HiItsMe Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 ....why favoring certain body parts is looked down upon more so than others. My previous thread about artificial breasts inspired this one. From what I gathered from life experiences through dating and such, expressing how you like Breasts is typically looked down upon as the WORST body part to have a "thing" for...don't ask me why, it just IS. And there's no real way to say it without it sounding rude. I mean, if you say, "Hey, nice juggs!" I can understand...but even if you say it calmly The butt, probably a close 2nd, but not as bad. Legs....actually it could be complimentary. NOW....get this....anything ABOVE the neck....the woman LOVES you to compliment her on. This is in regards to women you just met or you hardly know. You could compliment a woman you just met after talking with her for a few mins on her eyes, and she doesn't mind or actually likes it. Any body part BELOW the neck.....you're skatin' on thin ice. Or fly ing without a parachute. lol Eyes: #1 body part you can compliment a strange woman and not get slapped or even actually get a smile out of Breasts: Dead last...heck even if you know them somewhat well, you still not thought of highly. And, unfortunately, I am a breast man. Now there ARE some cool open minded women that don't fret about it. But, my theory as to why is....I guess if it's a body part that involves anything sexual and physical, it's not given much accolades. But the face, I guess it's because it's more sincere? I'm just curious, that's all. What I get a kick out of...when some women on MySpace, post an obvious picture exposing their cleavage , even bent over TOWARDS the camera, squeezing her boobs together with her upper arms and smiling. Guys, I swear, mostly put, ONE of 2 things OR both...."Wow you have a really nice smile!" Of course, you'll get a guy kind of goofin' on the woman by saying, "Wow what big..........pretty brown eyes you have!" I remember one woman on a personal ad site, that was kind of *itchy....she had such a picture, and Istarte dan IM session with her, and she says to me, "Hm, that's a good sign, you said NOTHIGN about my breasts in that photo" And I was like "Um..okay, I guess I passed some sort of test?" (Guess we're derailing this thread just slightly) But....that's kind of rude to be testing guys like that. I mean, if a woman does put her "Breasts" out there like that....you might be warranting certain sexual responses from the men. right?
stoopid_guy Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 Why not compliment her sense of humor? or shoes? or outfit? or smile? Physically, stick to things non-sexual and that she takes pride in. Hair, eyes, smile, fingernail/toenail polish... Personally, I prefer sincerely complimenting what she does or chooses over what she looks like. Her hairstyle is her choice. Her outfit is her choice. Even her tan may be by choice. Also encourage behavior, like "There's that smile I've been waiting for!" or "Your eyes really light up when you smile." Even once you know her well, I still prefer complimenting her actions. "I love the way you XXX," or "You feel so great in my arms," or "That kiss made me dizzy."
Star Gazer Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 Why not compliment her sense of humor? or shoes? or outfit? or smile? Physically, stick to things non-sexual and that she takes pride in. Hair, eyes, smile, fingernail/toenail polish... Personally, I prefer sincerely complimenting what she does or chooses over what she looks like. Her hairstyle is her choice. Her outfit is her choice. Even her tan may be by choice. Also encourage behavior, like "There's that smile I've been waiting for!" or "Your eyes really light up when you smile." Even once you know her well, I still prefer complimenting her actions. "I love the way you XXX," or "You feel so great in my arms," or "That kiss made me dizzy." :love:
Carmen87 Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 A man who likes and compliments my hair will get more points than a guy who says "You have nice jugs."
AriaIncognito Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 I'd agree that when you hardly know someone or are in the beginning stages of dating you should keep to the non-sexual zones. However, once you're dating, I personally have no issues with other things being commented on. Also even close friends, I have no issues with them commenting on things either. I think it's all in how close you are to someone, at least it is in my case. There's nothing wrong with those other body parts being admired, it's just best left to the unknown until you're on the level where you can admit things like that and not get slapped :-)
katherinev87 Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 A man who likes and compliments my hair will get more points than a guy who says "You have nice jugs." Maybe this is just me....but when a guy compliments my hair, I don't take it too seriously...meaning, I often don't believe that he legitimately likes (or dislikes) my hair. As little as I care about my hair...I believe men care about it even less...so yes, perhaps it's something nice to hear....but I definitely don't dole out points for receiving a compliment on something that the majority of men are impartial about. I think particularly because it's so generalized....a guy saying 'wow, i just want to get my hands in your hair and mess with it' would register more as a compliment with me than him just saying 'I like your hair'...simply because it's tactile...it tells me that he wants to touch me, he wants to know how my hair feels, not just see the way it looks when it's perfectly done. Of course.....all that is assuming that you know the guy a bit..not just some random dude you just met. And another note... Guys who randomly come up and pay me a sexually oriented compliment (ie. nice jugs) aren't exactly worth my time. However, in a situation where there is mutual ('mutual' being the key word) sexual innuendo, playful/sexual flirting, or in an intimate setting, a well worded (meaning not boorish and immature) comment/compliment about a body part is fine by me...in fact, it's an appreciated ego boost.
You'reasian Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 I'm more of a big picture guy. If she has one particular asset that is outstanding, its nice but I take the whole woman into consideration. Like nice eyes that mix well with her face, beautiful hair, a figure that looks like she takes care of herself, doesn't have to be perfect - just right for me.
reservoirdog1 Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 In my experience, you absolutely cannot go wrong by complimenting a girl's shoulders. By doing so, you're not being overtly sexual, and you're not being cliched and telling her she has a pretty face.
norajane Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 From what I gathered from life experiences through dating and such... This is in regards to women you just met or you hardly know.Yes, it's rude to remark on women's breasts or ass after you've just met them, even for a compliment, because it's a sexual remark. You actually needed to LEARN this from your dating experience???
Author HiItsMe Posted August 20, 2008 Author Posted August 20, 2008 Yes, it's rude to remark on women's breasts or ass after you've just met them, even for a compliment, because it's a sexual remark. You actually needed to LEARN this from your dating experience??? I'm no stranger to sarcasm, norajane. lol
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