my ex and it seems to help. In my case, the potentially ever part comes from her never really acknowledging her role in effing things up and never REALLY apologizing for the incredible pain she's put me through (cutting and running + taking two weeks to "think" during which I went through the depths of hell as I waited). There's more, but I'm not gonna get into specifics. Just wanted to share this modded technique.
FadedSign Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 I think that is a good idea, just read in another thread that men have a tendency to idolize women after breakup lost and I think there's some truth to that. So remembering the reasons why she's NOT right for you helps to get over her faster.
motive2002 Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 The pedestal. Dang I wish my old thread hadn't been lost... er old threads I should say.
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