HiItsMe Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 Okay, 2 Part question here: 1. This girl I'm seeing or "starting to talk to", I'm thinking she has had breast work done. She's athletic, age 45, and to be honest, has a great set on her. Thing is, I think she had them put in (not natural) I think they're a DD. They look quite large. ( I like that, lol) Usually you can tell fake boobs because there's no "jiggle" factor. They are more or less fixed. I've a woman with fake boobs jumping down on a trampling, and they don't bounce anywhere. lol MY question is this.....if a man starts seeing a woman, when it okay to ask her about wether or not she had work done. When it okay to ask..."So....your boobs real?" lol (Thinking of a Seinfeld episode here). (Note: It's NOT a dealbreaker if you think that's what I'm asking. LOL) 2. I had a friend tell me that he stays leary of women with fake boobs, because they are very materialistic people, or can at least be judged as such. His theory is if she does stuff like that to change herself in appearance, chances are she's materialistic or high maint. in other aspects of her life. Could it mean she's high maint?
Elyssa Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 Making that assumption about a woman is completely asinine and your friend is possibly missing out on some great women because of it. Even if she did have surgery done to her breasts, all it proves is that she wanted to improve an aspect of her and she could afford it. This could mean that she had very small breasts to begin with and she was unhappy with the size, or a deformity, or even breast cancer. Having the surgery done likely increased her self-esteem and made her more confident and attractive. How could this possibly be a bad thing? -E
The Collector Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 You are not really allowed to talk about breasts until you have been allowed to touch them. Then, if you still can't tell, joke that 'these must have been expensive.' and see how she reacts.
flc Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 You are not really allowed to talk about breasts until you have been allowed to touch them. Then, if you still can't tell, joke that 'these must have been expensive.' and see how she reacts. Agreed, once you get your hands on them you should be able to tell and if she wants you to know she will mention it. The comment about materialism is nonsense the women I have met with implants do so because it makes them feel better about their body or because after breast feeding multiple kids they want them to look the same as before.
CommitmentPhobe Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 Jesus dude just get your face between them, you think too much.
Author HiItsMe Posted August 20, 2008 Author Posted August 20, 2008 Jesus dude just get your face between them, you think too much. LOL....I got a good laugh. I was reading all the serious responses, then got to yours, and I busted out laughing. :D Oh, so I have to touch them first in order to bring up the subject? Or let her bring it up...sounds fair. Now what if it's a female friend that I've known for a time? (might as well throw that question in there as well.).
Jersey Shortie Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 I agree you should wait until you are more intimate before you ask. But I don't think you should say anything as tacky as "wow, I bet these were expensive..wink wink nudge nudge". As for women that do get breast implants, she could very well be high maintence. Which isn't exactly always a bad thing. Don't men like women that take care of themselves? If a man likes breast implants does that make HIM high maintence? Personally, I am not a fan of breast implants and think there is something sad that women feel the need to have surgery to "enhance" their breasts. And if women get their confidence from their new-found breasts, that kind of sucks in a way. Either way, breast implants neither make her an awful person or a good one, a confident person or an un-confident person, a sexy person or a unsexy person. That is all based on the individual.
Author HiItsMe Posted August 20, 2008 Author Posted August 20, 2008 I agree you should wait until you are more intimate before you ask. But I don't think you should say anything as tacky as "wow, I bet these were expensive..wink wink nudge nudge". As for women that do get breast implants, she could very well be high maintence. Which isn't exactly always a bad thing. Don't men like women that take care of themselves? If a man likes breast implants does that make HIM high maintence? Personally, I am not a fan of breast implants and think there is something sad that women feel the need to have surgery to "enhance" their breasts. And if women get their confidence from their new-found breasts, that kind of sucks in a way. Either way, breast implants neither make her an awful person or a good one, a confident person or an un-confident person, a sexy person or a unsexy person. That is all based on the individual. Oh okay, I was just thinking that....that they watch alot of the media and are influenced by all these women these days getting their breasts done. I personally don't mind wether or not they are real. Don't bother me a bit. They look great to me either way. lol I'm one of the rare few men that are a breast man. lol Go figure.
CandyGirlXO Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 I have breast implants, and I am recently single so I have not had to deal with this YET! I would say that it wouldn't come up in conversation until the relationship became serious and started to become physical. I don't tell many people about my boob-job because I think they might look at me differently. No one at my work knows for example. Only my close friends, EXBF who took care of me after the surgery, and some family members. As far as your friends comment about girls with boob jobs being high materialistic. Not true! I put myself through college, and this was my reward, my present that I bought MYSELF! I am not materialistic or high maintenance, I just always liked the way a boob job looked compared to the real thing. They are a lot more perky and fuller, which I love. So ignore what your friend said.
carhill Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 OP, non-issue. You're projecting based on perceived parts. Not a good start.
Author HiItsMe Posted August 20, 2008 Author Posted August 20, 2008 . Only my close friends, EXBF who took care of me after the surgery, and some family members. And the entire internet ...well...anyone who enters the loveshack forum.
CandyGirlXO Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 LOL right! But no one here knows me, so I don't care. I have often thought kind of the samething, now that I am newly single, when should I bring it up in a new R and how? I know I will open up my own thread when that time comes, but I am sure she is nervous about telling you too. I got them for myself, but sometimes it concerns me that some guys might not like it. But I shouldn't care about that, they are great.
norajane Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 I just always liked the way a boob job looked compared to the real thing. They are a lot more perky and fuller, which I love. I really have no opinion regarding people who get boob jobs, but I agree with Jake that it seems sad that so many people regard women's natural breast shape and size - whatever it is - as less appealing than unnatural ones. If it makes a woman happy to get them redone, hey, whatever, it's her body and she can do whatever she wants. I just wish we appreciated the natural female form more than it seems we do, and that we didn't prefer something that requires surgery to attain.
Art_Critic Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 You don't ask.. if you spend enough time together having sex the subject will come up all on it's own.. When I was single I didn't tell any girl about my penis shortening procedure till they asked so I would never ask a girl about whether or not her breasts are real.. Besides.. I've never seen a set that you couldn't tell.. either the placement of the nipple on the breast.. or which way it points or even just the space between them.. there are also scars either in her armpit or around the areola that are visible to the eye.. some are better than others but they are still visible..
Author HiItsMe Posted August 20, 2008 Author Posted August 20, 2008 But I shouldn't care about that, they are great. Yeah, you can do things with big boobs that you can't do with smaller boobs. (sorry, I know it sounds piggish, but like I said, I'm a boob man, lol!)
carhill Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 Well, they do make blow-ups with realistic silicone implants now Seriously, this is a human being, not a couple tits attached to a non-entity. As I said, not a good start.
CandyGirlXO Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 Well I have scars under my breast…about an inch. I DO NOT have that space in between, because I went under the muscle, so they look more natural. I don’t like that whole gap in the middle. Anyways yeah Art Critic is right, you can tell. It is obvious…. to most women anyways. Men I am not so sure. I am sure you can definitely tell once you touch them. They are a lot firmer. So no need to ask! If she is really fit like you said, most likely she has a boob-job, because most really fit women have small breasts. That’s all breast are, just fat.
climbergirl Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 I got breast work done and when I was dating I would steer the conversation towards cosmetic surgery. That way I could mention my breast job w/o it seeming out of place. You could bring the subject up in casual conversation, voice your opinion, and ask her what her opinion is on the subject. This, diplomatically, is giving her an opening. As far as getting breast work done=materialistic, I agree that this is an unfair generalization. There are a myriad of reasons a woman will choose to get work done. I know quite a few women who got breast jobs and in no way fit that stereotype. Myself-I went from a large B to a double A after 4 children, and am now only 1/2 size bigger than originally.
Star Gazer Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 Making that assumption about a woman is completely asinine and your friend is possibly missing out on some great women because of it. Even if she did have surgery done to her breasts, all it proves is that she wanted to improve an aspect of her and she could afford it. This could mean that she had very small breasts to begin with and she was unhappy with the size, or a deformity, or even breast cancer. Having the surgery done likely increased her self-esteem and made her more confident and attractive. How could this possibly be a bad thing? -E Precisely. I have implants, and they look VERY natural...including the bounce. I'm hardly materialistic as well. As for when to discuss it, only after you've had ample intimate time with her.
45Reverse Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 I have breast implants, and I am recently single so I have not had to deal with this YET! I would say that it wouldn't come up in conversation until the relationship became serious and started to become physical. I don't tell many people about my boob-job because I think they might look at me differently. No one at my work knows for example. Only my close friends, EXBF who took care of me after the surgery, and some family members. As far as your friends comment about girls with boob jobs being high materialistic. Not true! I put myself through college, and this was my reward, my present that I bought MYSELF! I am not materialistic or high maintenance, I just always liked the way a boob job looked compared to the real thing. They are a lot more perky and fuller, which I love. So ignore what your friend said. Got pics? Kidding of course....sorta.
Jilly Bean Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 Hi - how old are you? You post threads multiple times a day, about very basic relationship/dating questions (btw - have you seen the GENERAL RELATIONSHIP section on here? It can be your friend. lol). I thought you were in your late teens based off of your questions, which is why I was surprised to see you dating a 45-year old. FWIW, my tatas are natural 34DD's, and I am super materialistic. The only good time to ask about a woman's "work" is after she invites you to bed.
Green Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 I should teach a course on spotting fake ones because I'm never wrong. Look it really shouldn't be that big of a deal and if you can't figure it out already you will after you play with them
paddington bear Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 Why do you want to know? Why does it matter? Seriously. Apart from the silly materialistic comment your friend made, is it just burning curiosity on your part or would it make any real difference? You like her, she's got big breasts, you like that too. You're obviously fascinated by them and have investigated the matter thoroughly, bounce capability, wind velocity resistance, firmness. Guess you'll just have to get right in their and examine with your hands...just to be absolutely sure.
flc Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 If you like someone things like this should never be a make or break issue. I would never ask someone to get implants and I do not have a problem with them, my current gf has them. Do I prefer natural over implants, probably yes all things being equal natural boobs feel a bit nicer. But generally people don't get the work done if their boobs are Ok to begin with so I would also prefer implants over boobs that sag to their belly button.
OpenBook Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 When it okay to ask..."So....your boobs real?" lol (Thinking of a Seinfeld episode here). Any guy who asks me this question will never find out the truth. Ever.
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