lovesick1 Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 Well, it is finally about to happen. The day I have dreaded for so long is now only a day away. I will be leaving to go to college tomorrow and my girlfriend and I who have been dating almost 8 months are breaking up. She will be a senior in high school and I will be a freshman in college. I am so very sad and depressed because I don't want to break up with her at all. But she feels that we have to, which I understand. She can't be thinking about college and studying and worrying about me all at the same time. I wish it could work, I wish it didn't have to end because we are so happy with each other all the time. I think if we truly wanted to we could make it work but I don't know if it is really worth it. I'm not going to a party school by any means, that doesn't mean to say I won't have access to parties, but still it is a more academic-oriented school. I am so terrified of leaving her that one last time, goodbyes for us at night always take so long I don't know how I can ever make this one end. I have to do something. I honestly can't forsee how it will be possible for me to leave her forever. I am so scared right now and have no one to talk to since all my friends have already left for college. Even though she has school tomorrow and she probably just got to bed 30 minutes ago I am about to give in and go drive over there to be with her. What should I do??? I don't want to lose her because of college but my dad has told me it can't and won't work and so has my mom but everyone else thinks we could make it work! Is it worth it to make it work? I just can't see myself without her.
0hpenelope Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 Wow, it depends. You guys don't have to break-up. Two friends from Ohio: one went to Missouri, the other went to California. The one in California's my friend; I eventually became friends with her boyfriend. 4 years going strong. Communication, communication... It's hard, but they share something worth the hardships. When they're mad at each other, they allow the other person to be mad; then they let it go. They've gone on breaks before, but never for long. Theirs is one of the exceptions. I've met other friends in college whose relationships did not last. It's up to the couple.
Author lovesick1 Posted August 20, 2008 Author Posted August 20, 2008 how is that relevant? Furman University in Greenville, SC
Green Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 I was curious, this is after all a thread about college causing a break up. I looked up the school on wikipedia sounds good, to bad its so small. Your going to meet alot of girls in college, some times relationships just don't last. You need to be posotive about life, this girl may just be using this as an excuse to break up, you already told her to move on, if you keep clinging to her your only going to bring yourself down.
Author lovesick1 Posted August 20, 2008 Author Posted August 20, 2008 I don't think she is using it as an excuse. She's not like that. She told me last night after talking for a while that maybe we should just try it then later that night we reverted back to breaking up. It has been so flip floppy and I finally put my foot down and said, we are breaking up, this is what you feel is right. But now I really don't want that. I guess I understand it would be best for both of us to break up but in my heart it is just not what I want. I want some way where we can still be together and see each other often. I guess if I really wanted to make this last I could and could visit her every weekend but I doubt I will. I have to have a life of my own.
Green Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 your just a little scared, sounds like she is your first real gf. This isn't the end of the world. does she know where she was planning to go to college, I mean unless you propose to her this was going to end some time. I realise its upsetting but you really do have alot to look foward to.
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