calliegirl Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 2 years ago me and my ex first started dating, things were passionate and heated for 3 months until my roomate told me he was cheating on me with his ex. i broke up with him without thinking it through. Turns out he never cheated on me, my roomate was misinformed. however he did end up getting back with her only to have after a year of dating, her to cheat on him. ever since i regreted my decision and have been trying to get back with him, and finally we are seeing eachother again. 5 months he has been so hot and cold towards me. he comes over everynight just to cuddle and hold me close, but he comes so late. Never really calls me during the day. sometimes we do things in the day but hes very distant, especially when his friends are around. the only time he seems to come out of his shell around me is when he is drunk. this whole 5 months we have been seeing eachother he refuses to become my boyfriend saying hes not ready. and thats oke i just dont see why he holds on to me if he doesnt want to be with me. he knows how much i care for him and i think he sees it as my weakness... i was heartbroken the first go around, and i really dont want this heartbreak again, but i love him. help
Green Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 move on. As george bush once said theres and old saying in tennesse they have it in Texas it says fool me once... shame on you... you fool, you can't get fooled again
CaliGuy Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 move on. As george bush once said theres and old saying in tennesse they have it in Texas it says fool me once... shame on you... you fool, you can't get fooled again LOL, Bush is such a 'tard Yes, I agree. Burn me once, shame on you. Burn me twice, shame on me.
norajane Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 He's been cheated on so now he comes to you for some validation, an ego-boost, some comfort in the cuddling. He holds on to you because you are giving him what he wants - cuddling, comfort and sex. But he does not want to be your bf - you know that already because he told you. He may not be ready for a relationship now, but that does not mean when he finally IS ready that he will want YOU for his gf. He may become 'ready' when he meets someone else that floats his boat. If you are not happy with how things are, then you have to change them. Stop seeing him. He will either come back as your bf or not. Either way, you're better off.
Author calliegirl Posted August 20, 2008 Author Posted August 20, 2008 i deffinatly agree, i really should let him go. and i do. but he always comes back into my life. i try dating other people (you kno to show him that i am wanted by other men) and he always seems to get in between us, beat them up or threaten them. He picks up his pace, he says things to me that make me switch my thinking and im back at square one again. and the fact with how he cuddles me, i have never been held so tight, everything just feels soo right when he is holding me. he does sometimes take me out for dates, like walks by the river, rollerblading, movies sometimes dinner, but they are few and far inbetween. And unfortunatly not much sex, so basically what everyone is saying is they think he is using me for an ego boost, which makes alot of sense, but i know he cares for me, his friend is my best friend and he keeps telling me to not give up. in so torn in all directions i dont know which way is up. and i kno if i break it off AGAIN i will see him again and this will happen all over. im so weak when it comes to him, but after some of this advice on here i have been distant with him and he seems to respond to that. do u guys have anymore advice
HeatherAngel Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 i try dating other people (you kno to show him that i am wanted by other men) and he always seems to get in between us, beat them up or threaten them. He picks up his pace, he says things to me that make me switch my thinking and im back at square one again. ... im so weak when it comes to him Honey, this scares the crap out of me. This is not a mature, healthy relationship. It may feel good when he holds you, but read the above again... do you feel good when he beats people up? Do you feel good seeing other people 'to show him' something? Do you feel good when someone else manipulates your thought processes?? I'm worried for you. You can find the strength inside yourself to be who you want to be, and get the love you want, and deserve.
CaliGuy Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 Yep. He basically doesn't want her, but he doesn't want anyone else to have her while he's messing around with other women. Classic jerk. She'll get past him when she realizes she deserves a real man in her life, not a punk.
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