I don't think she cares.

[neo20fl]

Hello everone,

 

This is my first time in this forum and I am here because I would like a woman's opinion on the matter and I appreciate whoever takes the time to respond to me, Thank you.

I have been dating this girl for almost a year however we are in a long distance relationship. She is in her last year of university in Ecuador and I work in Florida (We met when I lived in Ecuador). My family lives here in Miami and I work here, she is finishing her last year of university. Her family lives in Europe. She was going to come look for work in Florida after graduating and pursue her masters here however she has now decided she wants to go to Australia to get her masters there because her university has a special plan that would allow her to do her masters in one year. She is asking me to move with her there but I feel she is either not too serious about our relationship or being a little unfair asking me to move away from my family, job, friends and I also own a house here just to save one year on her masters.

 

Could I please have your opinion on the matter?

 

Thank you,

[TMichaels]

I don't think she cares...She is asking me to move with her there but I feel she is either not too serious about our relationship or being a little unfair asking me to move away from my family, job, friends and I also own a house here just to save one year on her masters.

 

I guess I'm wondering why *you* equate you having to leave your friends, family, job, house as *her* not being serious about your relationship.

 

Sounds like your g/f feels just the opposite.

 

She's found a way to cut the amount of time required to complete her education by studying in Australia AND she's asking you to join her there so that the two of you can be together after her undergrad degree is finished which is exactly the timeline you two first dicussed.

 

So, how does that translate into "she doesn't care?"

 

Having said all that, I can understand your reluctance to pick up sticks and move half-way around the world for a year. So, why not try to compromise?

 

What will your g/f be doing next summer after she completes her bachelor's degree? Any chance she can come visit and stay with you for a few weeks or months before she departs for Australia? Any chance you can visit her in Australia once or twice during the school year?

 

That way, she can get her studies out of the way, you don't have to abandon your own life, you can continue to nurture your relationship, enjoy a new experience as a couple, and afterward you both will be ready to start a new life together in record time.

 

Sounds like a win-win to me...

 

Best,

TMichaels

[D-Lish]

Hello everone,

 

This is my first time in this forum and I am here because I would like a woman's opinion on the matter and I appreciate whoever takes the time to respond to me, Thank you.

I have been dating this girl for almost a year however we are in a long distance relationship. She is in her last year of university in Ecuador and I work in Florida (We met when I lived in Ecuador). My family lives here in Miami and I work here, she is finishing her last year of university. Her family lives in Europe. She was going to come look for work in Florida after graduating and pursue her masters here however she has now decided she wants to go to Australia to get her masters there because her university has a special plan that would allow her to do her masters in one year. She is asking me to move with her there but I feel she is either not too serious about our relationship or being a little unfair asking me to move away from my family, job, friends and I also own a house here just to save one year on her masters.

 

Could I please have your opinion on the matter?

 

Thank you,

 

I think it's less about her motivations and more about your trepidation to further invest in this relationship.

 

Someone who isn't serious about you wuldn't ask you to move so far away.

 

The fact that you view the request as insincere and even "unfair" tell me that you are the one with who is questioning what you want from the relationship. If that's the case- definetely don't move.

 

What gives you the impression she is not invested in the relationship?

[Kindle]

its a year.....if you cant give her that i would question your commitment...

[dazed.1]

Saving 1 year on a masters is a huge deal imo. I don't think she is being selfish and I think she cares abou the R because she is including you in her plans. Maybe YOU are being a little selfish expecting her to move to Miami and do a 2 year masters when you know she can accelerate that in austrailia? (just another way you could look at it ).

[BUENG1]

Hello everone,

 

This is my first time in this forum and I am here because I would like a woman's opinion on the matter and I appreciate whoever takes the time to respond to me, Thank you.

I have been dating this girl for almost a year however we are in a long distance relationship. She is in her last year of university in Ecuador and I work in Florida (We met when I lived in Ecuador). My family lives here in Miami and I work here, she is finishing her last year of university. Her family lives in Europe. She was going to come look for work in Florida after graduating and pursue her masters here however she has now decided she wants to go to Australia to get her masters there because her university has a special plan that would allow her to do her masters in one year. She is asking me to move with her there but I feel she is either not too serious about our relationship or being a little unfair asking me to move away from my family, job, friends and I also own a house here just to save one year on her masters.

 

Could I please have your opinion on the matter?

 

Thank you,

 

Will you have your job when you come back from Australia(if you go), or will it be hard to find a similiar job with similiar salary. Will it be hard to find work in Australia, for that year. Can you rent out your house for a year so you dont have to pay for two places? If you have your job when you come back or you can easily find another one, and your living situation works out I don't think its that unfair for her to ask you to move(for a year). If thats not the case then yea I'd say its unfair. On another note I wouldn't consider this move(unless you want to take a year vacation to Australia and it won't disrupt your life at all) unless I was married, engaged or felt very strongly that the relationship was permanent or headed for marriage.